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hi, i am a muslim girl - from afghanistan. i have been married 2.5 years and have a 6 month old baby girl. my husband is shia muslim and i am sunni. i loved my husband so much before we got married and he loved me too. but once we got engaged and then got married, everything changed. he suddenly became family oriented. i became the outsider. no matter how nice i was to his family, it was never good enough. so i kept on trying harder and harder. but it was never good enough for him.

he stopped having any intimate relation with me coz he said that i am not a good person. that made me treat him and his family even better than before. but it was still not good enough. he always found fault with me and everything i did or said,. no matter what i said, it was wrong. no matter what i did, it was wrong. he always thought i could have said it better i could have done it better.

not only that, i found messages from him to girls in his mobile. when i confronted him, he said they were just friends. i also caught him on the internet looking at porn. yet he had nothing to do with me.

i thought having a baby would fix the marriage. so i begged him sooooooooooo much to let me have a baby. i had to beg him to sleep with me so i can fall pregnant. thank god i fell pregnant in the first month i tried. now i have a beautiful baby.

and even though i am married, i am single. my husband doesn't even look at me. he doesn't talk to me. my family wants me to leave him but i am hoping things will get better. but i have been waiting for a long time now. i thought the baby would change him but it hasn't.

i have asked help from his family and they don't want to help. they say you found each other, now deal with it yourselves. i have asked him to come to counselling with me, he won't do that either. i have asked him to let's talk to a religious leader, he won't do that. i have asked him to let's talk to a friend, he won't do that. he calls me devil woman but i don't know what i am doing wrong.

i have prayed to god. i say the 4 Quls all the time and chuf on myself, my baby, my hsuband and our home. nothing is changing. i am embarassed to leave him because of what people will say. my reputation. my family's reputation. i wish he could be the person before we got married. i have no idea what happened. some people tell me maybe somebody did jadoo... i am so lost.... can somebody help me?