Suicide in Islam
Dealing With Thoughts of Suicide
by Wael Abdelgawad for IslamicAnswers.com
I have been answering questions at IslamicAnswers.com (formerly AskBilqis.com) for over ten years now. I tend to see the same types of questions asked again and again. Some are from women trapped in abusive marriages, others from young people who are in love, or heartbroken, or confused. The questions that disturb me most of all are the ones from (usually young) people considering suicide. It makes me wonder, where does this come from? I find this very frustrating, and I'm angry, not at these young brothers and sisters, but that families and societies are putting our young Muslims today in such difficult positions that they begin to harbor these terrible thoughts of suicide.
Many of our youth today are put in positions where it is almost impossible for them to marry; or they are denied marriage to the one they choose because of superficial circumstances; or they are pressured into marriage against their will; or they are raised with no guidance or teaching, so that they get into sinful lifestyles and are then burdened with sin and guilt and don't know how to purify themselves.
Insha'Allah I will try to impart some important messages and ideas to those of you who may have contemplated suicide, for any reason.
You are unique and you are loved
You, my brother or sister who is experiencing difficulty in your life, try to be strong and remind yourself of all the wonderful things in life. This world is so full of beauty, from the stars in the sky to the taste of a sweet apple in your mouth; from flowers blooming in spring time to the majesty of a lightning storm. There is so much to see, to experience. There is so much mystery. Open your eyes to it. There are miracles all around you.
The world is full of beauty and fresh opportunity
As far as your own existence, know that your life has meaning and purpose. Allah put you here on this earth for a reason. You are a unique person, the only one of your kind in the universe, and as such you are a treasure. Just as Allah created the stars, the oceans, and the majestic trees, He created you. In fact you dwarf them, because you are a creature of complexity and free will.
If it seems that those around you do not value you, it may be only that they do not know how to show it. People who are raised in families that do not express love freely may be uncomfortable showing affection. But that does not mean that they do not love you and care about you deeply.
Know, in any case, that Allah values you and cares about you.
In one of the sayings of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) we are told that, "Allah is more loving and kinder than a mother to her dear child."
In another saying, the Prophet (pbuh) said, “Allah has one hundred parts of mercy, of which He sent down one between the jinn, humankind, the animals and the insects, by means of which they are compassionate and merciful to one another, and by means of which wild animals are kind to their offspring. And Allah has kept back ninety-nine parts of mercy with which to be merciful to His slaves of the Day of Resurrection.” - Saheeh Muslim, al-Tawbah, 6908
Also, please believe that I care about you as well, even without knowing you, as do others who write about these subjects and speak about them, and that is why we do it, because we care.
I would like to talk about why suicide is not the Muslim way; and to suggest a way forward for those who are having these thoughts.
First, consult a professional
Untreated and undiagnosed clinical mental illness is one of the leading causes of suicide. If you are depressed, and are truly suicidal, you should consult a psychiatrist or a primary care physician as soon as possible.
The majority of people who are suicidal are clinically depressed and require medication to function normally, and stabilize themselves. They lack the ability to control these types of thoughts becuase their thinking is distorted. The filter through which they view the world is flawed because of a chemical imbalance.
Prayer and faith may not always be enough for people are clinically depressed. They may feel that they have failed as Muslims, or are unloved by Allah; such thoughts persist and reinforce their depression.
So the first thing you should do is see your doctor and talk about the feelings you are having. Your doctor can refer you to someone who can help you deal with these feelings in an appropriate way. If you are clinically depressed, meaning there is something wrong with your brain chemistry that is causing your depression, there may be a medication that can make a huge difference for you. There's nothing wrong or shameful about this, any more than it would be if it were medication for a heart condition.
Suicide is not the Muslim way
Remember, we are Muslims, we do not kill ourselves! That is not our way. It is a sin and a crime, and it is NOT an answer to life's problems.
Suicide is the way of some disbelievers who have nothing to turn to in this life, and nothing to look forward to in the aakhirah (the hereafter). They are people who have built their lives on foundations of empty consumerism, mounting debt, drugs and alchohol, and other things that have no substance and do not comfort the soul.
We Muslims have the mercy and forgiveness of Allah on the one hand - Allah is always ready to forgive His repenting servants - and we have the awareness of Jannah and Jahannam (Paradise and Hell) on the other hand.
Thoughts of suicide indicate a fundamental lack of understanding among some Muslims about how to solve life problems, and about the nature of their relationships with Allah.
Allah never burdens someone with more than he can bear
Whatever has befallen you, I guarantee that you are strong enough to bear it and come out stronger on the other side. How can I guarantee this? Because Allah says so in the Quran (Surat Al-Baqarah 2:286), in this beautiful verse which is also a wonderful dua' for those who are suffering:
"Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. "Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people." (Umm Muhammad translation)
Allah created you, and He knows your strengths and capabilities. No matter how tough your life circumstances seem, Allah knows that you can handle it, and that there is an important lesson in it for you, or an important test. We human beings are astonishingly resilient and we can tolerate much more than most of us realize.
At times like this, when life seems like a heavy weight driving us down, we do not ask questions like, "Why me?" Or "Why has Allah done this to me?" Or, "Is this a punishment for me?" Or, "Am I cursed?" Those are absolutely the wrong questions.
Why are they the wrong questions? Because they suppose that everyone else is having an easy time, skating through life, and we are the only ones burdened with pain and sadness. Every human being is tested. Every human being suffers. That is the nature of life. Life offers us happiness and pain; joy and suffering; peace and conflict. That is the common experience of every human being since Adam and Hawa, even the Prophets (peace be upon them all), in fact especially the Prophets and the righteous.
Allah says,
"And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient,
Who, when disaster strikes them, say, 'Indeed we belong to Allah , and indeed to Him we will return.'
Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided."
(2:155-157)
In one verse of the Quraan Allah informs humankind,
"And I (Allah) created not the jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me (Alone)." (Surah Adh-Dhariyat Verse 56)
Hardship is a part of life. It can be seen as a test, to see which way we will turn. So the questions we should be asking are:
- How can I respond to this situation in the best way, to show Allah that I recognize all the blessings in my life, and I am patient with my trials?
- How can I turn to Allah at this time, to seek strength and comfort from Him?
- How can I use all the faculties and gifts that Allah has given me to find a solution to this problem, even one that does not seem obvious?
- What do I have in my life that is good, that I can find happiness in, and be grateful for?
- How can I learn from this test, so that I come out of it a wiser and stronger human being and believer?
Suicide is a great sin
Suicide is one of the great sins in Islam. Allah says explicitly in the Quran,
"And do not kill yourselves. Surely, Allah is Most Merciful to you." (Surah An-Nisa Verse 29)
In another verse of the Quaan, Allah says:
"And do not throw yourselves in destruction." (Surah Al-Baqarah Verse 195)
In a hadith, the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) described the people who commit suicide as being in Hell, forced to commit their method of suicide again and again.
Actually, something occurs to me about this. In life, when we make mistakes we have the opportunity to learn from them. In the process we grow spiritually, and we find a better way. Learning from mistakes is a vital part of our earthly experience.
When you commit suicide, you cut this process short. Suicide itself is the greatest mistake, but because it ends your earthly life, there is no opportunity to learn from it, no chance to grow spiritually, no way to do better next time.
I wonder if, by being forced to commit the act of suicide over and over in the hereafter, the soul is given the opportunity to confront what it is doing to itself, to understand it, and to learn from it the way one does in life. I realize that being compelled to repeat the suicidal act is a punishment and a deterrent to the living, but I wonder if it is also an intensified version of the worldly process of repeating mistakes until we learn and change.
That's not an official or religious opinion. Just a thought I had, and Allah knows best.
The time of our life's ending is determined by Allah, and is part of our Qadr. It's not up to us to end it. Doing so would be like saying to Allah, "I refuse this gift of Yours, and I deny Your right of giving and taking life." A person who commits suicide claims for himself one of the rights of Allah, which is the ending of life.
That's why Allah says in a Hadith Qudsi, speaking of the one who commits suicide: “My servant has precipitated My will with regard to himself! Therefore, I am forbidding him entry into heaven.”
