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I had negative Istikhara, my uncle positive, any ideas?

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I  have done istikhara for my marriage and got a negative reply in my dream.

But one of my uncle did it for me and said nothing is wrong.

I don't know what to believe. I don't feel like accepting.  What to do..??

- shazna

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  1. Shazna, my question is, who is going to marry the man? You or your uncle?

    Yes, I'm being sarcastic, but I am just trying to point out that it's your life. You are the one who would marry this man, live with him, have children with him... If you do not feel right about it then DO NOT PROCEED. Never mind about your uncle's istikhara.

    I also want to point out that - and I feel like a broken record in saying this as I have said it so many times - istikhara is not necessarily about getting a dream, or dream interpretation. Please check the links at the top of our website and read some of the articles about Istikhara to understand better how it works.

    The point of Istikhara is that we ask Allah to decree for us the outcome that is good for us, and to remove us from what would be harmful, then we trust Allah to do so. We trust that Allah has heard our dua', and that He will protect us from harm, and will determine a good fate for us, whatever that may be. That's all, that is the principle of Istikhara. There is nothing mentioned in the Sunnah about dreams, or colors in dreams, or birth dates and names, or an inclination of the heart. Only that you pray, then you proceed, trusting Allah.

    May Allah guide you to the best action in your case.

    Wael Editor

  2. and i need your help in i am single and age of 37 and need your help in finding the perfect marriage for my uncle to marry with me so i need your help in getting advice that can i marry to my uncle as soon as possible

    • If by 'uncle' you mean actually your uncle, that is your fathers brother or your mothers brother, then you must know that such a marriage is not permissible in Islam; it is incestous and therefore invalid. Frankly it is bizarre and completely unnatural that you should be attracted to your uncle and want to marry him. I really hope that by uncle you mean some other relative or maybe even an older family friend, but given what we read here I honestly can't tell.

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