Breaking an oath taken on the Quran, not to meet my boyfriend
True love comes from Allah Alone, rest all is from Shaitaan
my name is reshma, and i love one boy from another religion, means he is not muslim. but he is ready to take islam for me, but the problem is my parents are seriously aganist to my love,,,,,, one day my mother is blackmailed me that if i dont promise in quran, i will go to die. and the promise is i will never meet that another religion boy means my lover. for that situation i done promise on kuran..... but now i meet my boy friend.so i break quran promise for one critical situation.
I'm scared now please help. Am I doing any sin? What should I do?
~ skreshma786
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Sister first of all there is no such thing as gf or bf in Islam. It's forbidden. secondly if he really want to convert just to marry you then it won't work like that. He needs to understand Islam 100% and practice it properly otherwise it will be invalid. But on other hand you said your parents won't accept this then why don't you listen to your parents? If you think that your parents is not wrong on anything I see you should not hurt their feelings. I seen some couples who got married against their parents and couldn't live Happy, because if your patents were right and did nothing wrong(only didn't like your choice) and if they are upset then Allah also get upset.
If your patents find someone better religious same culture then you should go for that. But right now you in haram relation and you should stop and make tawba and ask Allah's forgiveness.
Assalam'alaykum,
YES, you are sinning.
Firstly, you break an oath.
".. (As for) those who take a small price for the covenant of Allah and their own oaths - surely they shall have no portion in the hereafter, and Allah will not speak to them, nor will He look upon them on the Day of Resurrection nor will He purify them, and they shall have a painful chastisement.”
(Surah Ali-‘Imrān 3:77)
" Those with whom you make an agreement, then they break their agreement every time and they do not fear Allah”
(Surah al-Anfāl 8:56)
“and fulfill the promise, surely (every) promise shall be questioned about.”
(Surah al-‘Isrā’ , 17:34)
On the authority of Abdullah ibn ‘Amr (may Allah be pleased with them both) that the Prophet (sas) said:
"Four traits whoever possesses them is a hypocrite and whoever possesses some of them has an element of hypocrisy until he leaves it: the one who when he speaks he lies, when he promises he breaks his promise, when he disputes he transgresses and when he makes an agreement he violates it."
(Muslim and Bukhari)
Therfore, sincerely repent and do any one of the following for expiation,
- Feed 10 poor people.
- Clothe them.
- Free a slave.
- Fast for three days.
" .. Allah will call you to account for your deliberate oaths: for expiation, feed ten indigent persons, on a scale of the average for the food of your families; or clothe them; or give a slave his freedom. If that is beyond your means, fast for three days. That is the expiation for the oaths ye have sworn. But keep to your oaths. Thus doth Allah make clear to you His signs, that ye may be grateful" (Al-Ma'idah5:89).
Secondly, you are disobeying Allah, your families etc by being in a haram relationship. Are you aware that pre-marital relationships are forbidden in Islam ? You breached Allah's law and disobeyed His final messenger. Do you think that your future will be bright if you go on like this ? Take heed. Stop comunicating with him once and for all. He's a non muslim for crying out loud.
"And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appearthereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty.." (An-Noor 24:31)
“The zina of the eyes is the gaze (at that which is unlawful); the zina of the ears is to listen (to talks that excite the carnal desire); the zina of the tongue is to speak (what is evil); the zina of the hand is to touch (the opposite sex which is unlawful to you); the zina of the feet is to walk (towards immorality); the zina of the heart is to desire (what is unlawful), and it is the private parts which either commits or shuns the actual act of fornication.” (Reported by Muslim)
" Do not come near zina, for it is a great sin and evil " (Isra)
Thirdly, right now, your emotions are covering your mind. You are not thinking right and you are ready to disobey Allah once again, infact you are now trying to trick/deceive Allah, astaghfirullah. What trick am I talking about ?- " converting for the sake of marriage ". This is your horror. People convert to Islam by Allah's guidance and they believe in one Allah, the last day, His messengers, His angels and His books. The shahada should be installed in his heart and not appear on the lips. He should be willing to live according to Islamic teachings. If that non muslim man converts for the sake of marriage, you both are in a way, trying to trick Allah. After converting that non muslim man will get back to his unIslamic life style together with his family. After all, " Love is good, but love can be blind ". Love is now a disease in your case.
