Islamic marriage advice and family advice

I’ve fallen in love

Salaam, I met this guy a year ago and have fallen in love with him. I recently have gotten back into praying and I am trying to better myself as a Muslim. For this reason I am trying to not speak to this guy on text call email or in person but it is really hurting me. I want to marry him and I want to be with him but I know my mum would never agree as I am only 19. His parents would also not agree until he has gotten really good exam grades even then only maybe. But I do not know what to do because everyday I am crying for this reason. I want to marry him so much. What should I do please help me.

yellobanana


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  1. Wa alaykum assalam,
    mash'Allah it's good you stoped the communication with him.
    You didn't mention anything about this guy? His characteristics, is he pious??how about his character? How does he treat his parents and siblings??does he pray?is he kind?understanding?respectful?what do you love about him?
    you should ask a lot of questions before considering him for marriage. If you think he is the right person and if he also wants to marry you, tell him to come to your house with his parents to propose to you. You both could do the nikkah(islamic marriage) and live at your parents house. Once you both finished your studies, you can move together.
    However if he doesn't agree to this but still wants a relationship with you, please do yourself a favor and stop all the communication with him. He is probably not serious and haraam relationship always end bad(most of the time for the girls) as you can read a lot of those stories here on the website!!

  2. If you know that marriage is not possible right now, then you have no choice but to cut things off.

    In a few years, he can ask for your hand in marriage. Until then, you have no choice but to focus on other aspects of your life. Many girls your age experience crushes on boys. You eventually get over it.

  3. OP: Salaam, I met this guy a year ago and have fallen in love with him. I recently have gotten back into praying and I am trying to better myself as a Muslim. For this reason I am trying to not speak to this guy on text call email or in person but it is really hurting me.

    You are implying "becoming better Muslim is hurting you". Is there any other reason you want to stop meeting your lover and stop talking to him?

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