Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Trapped by depression



I'm not sure where to start. I feel depressed. I feel like I have no one to talk to, and I feel down all the time. In front of people I feel okay, but sometimes I feel like I'm going to break down, especially if I'm alone.

I don't know what to do. I'm normally someone who gives advice to people;  people usually come to me for advice. Everyone thinks I'm a strong person and I have been trying to be, but I just feel trapped.  🙁


Tagged as: , , , , ,

6 Responses »

  1. OP: I'm normally someone who gives advice to people

    How old are you? What do you do for fun?
    What advice will you give to some one who is going thru depression exactly the way you are?

  2. Wa 'Alaikis-Salaam Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatuh sister Madiha,

    It seems like there are some issues in your life which are having impact on your depression feelings. It may be helpful to talk about them with a professional Muslim Psychologist or at least discuss them here with your sisters and brothers. Also, please remember that, no matter what you are going through, this life is full of tests and sorrows, and therefore we are all here to endure them patiently with full trust in The Almighty Allah that He is very well aware of everything we are going through, and that He is capable of setting right all our affairs.

    You may also benefit from the following useful du'as from the Sunnah:

    Hazrat Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported:
    “The Prophet, peace be upon him, at times of sorrow and grief used to supplicate, "Laa ilaaha illallahul-’Adhweemul-Haleem, laa ilaaha illallahu, Rabbul-‘arshil-’Adhweem, laa ilaaha illallahu, Rabbus-Samaawaati wa rabbul-ardi, wa rabbul ‘arshil-kareem (There is no god but Allah, the Mighty, the Forbearing, there is no god but Allah, the Lord of the mighty throne, there is no god but Allah, the Lord of the heavens and the earth, and the Lord of the throne of honor)’.”
    (Bukhari and Muslim)


    Hazrat Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that whenever the Prophet, peace be upon him, was faced with a serious difficulty, he would raise his head to the sky and supplicate, “SubhanAllahil-’Adhweem (glory be to Allah, the Mighty).” And when he implored seriously and strongly, he would say “Ya Hayyu, Ya Qayyum (O the Living, the Eternal One).”


    Hazrat Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) said that when the Prophet, peace be upon him, was faced with a serious difficulty, he would always supplicate: “Ya Hayyu, ya Qayyum, bi-rahmatika astagheeth (O the Living, O the Eternal, I seek help in Your grace)".


    Hazrat Anas ibn Maalik (Radhiallaahu Anhu) reports that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) once mentioned to Sayyiduna Faatima (Radhiallaahu Anha) to recite the following supplication morning and evening,,, "Ya Hayyu, ya Qayyumu, bi-rahmatika astagheeth. Aswlih lee sha'nee kullahu, wa laa takilnee ilaa nafsee torfata ‘ayn (O the Living, O the Eternal, I seek help in Your grace. Set right all my affairs, and give me not over to my self even for as little as wink of an eye)".
    ( Bayhaqi)


    Narrated Anas bin Malik (may Allah be pleased with him):
    The Prophet (ﷺ) said to Abu Talha, "Choose one of your boys to serve me." So Abu Talha took me (to serve the Prophet (ﷺ) ) by giving me a ride behind him (on his camel). So I used to serve Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) whenever he stayed somewhere. I used to hear him saying much of, "Allahumma innee a'udhu bika minal-hammi wal-Ḥuzni, wal-'ajizi wal-kasli, wal-bukhli wal-jubni, wa ḍolaEid-dayni wa ghalabatir-Rijaal (O Allah! I seek refuge with You from from anxiety and sorrow, from weakness and laziness, from miserliness and cowardice, from the burden of debts and from being overpowered by men (people))."..."

    May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala ease your difficulties and soothe your heart, Ameen.

  3. If you feel like you cant trust anybody in your life, maybe you can give this a try...

    Also, know that you cannot deal with depression alone. You need to speak to someone either a freind/parent or proffesional.

    if you are in highschool or univesity- there are usually councelors who can talk to you. if not, the above option can help.

    Just try to make lots of dua, read quraan, and have hope that Allah is there for you to help you with this and that you are not alone.

    May Allah make things easy for you my dear.

  4. Please read darood sharif as well as ayay al kursi regularly. Do it for 10 days . Inshallah u will feel much difference in 2 weeks. Then also try to pray regularly . also say Astaghfar regularly, you will feel difference regularly.


    PS: May I request u please remember me in your prayers. Thanks a Million in advance.


  5. Wa'alaykumusalam! Read what sister Samira said.

    Dua will make a big difference. You need to check if you are:
    1. Making prayers properly on time.
    2. You need to check if you are properly following Sunnah of the last Prophet Mohammad (sal lal laho elahe wasallam).
    3. Do you have friends who occasionally pray. (If you have try to keep yourself safe from their company. And first you start praying on time and when they will see you praying they will also start praying on time.)
    4. Remember Allaah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) as much as you can.
    5. Listen lectures (bayaans) of Islamic scholars through audio CDs. Or you can download through authentic Islamic resources on the internet.

    Following the above you will not feel alone insha'Allaah!

    Allaah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) Knows the Best.

Leave a Response