Please note however that this applies to someone who is sane and in control of his faculties. Allah may deny him Paradise if he commits suicide.
As for someone who is mentally unstable or insane, Adil Salahi says:
"A person who commits suicide as a result of a mental disorder like depression or some other severe form of anxiety is not in full control of his senses. We cannot say how God will judge such a person, but we trust to God’s justice, because He does not deal unfairly with anyone. We pray for the person concerned, and request God to forgive him. When a man committed suicide during the Prophet’s lifetime, the Prophet was distressed. He did not perform the janazah prayer for the deceased, but he ordered his companions to do it. When they did, they prayed for the man and requested God’s forgiveness for him. This shows that the Prophet did not exclude the possibility of his being forgiven by God."
Life is short enough
Life is short enough already! The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said that he was in this world like a rider who stopped to rest in the shade of a tree, then went on and left it behind.
We are like the flowers that bloom when the spring rain falls, then die. Our lives are that short, that quickly over. How many thousands of generations have passed before us, and where are they now? Do you see any sign of them, except for some old buildings falling down? Thousands of generations, gone like dust.
With life so short, it is precious. It's a chance to please Allah and do good deeds, and earn our spot in Jannah, Insha'Allah. No need to end our own lives and speed our way to the punishment of Hell. It's better to do whatever we have to do in order to change our lives. Even if we have to make drastic changes, isn't it better to live, and see another sunrise, and have hope?
Life is precious and rare
Life is precious and is a trust
Every breath that you take is worth more than a precious gem. Every single moment of life, as your heart pumps and your blood flows, is worth more than all the world and everything in it, because if life is lost then what is the world? No treasury of any King, no vast estate of any Sultan, no great palace of stone and gold, is worth more than one single moment of your life.
Out of all the bounties Allah has bestowed upon human beings, the most precious is the gift of life. This precious gift is given to us in trust. It is not our personal possession or our personal property. We are trustees. Because we are trustees we should utilise each and every moment of our lives in the paths that please Allah.
Tools for changing our lives
In Islam we have many wonderful tools for changing our lives and renewing our commitment to faith. We have Tawbah (repentance) that can be performed anytime; the daily cleansing of Salat; the powerful purification of Ramadan; the good feeling and reward that comes from giving Zakat and Sadaqah (charity) to those who are less fortunate; and the life-changing spiritual renewal of the Hajj.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala does not restrict His interaction with humanity to making rules and punishing sinners. Allah is there at any time to hear our prayers, to offer us forgiveness and guidance, and to help us. When we have problems in life, we must turn to Allah and seek solace. Allah will help us and give us the strength and peace we need.
8-Point Plan for Change
Dear brothers and sisters, I hope you have understood that before anything else, you must put away the idea of suicide. That is not our way as Muslims. There are other ways to deal with your problems. As Muslims we have many resources and solutions to our problems.
I will lay out a specific plan for you to follow in order to refresh your heart and renew your faith:
1. Tawbah
Yes, you have committed sins, just like every single human being on the face of the earth, except for the Prophets and Messengers. But we Muslims have a great gift, which is that we can cleanse ourselves through Tawbah. You must stop committing the sin right away, ask Allah for forgiveness, and resolve firmly not to do it again.
2. Salat and Dua'
Start doing your prayers. If you can't manage it five times a day, do as many as you can. If you don't know how to do the salat, get a religious brother or sister to teach you. Don't worry right now about learning every aspect of Islam. Just focus on salat. Imagine that Allah is in front of you, and ask Him for forgiveness. Remember that the salat is a river in which you bathe five times every day, and it washes away your sins.
Share your burdens with Allah. Ask Him to help you and make your life easier. The Quran says, "Whoever is conscious of Allah, Allah makes for him a way out, and provides for him from a direction he does not expect." Allah can help you solve your problems and find your way to a better life.
See this page on our website: Dua' for anxiety and stress
3. Ramadan
Start getting yourself ready mentally and spiritually for Ramadan. It's never more than 11 months away, and never too early to begin preparing for it. Think of it as an opportunity to cleanse your soul and strengthen your spirit. Make a plan to spend your Ramadan as much as possible around people of strong faith who will support you.
4. Change your self-image
One young lady, who had committed some sins, wrote to me and said about herself, "I'm a wreck, a shame to society, I hate my life..." This kind of thinking is common in people who have suicidal thoughts. To change your life, indeed to save your life, you must change the way you think about yourself. When you tell yourself that you are a mess, a shame, etc, you are creating a destructive self-image that stops you from changing.
Try this: anytime you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, I want you to push the negative thoughts away and instead repeat these self-affirmations (write them down if necessary and carry them with you). I made up these affirmations based on Islamic principles. I have used them in the past for myself, and I have found them to be very effective. You can use these, or you can write similar affirmations of your own according to your needs:
- I am a Muslim. Islam is my faith and my cherished way of life. I choose Islam because it is beautiful and true. (You can also say the shahadah here).
- I am a believer in Allah (a mu'min). Allah is my guide and the One in whom I trust. (At this point you can praise Allah further and ask Him for strength and guidance).
- I am a good and worthwhile person. I have many good qualities, ma-sha-Allah. (At this point, name some of your good qualities).
- I have the power to change my life for the better, with Allah's help.
- I thank Allah for all the blessings in my life. (At this point, name some of the blessings in your life and thank Allah for each one).
Say these affirmations out loud at least once every day, and if you can do them twice a day (once in the morning and once at night) that's even better. Insert your name after you say "I", so for example, if you name is Fatima, you would say, "I, Fatimah, am a Muslim." Same for all the other points. Say them out loud, and mention your name.
Regarding point number three, some people might say, "But I have no good qualities." That's nonsense. Everyone has good qualities. Maybe you're a loyal friend, maybe you're kind to animals, maybe you're a good cook or a good writer. The point is to always find something good to say about yourself.
Regarding point number five, the blessings that you name in your life could be big or small: good health, food to eat, the sunshine on your face, and of course Islam itself is the biggest blessing of all.
Perhaps this sounds like some kind of charm, but it's not. It's a way of changing your self-image by programming your subconscious with the beliefs that you want to have about yourself.
5. Change your friends
This is important. If you've been living a sinful lifestyle, then you have to stop hanging around the friends that you drink with, or do drugs with, or the boyfriend/girlfriend that you committed zina (fornication) with. You must cut off all contact with them. Even if you think that you can be around them but resist what they are doing, the problem is that one thing can lead to another. It will be difficult to change your life if you are still surrounded by people who live a sinful lifestyle.
If you know any brothers and sisters who are religious and supportive, get to know them and spend your time with them as much as possible. Get involved in a Muslim youth group, or volunteer with an Islamic organization, go to the masjid, get yourself a halal hobby to occupy your time and give yourself something to focus on (martial arts or other sports, chess club, computer club, learning a new language, volunteer with a non-profit organization, etc).
6. Counseling
You need to see a counselor or therapist and talk out some of the feelings you are having. This will help you. If you are a student try your student health clinic, they always have a counselor on staff. If you are not a student you can try your public health clinic. If you can find a Muslim counselor, that would be great. A certified Muslim counselor would be ideal, but a non-Muslim would be fine also.
7. Find something that gives you joy
I touched on this earlier. You must find something that gives you joy and pleasure in life, and devote yourself to it. Get out of the house and become part of something. If you don't have a job, then do volunteer work. The writer of one of our sister websites, TeenPerspectives.com, volunteered for years at a local hospital and she found it very rewarding.
Get involved in a sport, or start a blog, take some college classes, or write poetry. There must be something good and halal in life that gives you pleasure. Find that thing and amplify it.
8. Medication if ncessary
I'm hesitant to add this point, because I think people in the West rely far too often on medication as a way to address problems that are actually spiritual in nature. If your depression is something that you've experienced only recently as a result of your life choices, then the previous six points will be enough for you and you do not need any medication.
However, if your depression has been a long-term thing (months or years), and doesn't seem related to your life circumstances, then it's possible that you are clinically depressed and you may benefit from a depression medication. Your counselor or physician should be qualified to assess this and refer you to someone if necessary.
O Allah, we hope for Your mercy, so leave us not to ourselves even for as little as the blink of an eye, and set right all our affairs, there is no God but You!
