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June 7, 2009

This question is answered by Wael Abdelgawad, Editor of IslamicAnswers.com Marriage Advice (this website), and Zawaj.com Muslim Matrimonial Service.

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QUESTION:

Dear Wael,

I have a problem with my Husband going out with his friends almost every weekend. I am married for 24 years, and never had this problem in the past. We are working on our marriage as last year he cheated on me with a girl 22 years younger than him. He enjoys spending time with his friends & is very forceful where they are regarded. He also doesnt work & brings no income home, but goes to work everyday?

- Sister Shenaaz, England

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WAEL ANSWERS:

Dear Shenaaz, Wa-alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullah,

If you have the means to take care of yourself, or if you have any family who will take you in, then leave this worthless man immediately. Since he does not work, I am guessing you are probably the breadwinner, so you have the ability to support yourself.

If it was just a matter of going out with his friends on the weekends, and assuming they were not drinking or gambling, then I would say it's not a big deal. A man has a right to have friends, just as the woman does.

But this is a man who has already cheated on you. He goes out during the day, supposedly to work, but you stated that he does not actually work. So what is he doing during the day? Surely I don't need to draw you a diagram. He is with another woman. Either that, or he is using drugs, gambling, or something similar.

Get rid of him. He will only continue to break your heart.

And Allah knows best.

If any readers have some additional advice for this questioner, feel free to post your comments below.

(O Allah), Guide us to the straight path; The path of those whom you have favored; Not those with whom you are angry; Nor those who go astray.

Best regards,

- Wael Hesham Abdelgawad, Administrator
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