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Temporary Marriage

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I had to ask a question regarding temporary marriage.

If both,girl and boy who love each other and want sex even they know there might be some problems in future concerning their marriage but still they want each others company and sex (future marriage impossible to family issues).so they can marry each other for that much time till they are togather and then give talaak to each otherat last? And after that what repent or something they have to pay?

Meer Murtaza

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  1. I would like to know the answer to this as well

  2. This sounds as a temporary mess rather than temopraray marriage . What if the girl expects during that temporary period . Forget the difficulties you both would face from families , what about th difficult situation you two are going to create. Nikah is such a sacred bond and the husband has to protect the wife from outside world. So after your desires and love is fulfilled divorce comes as a resuce ?
    Moreover it might be easier for the boy to move on after divorce , but things can get difficult for the girl depending on your culture.
    This life is not a movie and you live only once . Make your decisions wisely.
    Make sure its the marriage you want because of love not hormones .
    Pray great deal to Allah , pray tahajjud so that Allah might turn the hearts of your families and move about in a proper way . Give each other respect including love and other demands .

  3. as salaamu alaykum sister

    The Muta'ah "marriage" has been banned ever since the conquest of Mecca, and Allaah swt knows best!

  4. No this is not allowed in islam ps this is lust for sex not love and its haram againts islamic wills

  5. I think u are making mockery of Islam by posing this question. Its completely forbidden. There's nothing like secret or temporary marriage in islam. If u wish to fulfill ur desires, then marry thatgirl by approaching her parents n through nikkah.

  6. It doesn't sound like a good idea. You would be creating a bond with her that can't be easily broken. Even after divorce the emotional damage it would cause would be an ordeal to go through....especially for the girl. If there is no intention for this marriage to last then you are only asking for more trouble and pain.

  7. There are multiple issues with this:

    1) The wali, usually her father, has to approve. A good wali will not approve this marriage as it is very disadvantageous to the girl. It's similar to prostitution.

    2) Being intimate bonds two people together. For women there is a physical chemical reaction that occurs and it helps in them falling in love with their husband. This is similar to the chemical reaction that occurs when women breast feed a child. A temporary marriage will make the divorce difficult for the girl, and the guy too, and both will bond less to their future relationship. This will then in turn create difficulties in that relationship and possibly lead to a divorce with children bearing the consequences.

    3) To realistically obtain such a marriage it would be necessary to have it be a secret. Secret marriages are not allowed, you must declare that you're married, the wali must know, you have to ask for permission to marry the girl.

    4) There is vow you take when you marry a girl that you will stay with her through good times and bad. How can you make such a vow when you already plan on leaving her?
    But if you want to replace one wife with another and you have given one of them a great amount [in gifts], do not take [back] from it anything. Would you take it in injustice and manifest sin?
    And how could you take it while you have gone in unto each other and they have taken from you a solemn covenant?

    In terms of payment there is no payment in Islam that I'm aware of for doing this. There's payment if you miss a fast or something like that. But for this you are taking on a really serious risk. The price for zina is very high. By doing a temporary marriage knowing that it doesn't meet multiple criteria of marriage you are risking it being counted as zina. In the afterlife for those whose sin has encircled them the payment that is asked for is for them to be in hell.
    They will be shown each other. The criminal will wish that he could be ransomed from the punishment of that Day by his children
    And his wife and his brother
    And his nearest kindred who shelter him
    And whoever is on earth entirely [so] then it could save him.

    You are better off fighting the girl's family to marry her and going against your own family to get married than you are trying to get a temporary marriage.

  8. If you just want to be intimate and have sex with her why do you even want to marry ?
    You think marrying her just for sex and then leaving her is it some good thing you are going to do if you are really considering ISLAM ?

    Are you thinking that by doing it this way as you mentioned you wouldnt be doing any Gunaah ? Stop Mocking around.

    If someone does like that with your future daughter tomorrow, would you approve it ?

    Good Luck and handle the family issues first.

  9. Guys,
    This is just a lame excuse, that as our family issues won't allow and create problems in future for marriage, so we can have temporary marriage for temporary company and sex.. thought we love each other..

    What kind of problems can occur in future??

    You people are ready to withdraw from the love and feelings you have, but you don't want to withdraw from the temporary sexual desires you have ?? or you can't fight with the temporary oppositions you'll face from families?
    Fight for your right.. You are adult, you are in love with each other.. You have right to live a life together rather than deceiving yourself by having temporary good time and then say good bye to each other for just lame excuses.

    I'm sorry for being judgmental.. But you guys should find solution for the problems you'll find in future rather than sacrificing your love on such family issues. rather than deceiving your self, deceiving your families, and deceiving the future partners.

  10. Temporary marriages you're considering can't be possible without the permission of the "Wali" of the girl.
    If you really love each other, and know well that you can't get married in future. do one of the following:

    1) Fight for your right.. to marry with your choice is your personal right as an adult. Nobody can stop you and force you to marry to some one else..

    2) Better you leave each other.. rather than finding a temporary sexual partner in each other.

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