- a dua of the Prophet (pbuh)
By the time!
Indeed humankind is in loss;
Except for those who have believed and done righteous deeds and advised each other to truth and advised each other to patience.
- Quran, Surat Al-Asr
Also see some of the other questions and answers that have dealt with the subject of suicide:
- Suicidal at 31
- Broken hearted over my breakup from a Muslim boy, thinking of suicide
- I am planning to jump off a bridge
- I will commit suicide if I don't get my love back
- I have sexual problems that affect my marriage plus I can’t cook or clean
- Suicide in Islam: temporary or permanent Hell?
- Getting over lost love
- Parents' disappointment is making me miserable
- I can't let go of my past mistakes
- Divorced while pregnant and now a single Mum in depression
- My boyfriend was forced to marry someone else, I’ve tried suicide twice
- I have lost hope & will consider suicide if things don’t improve
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Thank you so much for writing this entry. I just discovered your website and my heart goes out to the author of this particular entry. I had suicidal thoughts about a month ago and had contacted the samaritans group. I wish I had come upon this website then. It will have surely helped. Though I feel better now, I cannot guarantee how long this good feeling will last. Please keep me in your prayers. All the best.
You are welcome, Farah. I am the author and I am glad that it helped you in some way. I'm sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time. I will indeed mention you in my dua', Insha'Allah.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Maryam, wa alaykum as-salam wa rahmatullah,
You're in a difficult situation and I really feel for you. You want to do right by your grandmother, but you also have your own life to live.
If you can afford it, I think you should hire a home nurse. You will still see and take care of your grandmother, but the home nurse can help and can watch her when you are not home. Your grandmother panics when you are gone because she feels alone and she has no one to care for her. Maybe if she has someone else to keep her company, she can handle your absences.
Maybe when you get married your grandma can live with you and your husband. I know that will be a hardship, and your husband may not like it. Perhaps it will help to remind him that it's a temporary situation. Forgive my bluntness, but your grandma is 87 and will not live forever. So although this situation is difficult right now, be patient with it and fulfill your obligation to her, and ask Allah to give you the strength to manage it.
Don't you have any other relatives who can help as well? Siblings, aunts, uncles? And what about your mom? Why is she not helping more? They need to step up and share more of the burden. This should not fall on you alone.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Nice article, i cried a couple of times while reading it as i feel like suicide and wanted to know the consequences.
The thing is i have mental health problems because when i was younger i abused drugs alot and now i have sever anxiety and mental problems directly as a result. Will my sins still be forgiven and does god feel sorry for me? Because i have struggled alot for a long time now and i have changed my lifestyle , ive done number 5 of you rules a long time ago but im still suffering very badly and feel like ending when i wake up and especaily at night time and sometimes during the day.
Ibo, of course Allah will still forgive your sins, and He still cares about you. Allah loves his servants and He does not want you to be in pain.
You need to start seeing a therapist once or twice a week to talk about your problems. It may not seem to you like talking will help, but believe me it will.
You said you liked my article. Please read it again, and don't even think about hurting yourself. I will mention you in my dua' during these special days of Ramadan.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Ibo - Assalaamalaikum...May this response finds you in good health and well-being...
Please always remember Allah loves you and is very forgiving. Please don't think of hurting yourself or thinking that life is here to make you sad. When you see a sunny day give thanks to Allah that you are always to see the sun, the blue skies, the trees and light!!!! Be happy that you are able to see all of Allah's blessings! Seek a therapist like Brother Wael suggested. Dealing with mental illness is very hard and needs to be dealt by a professional.
Have your health provider check your medications if you are taking any and see if maybe they are causing anxiety, depression, etc.
If you need a friend I'm here for you.
Maryam
I disliked mullas bcoz the first person who taught me the quran used to touch my private parts while i read. This has happend w many uncles/servants. When i wud tell my mother she accused me of lying. I never prayed out of anger. I turned to quran at the age of 27 after the birth of my daughter,now i pray 5 times too.i work in a different state than where my mother lives. she wants to keep my 2yr daughter.since she was brought up by servants she leaves my daughter w the servants unless she feels like playing. She had an affair,i was 14 during which i supported her, but when she wanted her b/f to come home and cry n scream at me to go out n wait in the buildings' stairs. Irony is she prays regularly, but lies and was fired from her job for theft. i fear for my child,but if i refuse she curses me.i knw islam holds mothers' as high position,but i dont knw what to do.
Saleha, Asalaamualaykum,
I am extremely sorry to hear of the way you were treated by the 'mullas'. It is disgusting that these people abuse their position of authority. Alhumdulillah you have risen above this and have turned to Allah. Keep striving this way dear Sister.
I was a little confused as to why your 2 year old daughter lives with your mother? Saleha, after the circumstances you have described, I would advise you to immediately bring your daughter back to live with you and never leave her alone with your mother. You are very right, the mother's position is very high in Islam; but from what you say, your mother is abusing her position and is also emotionally black mailing you. It must be difficult listening to your mother cursing you, but the curses are just 'empty words'; nothing more. Allah can see what is going on here; your mother is wrong, maybe even mentally ill or spritually ill, but YOU need to PROTECT YOUR DAUGTER.
If you live in a different state, it should be somewhat easier, should it not? Normally, a young child lives with her mother, so why is it any different for your daughter? YOU are a MOTHER aswell now; your first responsibility is towards YOUR CHILD. If you do not stand up and take some positive action here, your daughter could end up suffering the same damage and SEXUAL ABUSE that you did, and what will be worse is that you knew the risk.
It would be good for you to seek some counselling to help you deal with the sexual abuse you have suffered and also to help you get out of this psychological control your mother has over you. You are a grown woman and have your own daughter. Do not not let these circumstances spoil your and daughter's future. You did not mention your husband, I hope he is supporting you in all this. Do write again, if you need/want to inshAllah.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
hi
My brother committed suicide few years back. Obviously he was confused and not steady in mind. We're muslims. According to everything & Islam would you say his in hell now?
thnx
Sonya, As-salamu alaykum. I'm very sorry to hear about your brother. May Allah comfort you and your family and protect you from any further evil.
We cannot answer your question. Only Allah knows the judgment of each human being. But I can give you some information about Islamic beliefs.
The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him said), "If anybody comes on the Day of Resurrection who has said: La ilaha illallah (there is no God but Allah), sincerely, with the intention to win Allah's Pleasure, Allah will make the Hell-Fire forbidden for him." (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 8, Book 76, Number 431)
The key word in this hadith is "sincerely". Committing a major sin, such as suicide, violates the sincerity and right of the shahadah. A Muslim who commits such major sins could indeed end up in Hell. That's only for Allah to judge.
But remember that Allah is Merciful, He loves to forgive. If your brother was a good person and had other good deeds, Allah may wipe out his sins and forgive him, and admit him to Paradise. There are many, many levels of Paradise, so someone who was weaker in his faith may end up in the lower levels of Paradise, while someone who was very strong would be in the higher levels. But even the lowest level of Paradise is a place of bliss and joy.
Also keep in mind that Hell is not eternal for Muslims. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) has said that whoever has faith equal even to a mustard seed, would eventually enter Paradise.
Anas reported, "Muhammad (pbuh) talked to us saying, ‘On the Day of Resurrection the people will surge with each other like waves, and then they will come to Adam and say, ‘Please intercede for us with your Lord.’… They would come to me and I would say, ‘I am for that.’ Then I will ask for my Lord's permission, and it will be given, and then He will inspire me to praise Him with such praises as I do not know now. So I will praise Him with those praises and will fall down, prostrate before Him. Then it will be said, ‘O Muhammad, raise your head and speak, for you will be listened to; and ask, for your will be granted (your request); and intercede, for your intercession will be accepted.’ I will say, ‘O Lord, my followers! My followers!’ And then it will be said, ‘Go and take out of Hell (Fire) all those who have faith in their hearts equal to the weight of a barley grain.’