"They follow nothing but conjecture and what their own souls desire, even though there has already come to them guidance from their Lord" [Najm 53:23]
You know what ? ' converting for the sake of marriage ' is infact not valid. He is still non muslim after all. Therefore you are forbidden to marry him.
"..Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever, even though he allures you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the FIRE. But Allah beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: That they may celebrate His praise." ( Baqarah 2:221)
" Never will the Jews nor the Christians be pleased with you till you follow their religion. Say: "Verily, the Guidance of Allah that is the (only) Guidance. And if you were to follow their (Jews and Christians) desires after what you have received of Knowledge (i.e. the Quran), then you would have against Allah neither any Wali (protector or guardian) nor any helper". (Baqarah 2:120)
Its is recommended that you sever all ties from this non-muslim man. Obey Allah, His messenger and your parents. Your parents have every right to deny that disbeliever. It would be another great sin for you to disobey your parents.
Dont wait for Allah's punishment. You cannot marry anyone without the permission of your wali. Forget that man. You'll have to suffer a potential lost of love. Face the consequences with patience and insha'Allah best would come. Love and obey your family. They are 100 % right.
Dont take shaytan as a friend and be deceived by him.
"O you who have believed, do not follow the footsteps of Satan.And whoever follows the footsteps of Satan - indeed, he enjoins immorality and wrongdoing. (24:21)
" Satan makes them promises, and creates in them false desires; but satan's promises are nothing but deception.They (his dupes) will have their dwelling in Hell, and from it they will find no way of escape. (4:120-121)
Do your duties towards Allah. Make lots of tawbah. Be regular in prayers, become a pious muslimah insha'Allah. Dont sin anymore and be happy and gratefull.
May Allah give you understanding, may He guide you and have mercy on you. Ameen.
Sister Reshma, Assalamualaikum,
Your feeling is not love but a trap of Shaitaan that makes you feel that you love this person. Being a Muslim, you are supposed to guard your modesty. Communicating with this man will lead you nowhee but in the darkness of misguidance.
He says he will accept Islam for you. Read again: FOR YOU and not for Allah. This is Shirk in itself, so his Islam will not avail him anything. If anyone accepts Islam, it should be for Allah's Sake ONLY.
You are a Muslim and you deserve a much better man. This man is calling you to Hell, while Allah Calls you to Forgiveness. He Says in Surah al Baqarah, 221:
وَلَا تَنْكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكَاتِ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنَّ ۚ وَلَأَمَةٌ مُؤْمِنَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ مُشْرِكَةٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَتْكُمْ ۗ وَلَا تُنْكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنُوا ۚ وَلَعَبْدٌ مُؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ مُشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُمْ ۗ أُولَٰئِكَ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى النَّارِ ۖ وَاللَّهُ يَدْعُو إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَالْمَغْفِرَةِ بِإِذْنِهِ ۖ وَيُبَيِّنُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ
And do not marry polytheistic women until they believe. And a believing slave woman is better than a polytheist, even though she might please you. And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe. And a believing slave is better than a polytheist, even though he might please you. Those invite [you] to the Fire, but Allah invites to Paradise and to forgiveness, by His permission. And He makes clear His verses to the people that perhaps they may remember.
This is clear. Abstain from this and avoid making Allah Angry. There is none who can save you from Allah's Judgement. You will have to stand before Him and answer. Think of that situation before you disobey your parents.
You took an oath and you broke it. So do what is easy for you in order to expiate for the sin of breaking the oath.
My sister, there is no good in this man, but there is a lot of bad. So cut all contact with this man and repent to Allah, He Is certainly al Ghaffaar.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Asalamualikum
first of all u should never take oath apart from Allah Subhanatallah. taking oath upon your mom or Quraan is considered as shirk. so u must only take oath by Allah dat also in serious urgent matters not for small reasons
may Allah Subhanatallah bless whole Umaah of Propher Muhanmmad SAW
Ameen