Recently separated and pregnant
Asalaam
I have this problem with my husband
We've been married for 2 years and have a 2 year old son.
We were seperated few weeks ago but now I have found out that I am pregnant.
My husband says to get abortion but I know abortions are haraam in Islam
What should I do???
My husband says that he is not ready for another child as we are not OK.
- saman0908
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hi sister, its so sad to leave u r husband having one kid at the moment.... u have not mentioned what the causes to leave u r husband???? if in case would u like to tell we can give a correct solution to u r problem... more over u r pregant now its good to deal with u r hubby once again...
Dear Sister, As-salamu alaykum,
Do not get an abortion. The life of a child is sacred in Islam and abortion is a great sin.
You have not said what the problems are with your marriage or why you are separated. Without knowing more, I would say try to repair the relationship with your husband. Let him know you plan to have the baby. See a marriage counselor together. Try to rebuild your family.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
As salamu alaykum saman,
Congratulations for your new pregancy, you have received the blessing of a new child, Alhamdulillah, only Allah(swt) has the power to give life.
He/she is alive from the moment of conception, you feel the life inside of yourself, ... it is normal your husband is scared right now, be sweet and loving to him, you got pregnant when you married, and this is tough situation for newly weds, and it is normal you had problems, it takes a while to adapt to marriage, and to marriage and pregnancy at the same time, sounds tough, you can go through this together, if you see he is a strong man, tell him, talk to him about all the good qualities you see in him, ....I believe you love him and that´s why you are pregnant again, you have a family already and there are problems in all the families, I am sure you can go through this and save your family, insha´Allah.
May Allah(swt) guide our steps to the Straight Path.
All my Unconditional Respect,
María
Islamic Answers. Editor.
Salam sis
Don't listen to ur husband on aborting the child its haram and great sin. Try and fix up your relationship with ur husband. I seen ppl when they leave there husbands or wives and divorce they tend to love each other more and sometimes get back together but sometimes they face complicated situation where they cant. Explain why you and your husband are not working out. Fighting n etc is common in marriages so i suggest you should not leave him due to your two children. Hopefully the reason of ur separation is not complicated =)
Salaams Sister
You should keep the child and work out the problems in your marriage. Your child is a blessing from ALLAH not a curse. Your husband should have taken the necessary precautions had he not want a child. Hopefully this child would bring you'll together.
Rumaysa
I am in a similar situation i want to have an abortion because i only wanted the child in a stable family asi have another child from a previous marriage and she is broken...i also know i cannot emotionally go through this again as my mum just passed away about a month ago i have lived most of my life with depression no real stability and have recently been having seisures....please help i would like to make a decision...
Sister, Assalamualaikum,
You are not allowed to abort your child. You can not kill an innocent. If you need further advise and help to make the decision, login and submit your question separately. In sha Allah we will publish it in turn.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Abortion is not allowed in Islam. You can consider giving the child to one of your relatives to raise for you - an aunt, grandmother, or even cousin. Or, as a last resort, putting the child up for adoption. Also let me point out that depression is temporary. Don't destroy an innocent life because of a temporary state of mind.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalaamualaikam
Sister, if you are having seizures, it is very important that you see a doctor - you may need medical treatment for your own health and that of your unborn child.
Abortion is a very serious matter and should not be considered unless in a life-threatening situation. There are many options available - treatment for your depression, family support, adoption. Please do not kill an unborn child.
Midnightmoon
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