The prophet added, "I then return for a fourth time and praise Him similarly and prostrate before Him. He asks me the same as he did, ‘O Muhammad, raise your head and speak, for you will be listened to; and ask, for you will be granted (your request): and intercede, for your intercession will be accepted.’ I will say, ‘O Lord, allow me to intercede for whoever said, "None has the right to be worshiped except Allah." Then Allah will say, ‘By my Power, and my Majesty, and by My Supremacy, and by My Greatness, I will take out of Hell (Fire) whoever said: 'None has the right to be worshipped except Allah.’" (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 9, Book 93, Number 601)
So these hadith tell us that the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) will intercede for all Muslims, and will not stop doing so until anyone who said, "La ilaha il-Allah" has come out of Hell.
I feel I have to insert a warning, however, and remind people that even one second in Hell is not a small matter. No one should think, "Well, even if I go to Hell I will come out." It is the worst of torments, terrible and fierce. There is a hadith narrated by Anas bin Malik:
The Prophet said, "Some people will come out of the Fire after they have received a touch of the Fire, changing their color, and they will enter Paradise, and the people of Paradise will name them 'Al-Jahannamiyin (the people of Hell)." (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 8, Book 76, Number 564)
I hope all of this information will be some comfort to you. It may be that Allah has forgiven your brother. Only Allah knows. What we know for sure is that Allah is Forgiving and Merciful, and Just.
Wael,
That was a beautifully balanced reply masha'Allah.
SisterZ
A wonderful reply considering the feelings a family will hv for their son who had a bad death.Mashallah.....!!! I appreciate u...may u be blessed by Allah for comforting so many people by getting into their problems. All the very best !!!
As-salamu alaykum. I speak french more. This is my first year in the U.S.A.
In the name of Allah, the most merciful, the most grateful.
I am very happy to shear my story with you and to reveal the great miracle Allah has done for me.
I were fainting for 4 years. Last year was the fourth years of my illness and I have been admit at reading mental hospital for two months. I thought it was a medical problem but the medication didn't help me. It was just increasing my illness by giving me these dangerous problems:
Trouble to:
-see
-Talk
-Eat
-walk
-Fol my fingers and toes
-I start loosing my memory
-My body was moving like the vibration of phone.
Even the Doctors were confused. They never knew what was causing It, they were just guessing. They said that If I stop taking those dangerous medecine I will have a thought of suicide because the dangerous medecine is use to my system but the powerful God did not agree.
when I were at the hospital, I were asking my God to let me stay at the hospital and take those medication If that can help me In this world and the hereafter, that I'm ready to bear everything for him no matter how the medication bother me and my God answers my prayers. I didnt faint for some days, In the same week I leave the hospital.
I have been so sad and suffering as you read. My feelings never went trough until I start praying regularly with conviction, i going at the mosque, they were praying for me there too. I were doing dua'u for myself, waking up at night and pray. Can you Imagine? In only one month everything disappears like a miracle. It was the miracle of Allah. An unexpected miracle god has done for me. A illness of 4 years disappear In only one month when everybody was hopeless. Now look at me today. So please my Dear Brothers and Sisters let all bygones be bygones what Allah has predestined for you shall see It, being sad or depressed will not change nothing and Allah does everything for a good reason which can be good for us In this world or the hereafter so dont be sad. Always hope, believe In Allah, pray like you are having the answer right now until you see the result you are waiting for, because any Doctors, therapists, and no one else can help you. How could a person helps you when he can't solve his own problems? Only Allah can help you, only Allah will always be there for you, will never let you down no matter what happen to your life so dont feel alone. Keep worshiping Allah. ( Islam is the cure ) . This is a big message for you.
Thank you for sharing your story.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Dear Sister,
Alhamdollelah for your health and that God helped you. Thank you so much for sharing your story, and thank you to the author of this article, both things have helped me think about lots of things since I am going through a difficult time. May God reward you for your sincere help to others inshaAllah.
Carla,
May Allah comfort you and give you peace and happiness.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
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I divorced my husband almost two years ago while pregnant with my second child after he divorced me through sms. We fought because his siblings and mother harassed me, and want my ex husband to pay for their expenses while expecting me to financed everything in my little family. And I still feel the pain and sadness until now. I can't think properly, I talk to my self when I thought no one was watching, I have a hard time sleeping at night and yet a hard time staying awake during the day. At work I basically just try to do anything that I'm still able to do. I hate Allah for what happenned to me. I stopped praying altogether because I thought Allah never answered my prayers and did not help me when I begged. I think about killing myself, but I know Allah will put me in hell if I do. I tried to act happy and normal around my two children, and cried at night when I am alone.
I am trying to go back to Allah and I hope Allah forgives me. I know Allah is still taking care of me no matter what I think about Allah. Surprisingly, I can still keep my job, and also have promotions and a few offers from other companies. My two babies are also healthy and happy. However, I'm suffering from flu for almost a year, I think that's how negative thinking can negatively affect your body.
I am trying to stand up and move on. I am trying to go back to Allah. And this great article also helps. I'm really glad I ran into this site. Alhamdulillah.
As-salamu alaykum sister jazebie. I'm glad this website has helped you Alhamdulillah. You must have a good opinion of Allah. Your divorce is a result of whatever happened between you and your husband. It is not a punishment from Allah. It's a part of life.
Sister, how could you ever hate Allah when you are surrounded by His blessings at every moment? I think sometimes we are too spoiled, and I am speaking of myself as well. We have not experienced true hardship and suffering, so when we experience a setback we become bitter and depressed. What about our Muslim brothers and sisters in Palestine who have lost entire families? And yet they go on, keeping their faith in Allah. They rebuild their demolished masjids and struggle to recover. What about the victims of the tsunamis in Indonesia, or the floods in Pakistan, who lost everything? And yet I saw photos of Pakistani men sitting on a small piece of land surrounded by water, and praying to Allah.
I don't mean to minimize what you have experienced. I realize that your sadness is real. But sister, you have the breath in your lungs, the food on your table, a roof over your head, and two beautiful children. Do you have any idea what enormous blessings these are?
There comes a point when you must stop the self-pity. Stand up, look around and see how blessed you are and how many opportunities you have. Realize that Allah is guiding you and loving you at every moment. Turn your face to Him in gratitude.
You might want to read one of my recent articles:
The Transformative Power of a Child's Love
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
As-salamu alaykum sister,
Am so happy for your family and you. You see, I'm wright. (Allah) does everything for a good reason which can be good for us in this world or the hereafter. And he will always be there for us no matter what happen to our life. You still have your job, your children are also healthy no matter the feelings you had for (Allah) before, he didn't let you down. Please don't hate (Allah) anymore (astaghfouralayi).
When you have negative taughts, just think about these:
(Allah) is my one true love, the pure love to our souls so when the times gets hard, there is no way to turn, as he promise he will always be there to bless us with his love, and his mercy because as he promise he will always be there.
He's always watching us, guiding us, and he knows what is in our little hearts.
So when you lose your way, to (Allah) you should turn because as he promised, he will always be there.
You can watch the rest on youtube by writing does a muslim have to be scared of anything?
Dont miss it everyone. Its will help you (Inch Allah).
I hope my message will benefit everyone (Inch Allah).
I thank Allah everyday for giving me the chance to worship him everyday. I will be strong, positive, I will not worry about any aldounya stuff no matter what (Inch Allah), As long as I worship my one and true love ( Allah)
I can do It with the help of Allah and I know that you can.
I really loved the hadith in the other commont.....kinda gave me some hope. You see I have not been so dedicated to my prayers lately because my homework has been keeping me busy, and I keep making excuses for myself.....which was wrong. I am still working on praying on time......I hope I don't go back, because I feel so much better now
Thanks for all your articles, I'm really thankful.
Keep'em comin' !!!!
Amna
Asalaamualaykum Amna,
In the dinasaur days (haha) when I preparing for Uni exams, I made a timetable - called my action plan. I stuck to it like glue (somehow).
I locked myself in one of our extra rooms at home to shut out any noise and took snacks in with me as though I was getting ready for hibernation. I made my notes etc and took my breaks at Salaah times. We all need breaks and reading Salaah has many health benefits too.
