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Relationship with in-laws after divorce?

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What are the shariah rules pertaining to a woman being able to maintain a relationship with her in-laws after she has been give a talaaq by her husband?

Is it permissible to maintain a relationship with her father-in-law and mother-in-law?

I am anxious about this rule.

Please let me know at soonest.

- nasreen

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  1. Nasreen, As-salamu alaykum,

    There is no problem from an Islamic religious perspective in maintaining a relationship with your in-laws. But I don't know if it's a good idea.

    Maybe you made friends with them and you find them to be kind or wise people, and you enjoy talking to them? In that case, I think if you limit your relationship with them to the occasional phone call that might be best.

    If you do any more than that, for example if you continue visiting them in person, you're going to start running into your ex-husband, and giving him the wrong idea. Maybe that's your intention. Maybe you are looking for an excuse to keep seeing your ex-husband or maintain communication with him. Again, it's not a good idea.

    Also, when you marry someone else one day Insha'Allah, I doubt he would be comfortable with you hanging around at your ex-in-laws house.

    It's probably best to start weaning yourself from them gradually, backing off the relationship bit by bit.

    Wael Editor

  2. You never said if you have children. I assume you don't then. BUT if you do, keeping in touch with your ex in-laws would be good. They are part of your childrens family. So by extention your family still even after divorce. Being in a good way with your childrens grandparents is always a very good thing. It promotes love in a child's life.

    I do however agree with Wael if you do not have children with your ex. In touch by phone okay. If you do see them you may want to make sure it is out of the family home where you would bump into him.

    • Would not maintaining a good relationship with your ex husbands parents be considered as severing the ties of kinship in Islam?

      • There's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with the ex's parents if you choose, but it's not required. "Kin" in Islam refers to blood relations. Ex-in-laws are not family, anymore than the ex himself/herself is family.

        Wael Editor

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