They keep copying my homework!
Help help please ! I am really annoyed with my school friends as they used to copy my homework or take a snapshot of the homework and send it to themselves via Facebook! I am really depressed, and don't know how to say no to them without hurting them and being rude. I still want them to be my friends. Please add a dua to get rid of this awful situation.
-cuttamasoom
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Lol stay away from such friends!
It's up to u if u let them copy u they will. It's in ur hands. Of course if u dnt take charge then how will things change.
"don't know how to say no to them without hurting them and being rude"
You dont hurt them if you say NO!!!! And its not rude at all,you need to change your way of thinking! Its your right to say no. They are NOT your friends, they just use you!!stay away from them, dont allow them to use you!!! You have the choice to say no but you are the one who choses to give them your homework!!! You seriously need to work on your self confidence sister, do net let people to use you!you need to change! oh and i dont think there is a dua for this as the situation is in your hands and you easily can change it if you really want to. If you do not change your situation dont expect Allah to change it, you need to stand for yourself sister. Otherwise people will always take advantage of you! you have to start respecting yourself first if you want them to respect you 🙂
Assalaamualaikam
People who say they are your friends but take advantage of you aren't worth being friends with. If people are trying to take advantage, tell them no ... If they continue, you have every right to end your friendship with them.
It can be hard at school and university to find a group of friends you can really feel comfortable with, but there are nice people with good character out there. Maybe join a club based on one of your interests, or an Islamic study or social group - you may be more likely to meet people of good character there.
If your friends have always been nice in the past, it might be worth trying to stay friends, so long as they stop copying you. The next time they do it, why not ask them why they're copying your work - are they struggling in that class? If they are struggling, you could direct them to books and courses they might find useful, or even help them yourself with a study-buddy style system. But if they continue to copy your work, ultimately the person disadvantaged by it is themselves - you are learning and developing your skills, but they won't be making anywhere near as much progress as they could if they work harder.
Good luck with your studies, and may Allah bless you with success and good friends.
Midnightmoon
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As-salamu alaykum dear cuttamasoom. More important than having friends is what kind of friends are they? If they are taking advantage of you and pressuring you to do something you don't like, they are not true friends.
Let these kids know clearly that they cannot copy your homework. If they ask, refuse. If they stop befriending you then you don't need them. You can make better friends, kids who are honest and real friends and won't take advantage of you.
If they persist, tell your parents, or the teacher.
Be strong. You can do it.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I have the same problem as you here in college and I HATE it! They keep copying my tutorial work as they say that they don't know how to do it. Of course, you don't know because you don't even try! They don't give a slight care about how I spent hours doing those works.
However, since they're my classmates and housemates, I need to maintain a good relationship with them. I just let them take it even though I'm totally mad inside.
For whatever happen, God knows everything when your teachers and friends don't, just act cool and pray to Allah for calmness in life. He understands that you're trying to keep the good relationship between Muslims. InshaaAllah there are rewards waiting for you in hereafter. 🙂
Anna, you're allowing yourself to be a victim. Learn to say no. Don't let people take advantage of you. When you feel angry inside, that's your heart telling you exactly what you need to do.
Wael
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Then why do my comments constantly keep getting removed without anyone even at least TELLING me why, and yet, worse comments are published and not removed.
It's like the editors of this website will just look at the post, see that it's from me and, without even reading the comment, remove it.
Consider this the LAST ever comment from me on this site.
Aslaamualaykhum.
(I'm taking bets that this comment will be removed as well)
Which comment was removed?