It's great you're feeling better after praying Salaah, stick to it inshAllah. It'll help you organise your day!! :O)
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I have a Muslim male friend, he is married I am married but neither of us are in love with our spouse. We are so much in love, we started by been friends and our love started growing now we can't live with out each other.. Our spouses found out about us, now we have to stay away from each other and is so hard not to see each other, we talk on the phone when ever possible but is not the same inside were dieing. Every time I talk to him on the phone he talks about wanting to die and for me to be happy that he will go somewhere far, the he will be in the darkness, I am afraid he hurts him self... What can I do? Please Help.
Thank you for your help in advance.
—Prescilla
Prescilla, you are both committing a serious sin and betraying your spouses. If you are so miserable with your husband then divorce him. Otherwise, cut off contact completely with this lover. This talk of suicide is just to blackmail you emotionally. I doubt very much that he will do it. Someone who cares about you would want you to be happy, rather than trying to control you and manipulate you. If he chooses to hurt himself it is his responsibility. There is nothing you can do about that.
If you want a more detailed response or any further discussion, please log in and write your question as a separate post.
Wael
IslamicAnswers Editor
As-sala mualakum,
May ALLAH (SWT) guide all of us by the truth, and forgive us.
No matter how hard how our life is, let's turn to Allah and put our trust in him alone, because he's the most nearest to all. And most great. None is the supporter other than ALLAH.
(ALLAHU AKBAR).
(ALHAMDU-LILAHI) everyday.
Very beautiful and very nice but still I will commit suicide. Medicines won't help me, neither will du'a
I know Allah have forbidded heavens for people who commit suicide
I am fully ready to go in hell and live their for eternity. I guess that is my life... having lived in so much depression for so long and still going in hell for eternity... wow what a life i have...
Sam, Asalaamualaykum,
If you want to run away from your depression, committing suicide will only take you into eternal depression.
Atleast while you are alive, you still have a chance to make things better, brighter and happier.
Tell us what is causing you to feel so depressed dear brother or sister in Islam. There must be a solution to whatever is bothering you. Let us help you.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I don't study, don't work, don't go out, don't meet with friends (don't want to have friends), i love silence, love loneliness, i love peace, and pure silence, i love simplest things, love and eat simplest food, go (seldom) at simplest places, dont want to watch tv, want to sit in the small room whole day, in the dark room, i don't wish to do anything and feel i should die and my mind should stop fully, i dont have emotions also, many people from my family died but i never cried, and i feel no pain, i have no (so much) bad past, i have no bad present, but i just do not wish to go inside the hustle bustle of the city life and wish to be in pure silence, is it normal? i dont even feel to do sex or to have gf. i have no tension about my future, i just want to be in complete silence, why? what is my problem? i am no poor, i have money to have the best of life, but still my mind is stopped completely, why? i am mentally dead? i feel to do suicide whole day and just cut off from this world, dont want to meet wid a doctor, dont want to breathe, dont want to stand, dont want to walk, i am actually 'dead' but physically alive, i have given deep pain to each and every individual around me, from my parents to my relatives to friends to society to all the circle, i have seen this drug 'nembutal' which can give painless death, will get it soon from somewhere and sleep forever and go to hell and live there forever...
Sam,
You want peace and serenity and you want something to make you feel better and less burdened as you are clearly depressed. So if you can make the effort to purchase and take a drug that will take your life; why not purchase and take a drug that will help to improve your life?
Taking Nembutal will not give you the peace and serenity you are craving for. It will give you all the things you fear and dislike, because that is what hell will be and worse.
Which country to do you live in?
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I deserve hell and i feel hell is my place. i cannot say my location but you can contact me by email
With the name of Allah the beneficient and the merciful,
I have so many blessings from Allah, I always thank Allah for everyting He has bestowed me. Whatever happened in my life I always thank Allah. Regarding this site, it is very helpful and you can learn good things. But i don't believe in sharing one's own difficulty with the world like this because we can't complain of Allah to anyone. There were Sahabies who lived 30 years as a blind, and they said "I have not seen the world in 30 years but thanks to Allah that i have not complained to anyone of this." Another Sahabi said regarding complaint. "Do you complain to a human being of Allah the one who does mercy to those who don't have mercy on you." Meaning we can't complain to anyone about Allah but to Allah himself, and all we have to do is pray to Allah that he makes us 'thankful' than being those who have 'patience'. Still it doesn't mean if calamity falls on us we have to resort to patience, as it is mention "To Him we belong and to Him we return."
So basically this site is helpful in many regards,but, instead of writting comments we should offer atleast two ruku salah and thank Allah for His blessings and ask for His forgiveness. And always seek help from Salah and Dua
Please do pray for me too.
Sam, you need love. love for islam and love from a person. the more you isolate yourself the more you want to be isolated . Trust me ive been through it and im still going through it. i like silence too but i balance it out with other things.i like being on my own too but life goes on and i have other things to do like be there for my family and study. you need someone to talk to and someone who can comfort you.
You can contact me and i will help as much as i can from my own experiences
Mehwish
Sam,
I have already contacted you by email. If you have not received it, it may have gone through to your junk box. So do check that.
I await your reply inshaAllah.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaam Sam,
Sam you are suffering from an illness called depression. It is a legitimate, chemical, biological illness which is causing you to have these feelings. In the same way that an illness can give you a rash, or a temperature - depression is an illness that will give you these thoughts and this feelings.
So first and foremost I ask you to acknowledge that you are suffering from an illness that is causing you to have these thoughts and feelings. Your thoughts and feelings are symptoms of you illness and not the truth or the reality of your life.
Illness have symptoms and they also have remedies. So the next thing I would like for you to acknowledge is that depression has a remedy and a treatment. What this means for you is that you can stop feeling this way if you seek a remedy for your illness.
The next thing I want you to know is that you are not alone. In the UK 1 in every 3 people will suffer from depression at some stage in their lives. Depression is an illness which disables a person's ability to function normally and enjoy things. Depression is experienced as a feeling of extreme fatigue, loneliness, sadness and despair to the extent that the person suffering feels like they cannot sustain the emotional pain any longer and is driven to suicide. When depression is treated, these feelings go away and the person who is suffering recovers from this emotional torture.
Depression can be caused by psychological process (thoughts, and life events) or by chemicals in the brain. It can be caused by over active lymph nodes or under active lymph nodes. It can be diet, or stress. There are many reasons that a person can suffer from depression, and many remedies to treat it.
I would like you to therefore acknowledge that you need to seek treatment - not death, to recover from these thoughts and feelings.
Sam, if you can let me know where you are located (UK, USA?) then we can put you in touch with an organisation that can help you take the first steps that you need to get on the road to recovery. It makes no sense at all to try and cope with these thoughts and feelings by yourself. Depression is a highly studied, common illness that can be treated - so please do not think that the only way out is death. This is not true.
Please keep talking to us, we are here for you and we want you to feel better and we want you to recover from this terrible illness which is a daily torture for you. I understand what you are feeling, and I want you to stick with us so that we can help you to get better.
Peace,
Leyla
Editor, Islamic Answers
I know very well i am in depression, i know 'i am sick moron' but i dont want to treat it or go to doctor bcoz this depression is borned by me alone and that too 'FROM NOTHING', people around me always used to be supportive but me myself was hopeless. I will pray for you and sisterz when i come out of hell and (hopefully) enter heavens...
Sam, I know where you are. But I can't help you if you don't help yourself. That's the key to recovery: you have to want to get there. You have to find some determination in yourself somewhere, and take some action.
I've lost 3 people who are close to me to suicide caused by depression, and have personally known many more people who have followed that road and I cannot express the devastation that it caused to the lives around them.
At a counselling organisation I worked for, we saw 25 suicidal people each week who came to us in desperation - literally on the verge of taking that last step. I have watched them all recover - we did not lose a single one of them.
So Sam, I am not saying "feel better" words - I am speaking to you with absolute conviction, knowledge and experience.
Ultimately, you need to take the responsibility - I can't talk you into it - it's all up to you.
You have a choice to make - and I hope and pray that you make the right one.
Peace,
Leyla
Editor,Islamic Answers
So now you understood me? I DONT HELP MYSELF. I have lost determination, passion, force, happyness from my life. I dont want to help myself. My problem cannot be treated by medicine coz i am perfectly normal, i just dont want to live, i want to pay for my sins and go to hell, that is my last wish, I have so many dreamz but all remained only dreamzzz, made so many frndz - all r now lost
As-sala mualakum Sam,
With the name of God the most great, the most merciful.
Oh Sam!
I wanted you to know that I understand you, and I shear your pain. When I was seek, I was very very depressed, and hopeless because I had done all my best at time to get better, and seek help to everyone but It doesn't work. I felt that I dont deserve to leave in this world, I were always praying to sleep so that I cant think of my negative thinking, I wasn't enjoying anything, I was scared of people, more white people. I felt guilty of everything, and think that when I died I will go to hell because God is Angry about my deeds.
I taught my illness was a medical problem but it wasn't, I have been admit at reading hospital for 2 month, alone without no parents, or friends. I was on medication but they were just making it worst over, and over again. Then I have decided with all my heart to commit suicide out of anxiety, fairness of hell-fire but I was wrong God was there for me. I can't explain what was happening to me. I don't want to talk about it no-more in my life but I will tell you for the preciousness of your life. ( I was always thinking, and feeling that I'm having sex with Mens. Every time that was coming in my image, even when I was eating, praying, everything. I was scared about it).
I was telling myself that why is this happening to me, I'm virgin, I've never had a boyfriend in my life, I don't go at the Club like many girls so why me, when many people are doing bad stuff without suffering like me. God most be angry. Everyone was hopeless too. I was wrong because since I started reading the Coran with conviction everything disappear in only one month. I was wrong again because I was exposing my body, I wasn't strong enough, I wasn't satisfy about what I have, I was admiring people. But God didn't look up to that he makes my illness heal by making me positive no matter what, proud of what I'm, respecting my womanhood, controling my tongue. God gave me strong faith. That's why I'm proud of all what has been happening to me. And I realize that God Does everything for a good reason with can benifit us in this life or the hereafter with is eternal.
"Whenever Allah wills good for his slave, he hastens to punish him in this life, and when he wills evil for his slave he withholds punishing him for his sins until he comes before him on the day of judment."
" The greatness of the reward is tied to the greatness of trial. When Allah loves a people, He puts them to the trial." That is true becauce I wasn't strong enough when I was healthy but since I have got seek, and got heal on january/ 8/10 when something I dislike happen to me, I compare it to my pass, and try to not dwell on it because I have been very sad, and god help me. january /8/ 2011 will be my first year without fainting after 4 years of illness. Can you imagine? Now all I want is to worshipped God by the best manner, alone in my house, praying with silence. No music satanique , no lie, no tv, no bothering someone. I don't want to do all what Allah dislike, and do what he loves. You see is normal to think being alone without trying to commit suicide. Don't feel different from other people. We are all dust.
So please don't worry, God can change everything in your life in 1second. You are not alone, your creator Allah is there for you. As he promise, and to him we all will return so please, I'm crying don't commit suicide. I know that when someone is sad, and hopeless. Its will be had for that person to understand. Like when I was hopeless, helpless by human, and sad. But I hope that this will help you, and change your ideas. I swear to Allah during december, more last night, and today I was just crying, and thinking about all the goodness God has done to me. And trying to change some of my bad character to good one. Only to please Allah, the reason why I'm here today. And my mind come to my yahoo email. And I saw this sms nearly when I was thinking of Allah. that's mean so many things, and signs to you, and me.
Please I beg you for Allah the creator of you, and me. The creator of the whole universe, and our reason to be. Don't commit suicide. Life will soon give you a smile. I promise you that Allah is there for you, and If you beg him to help you with conviction. He will help you, as he promise. Suicide will not change nothing will just make Allah angry with you for denying his decreed. Allah our reason to be forbid us to deny qadar (divine decree) ." Whoever is acceptant of Allah decree will have Allah's acceptance and whoevewr is displeased AND unacceptant with it will gain Allah's displeasure" that's why he show to us the right way which is his way eternel joy, and peace. And the bad way which is the satan's way our enemy. So let's chose the best way please dear don't the satan your enemy have control over you. Follow Islam, and dwell on it for your eternal peace. May Allah changer of the hearts, guide you in Islam.
So nice and sweet of you. I understand your pain and happy you got away from it and living good and happy life. If you help yourself, god really helps you...God is very kind to me, it is me who is unkind to myself, god gave me so many opportunities, good time and everything i desired, God is the best and he never took my trial, i made myself went to a trial which was never needed...
I don't take action, don't know why but cannot take any action, as i take action my mind gets distracted. I lost all good times with my family, relatives, friends, community
Allah helps those who helps themselves, but i dont help myself, i am the culprit of the problems, even the problems i had were so small, i look lik a fool when i say someone about my past problems, but it is my ego which comes forward - i want perfection and when i dont get perfection i become angry
I will surely think again about my decision of suicide. May God bless yu...
(Laa 'ilaaha illallaah). There is none worthy of worship but Allah.
(Subhaanalaahi, walhamdu lilaahi, wa laa ilaaha 'illallaahu, wallaahu'akbar).
Glory is to Allah, and praise is to Allah, and there is none worthy of worship but Allah, and Allah is the most great.
(Laa 'ilaaha 'illallaahu, wahdahu laa shareeka lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu wa huwa alaa kulli shay'in qadeer).
None has the right to be worshipped but Allah alone, Who has no partner. His is the dominion and his is the praise, and he is able to do all things.
Oh ALLAH (SWT)! Thank you for answering our prayers. You are the best.
Dear Sam, I'm very proud of you, and your understanding. I'm happy again much more. Allah is the greatest.
God loves you so much, that's why he's guiding by the truth, and that's why he makes you talk about it without commiting it. I'm surpassed. I'm crying with joy, and another new hope in my life.
I wanted you to know that you are a very brave heart human being, you are understanding, emotional, caring, noble, and innocent. You can improve the world by being an example to others who are depressed, and suffering because you understand me, and my pain. You are happy I got away from mi illness. You are aware of your mistakes, and realize that God is always there for you. That's is a great emotions, feelings, caring, understanding, gratefulness, awareness. And if you dont feel pain, or have any emotions, you couldn't understand this message, be aware of your mistakes, understand my pain, and recognize the blessings God has been giving you, so please stop blaming yourself you are nice, grateful, and have all the best qualities.
I hope you give up on that definitely, and you are repenting to God for forgiveness, and asking Him to guide you, and give you strong Imaan. ( Don't forget to always repeat in your heart, even when you are talking, walking, eating, thinking, anything say: ALLAH GUIDE ME. And just put in your mind that you are not guiding yourself, Allah the owner of your soul is the one Who is guiding you. And the negatives thinking is Satan your enemy. Please just try this everyday the best you can. That is what I use to do, even when I'm eating,talking, or walking, I say in my heart Allah guide me. and I feel that God is the one who is helping me to walk, eat, talk, move, everything because he's the owner of my soul. He promises me the answers of our call. That's why we don't have to doubt when we ask him for anything.
Thank you very much for you understanding, gratefulness, and praying God for me. (Amen).
May Allah bless you more.
Laa 'ilaaha illallaah.
With the name of God, the most great, the most merciful.
As-salamualakum Sam,
How are you? I hope everything is going good for you. I always check my on this site to hear from you since the january 2nd.
May Allah protect you from all what you fear of.
Please reply.
I can't wait to hear from you.
May Allah protect you from all what you feat of.
Sincerely,
Majula.
Salam !
Humbled 2 hear from yu and ur journey frm d deserts of life. I am fine for now thanks 2 yu, sisterz n leyla, am fine and living for now, i dont pray dont know but cant pray, just i get these panic attacks every now and then................ dont know what wil happen tomorrow...............
I need a kick, a slap 2 move myself, i remember how i wz so disciplined in my teens about everythng just coz i had this fear of my teachers but az this fear iz now gone i m out of control n discpline, i need motivation frm somewher, i lack motivation, i dont need doctor i need some1 to motivate n give a meaning 2 my life, purpose, i feel 2 hav no purpose, no meaning, nothng just full stop n this makes my mind 'idle' and as it sits idle, satan comes n whispers past things, suicide n other wild thoughts in my heart n makes me feel guilty
'Parents' needs to educate themselves first, they need moral education above intellectual education. 90% problems arises just coz of them. My parents never 'trusted' me even though i did everything for them, my parents will believe even a stranger above me. This made big time problems for me, VERY BIG PROBLEMS and still continuing. My father wont even eat food wid me n wud go away if i m in drawing room, he wud hardly talk once a year. I always feel bad not to rebel my parents, like others did, especially my father and listening them and so i paid a big price for that, why? JUST COZ ISLAM SAYS OBEY PARENTS. I would urge sisterz to do something to put parents into focus first and then youth. Say parents to give 'love' to their child and do not make class system, listen them, and dont treat them like another furniture in the house else be ready when their children show the power of their youth and dont cry afterwards.
Sam,
You are a deep thinker and have some very good ideas that you can really build on.
Of course we also need to help 'parent's to improve their understanding. Abdul Wali wrote something very touching on a post a few days ago in reply to a sister who was asking about how to raise children.
Please keep in touch!!!
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaam Sam, elhamdulilah! I am overjoyed to hear that you are feeling better :0)
Peace,
Leyla
Editor, Islamic Answers
IN THE NAME OF ALLAH, MOST GRACIOUS, MOST MERCIFUL.
I STARTED FAINTING AT THE END OF (NOVEMBER/20O6).
MY ILLNESS GOT WORSE ON (2009).
AND I STOPPED FAINTING ON (JANUARY/8/2010), WHEN EVERYONE WAS HOPELESS.
TODAY,
JANUARY/08/2010,
IS MY FIRST YEAR WITHOUT FAINTING AFTER 4 YEARS OF ILLNESS BY THE GRACE OF ALLAH (SWT), WHO CREATED ME WHEN I WAS NOTHING. HE BLESS ME WITH HIS GRACE WHEN I WAS NOTHING.
I ASK MY ALLAH TO FORGIVE ME FOR WHAT EXIST BETWEEN HE AND ME.
NOW ALL I WANT, IS TO BE WITH ALLAH.
SOUBHANAALLAAHI.
WALHAMDU LILLAAH.
WA LAA 'ILAAHA 'ILLALLAH.
WALLAHU 'AKBAR.
WA LAA HAWLA WA LAA QUWWATA 'ILLAA BILLAH.
I LOVE YOU FOREVER ALLAH.
WITHOUT ALLAH, HOW WOULD MY LIFE MEAN TO NOT KNOW THE UNSEEN, THE WORLDS BETWEEN,
FOR ALLAH I WOULD SACRIFICE, AND GIVE MY LIFE,
ANYTHING,
JUST TO BE WITH YOU I PROMISE.
YOU ARE MY ONE TRUE LOVE,
YOU SHOWED ME THE RIGHT FROM THE WRONG, TAUGHT ME TO ENDURE, I NEED MORE THAN EVER ALLAH MY CREATOR.
ALLAH IS MY EVERYTHING, MY REASON TO TALK, MY REASON TO SEE, MY REASON TO HEAR, AND MY REASON TO WRITE WHAT AM WRITING NOW.
BEING OBEDIENT BY ALL THE WAY TO ALLAH IS MY PURPOSE IN LIFE, AND MISSION.
I MUST COMPLETE MY MISSION.
PLEASE HELP ME ALLAH TO COMPLETE IT .
I LOVE ALLAH MORE THAN MYSELF.
O ALLAH!
FORGIVE ME PLEASE MY CREATOR.
LAA ILAAHA ILLALAH.
(THERE IS NONE WORTHY OF WORSHIP BUT ALLAH).
would be a good idea now if you go hajj, would be good experience after your trauma
IN THE NAME OF ALLAH, MOST GRACIOUS, MOST MERCIFUL.
As-salamualakum Sam,
I hope everything is going good for you?
I'm much more happy to hear from you Sam.
Thank you for your advices, understanding, and goodness.
May ALLAH bless you, and reward you In this life, and the hereafter.
ALLAH IS EVERYTHING, AND EVERYTHING IS ALLAH.
LA-ILAHA ILA-LAHU.
IN THE NAME OF ALLAH, MOST GRACIOUS, MOST MERCIFUL.
I'm unique, and I"m loved.
Thank you very much for everything Wael Abdelwagad.
May ALLAH (SWT) Bless you, Guide you, Protect you from all what you fear of, and Reward you everyday, and erase your sins up to your last breath by giving you the peace of mind.
(Amin, Amin, Amin).
La-Ilaha Ila-lahu.
You are welcome sister Majula, and thanks so much for your comments, and "Ameen", not only for me but for all of us. I haven't commented much on this post lately but I have been reading all the comments and I am so impressed and touched by the effort that you, Leyla and SisterZ have made to reach out to those in need. Alhamdulillah.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
As-salamualakum, Mr. Sam, and Mrs. Wael,
WITH THE NAME OF ALLAH, MOST GRACIOUS, MOST MERCIFUL.
Thank you very much both of you for your suggestion, and encouragements.
I'm very impressed to see myself giving advices to people too. MACHA ALLAH.
I forget to tell you Mr. Sam that I'm a student, and I'm 18 years old. And I dont have the ability yet to hajj, but INCH ALLAH I will look for a great Islamic Missionary school for College when I graduated on next year. If I can't find it here I will apply for a great missionary college In Saudi Arabia. Then get married, and hajj with my futur husband Inch Allah I hope so.
Thank you very much again.
May ALLAH reward all of you.
LA-ILAHA ILA-LAHU.
Majula Diaby,
This page is not really an appropriate place for me to laugh, but I couldnt help it as you referred to Wael as Mrs Wael. Wael is of the male species, not female.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Senior Editor
Salam to everyone,
My name is Ali, I live in Australia. I just needed or wanted help from muslim brothers and sisters to pray for my friend who is suffering from Borderline personality disorder. She is just a bit sick at the moment and i tell her she will get better but i guess i do understand her suitation. she has attempted suicide and I know Allah will forgive her, because she is nice, good hearted and very humble person. she is not muslim but i still want all the muslims here to please pray for her. i want her to see the world as it is and she should have faith in GOD and i want peace in her heart and mind. so please pray for her. Also i have strong faith in islam but i dont practice but i know in my heart that islam is the true and most peacefull religion and i will try to be a better muslim.
Thank you
Ali
Assalamu aleikum brothers and sisters in Islam.
Jazakallahu kheiran brother author for this I have benefited from it alhamdulillah.
Jazakallahu kheiran again, may Allah subhanahu wata ala accept all of your good deeds
and forgive all of your shortcomings and grant you Jannah.
Sincerely your brother in Islam Abdullahi.
As-salamualaku brothers, and sisters.
With the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Don't commit suicide. Allah is the one, Allah is the one. Allah is the one.
(Believe in Allah alone as God, and the prophet as His Messenger. Pray 5 times daily. Don't deley your prayers. Give zakat. And go to hajj if you can). Before is too late.
Stop doubting right now. And forget about all your pain. Give oneself to the service of Allah. Then Allah will suffice you, As He promise in the Coran. Right now please. I don't want you to suffer. We are all one. This is the message I have for you.
Remember Our prophet (saw), Then me Majula Diaby in your prayers.
La-ilaha Ila-lahou. (There is none worthy of worship But Allah).
salam aleichum majula its nice to hear from u, can v talk on email? i want to be ur friend in the name of allah s.a.w.
As-salamulakum brothers and sisters,
With the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
I'm still here, living, and thinking of you.
Whenever I feel sad, I think of Allah. Then you and all those who are suffering. When I think of you again I become more stronger and happy. You are special to me.
Its a joy for me for having you in my life.
Thank you for putting a bright spot in my life.
Salam all brothers and sisters,
In the name of allah almighty the glorious the mightiest
Good news for my beliver people
I am now fully normal and all the issues of my life has been sorted out, all those mess of those time are now gone FULLY, god rewarded me for my patience i guess. My life has become normal and fully nice thanks allah and sisterz majula leyla and others and sorry if i had said someone something bad as i was not in proper senses at that time
You know what have i learnt from that hardtime? the only one thing : believe in allah, all the good and bad things revolve around him, if you just hold his hands tightly, each and every problem goes away like it was never there... i ddidnt took any medicines and have no need, life is going just cool, will be going for vacation to europe or us soon...
My purpose of life has been sorted out, actually since i started gaining senses i was trying to find the meaning and purpose of life and SO i faced many problems from unbelieving people surrounding me, i knew i will face many problems but i was adamant in my position, i should have gone away from them, i just faced fitnah. Worshipping allah almighty IS MY AIM OF LIFE. From year 2000-2010 right from the start of puberty were my time of hardships and all things were connected with each other, many earthquakes, tsunamis, cyclones came, i was just not seeing at the core, problem with my parents have been sorted out
I am now very strong mentally
Thanks everyone one again, will meet you all somewhere one day inshallah
Asalaamualaykum Sam,
Great to hear that you are feeling better maashaAllah. May Allah keep you feeling well and close to Him always.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I came across this site today, as i sit at work, no one knowing that my soul is breaking and as i read these words, my heart is aching and i can't stop crying. Who'd have thought that I, independent me, with every material need fulfilled and with one of the most successful careers in society ..would be sat here contemplating the topic of suicide.
This phrase touched my heart:
As far as your own existence, know that your life has meaning and purpose. Allah put you here on this earth for a reason. You are a unique person, the only one of your kind in the universe, and as such you are a treasure. Just as Allah created the stars, the oceans, and the majestic trees, He created you. In fact you dwarf them, because you are a creature of complexity and free will.
If it seems that those around you do not value you, it may be only that they do not know how to show it. People who are raised in families that do not express love freely may be uncomfortable showing affection. But that does not mean that they do not love you and care about you deeply.
Know, in any case, that Allah values you and cares about you.
Thank you. I thank you for giving me a few minutes of hope. I hope i can stretch it for longer than a few minutes. Please remember me in your duas.
As salamu alaykum, Sister Amber,
Please, visit IslamicSunrays, you will find very inspirational readings, masha´Allah. You are important to all of us too, Masha´Allah.
All my Unconditional Love, Respect and Support,
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Dear Sister Amber, if you would like to log in and write your question as a post, we can try to give you specific advice for your situation Insha'Allah. When you've done it, comment here and let me know and I'll move your post to the front of the queue. Make sure to provide enough details so we can help you.
Sister, pain passes. It may not seem like it right now, but all things heal with time. Just be patient and hang in there, and trust Allah to get you through.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
it is good but this site cant help me
As salamu alaykum, shna,
Go to your roots, go to Allah(swt),He(swt) will help you, insha´Allah. If you want us to try to help you, log in and submit your question, this way, at least we can try, insha´Allah.
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Thank you ! Thank you ! i been tru alot that i feel like i can't take it no more but thanks for reminding me that Allah s.w.a doest not impose what the soul can't take even tho i don't understand sometime cause it seem so cruel how when everyting come down i just get hit again wit a nuther wave but hamdulilah it all good May Allah s.w.a bless you.
Beautiful article!
This is a great article. I am 22 years old and what touched my heart the most was the statement that parents do not allow their children to marry someone of their choice because of supersticial thoughts. I am in love with a Muslim boy but my mom does not approve of him because she is worried about what society will think and she wants to make the world proud by getting me married to a highly qualified and educated person. She is not wrong to want to give me a better life but who is she to judge that I will be happier with a highly educated individual. I have thought about suicide but I know it is wrong so when I am in pain I pray to Allah and hope my problem will be resolved. It has been a year but I know Allah will never let me down. The only reason my mom does not approve of the boy I love is because he is not as educated as she wants and because my sister is married to his brother. I do not believe these reasons are legit. None the less I continue to obey her and try my best to please her but despite everything I do it is never enough for her yet whatever my brothers do for her small or big she is pleased. I love my mom. SHe is my world but it seems as if her sons are more important to her than her daughters. We do a lot for her yet it always seems like my brother is more important and that hurts.
Hii,
I honestly cant take this anymore. .............
Sister, I just posted your comment, please read the comments on it
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Sorry but where do I go to see your comment?
As salamu alaykum, sister Bushra,
Your post is in the front page "Please give me reasons not to kill myself
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/reasons-not-kill-myself/
Wasalam,
María
Islamicanswers.com Editor
Thank you so much for your article on depression. I'm so glad for your comments about clinical depression, because extreme, constant stress can actually change your brain chemistry making any enjoyment impossible. You are unable to feel anything. And it can take awhile to recover from this, even after you make life changes. Medication is a BIG help, so I'm glad that was the first thing you addressed. If someone has already suffered that chemical change, they can't appreciate the good and beautiful things until that change is reversed.
Thanks so much for this. Allah will reward you because you helped so many people.
I am close to suicide but after this i feel a bit better.
life is full of tragedy and sometimes i lost a lot and its unfair for me many bad things happened
but i should keep my faith stronger.
ALLAH has once answered my prayers perhaps some of my prayers are not yet to be answered
and i shall give my patients and faith.
InshAllah your prayers will be answered.. Allah will inshAllah reward your patience and not giving up on the precious life he has given you
Maybe getting involved in some community activities and helping other brothers and sisters
will help you feel better inshaAllah
All the best brother! Salam
assalamu alaikum.I can't do anything in my life .my life is destroyed by tablighi jamaat.they effect my studies as well as my students.what to do
kashif, please log in and write your question as a separate post, and give us some details so we can understand what you are talking about. Jazak Allah khayr.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Eidtor
Thanks for the article on depression. I've been suffering this for a pretty long time, it's ongoing. I know this is rather superficial but I feel like i'm hideous. i'm not the best looking guy my nose is horribly twisted, i think i have what you call a deviated septum/broken nose. This in turn is making me extremely aviodant of people, i cant even go the mosque because i look ridiculous. So basically i think my depression stems from my hideous nose. It wasn't always ugly it was actually cute when i was young, but now its...i have no words to describe it. I'm going to start praying and fasting inshallah, this article really lifted me spiritually. I'm trying to be sahbur and im even reading the quaran every night but i'm still feeling depressed...any advice on this matter would be appreciated. Thank you.
wahhib, if your nose is like this because it was broken, then I suggest surgery to correct it.
Beyond that, you need to come to the realization that you are not defined by the shape of your nose. Everyone is physically imperfect in some way. Many people suffer from far greater deformities and disabilities than yours but they cope. You might want to consider seeing a therapist who can help you cope with the exaggerated feelings you have about your nose.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
If i were to get correction surgery, while im at it do you think it's okay for me to change the shape of my nose or make it slightly smaller? is it haram?
Assalam'walakum i would like to start by saying jazak allah to the brother or sister who as written this website i have found it a great help and just by reading this i have felt a scene of relief that i am not alone.
On monday i actually attempted to end my life due to all the issues i have and am suffering from currently in life. For the past four years i have slowly lost the will to live and i literally got pushed of the edge last week. however alhumdulila i have been given another chance from Allah (swt) and for some reason i don't know were to start when asking for forgiveness, but reading this has helped me understand were i should start and i will follow these points set out and see how it goes.
i only ask that everyone keeps me in their prayers as i still don't know how i am feeling at this moment in time.
i have bought my tickets to go do umrah during ramadan so can everyone please make dua that i can go and ask for forgiveness as i really and truly do need Allah (swt) to forgive me for all that i have done.
jazak allah for your prayers
allah hafiz
Dear Sister Tanjina,
Alhumdulillah, He(swt) has guided you. Your life is so precious, remember Allah never burdens us with more than we can bear. Keep looking forward and start preparing heartily for your Umrah trip this Ramadaan. I wish I was going and pray for this often! Allah has invited you to do Umrah and He(swt) also guided you to this website through which you have found comfort - it is clear that He(swt) wants good for you.
Keep striving my dear sister, I shall surely pray for you Insha'Allah.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Q. Is there a difference between hunger striking and suicide (the latter of which is against Islamic teachings...)?
That's a question you should direct to a scholar. I don't know the answer.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Asalaam, great piece of writing brother Wael Abdelgawad. You've reminded me of the right path and why we are here in this life. Being tested is very hard but as you've said Allah is not punishing me but testing me. Need to appreciate what I have. I will re-read the piece when I'm feeling low to pick myself up. Thank you.