He was breastfed by her stepmother, is their marriage haram?
Salam alaikum,
A friend of mine is married to someone who was breastfed by her step mother. It's all most been 40 yrs since they've been married, they have kids and grand kids.
Now they have heard that they are like siblings since the lady's stepmother breast fed the husband. I want to know what they have to do now since they've been together for 40 yrs.
Is it haram for them to be husband and wife or not?
- grana
grana, Wa alaykum as-salam. There is no blood relationship between the woman and her stepmother. Therefore it makes no difference if her husband was breast fed by her stepmother. It certainly does not affect their marriage in any way.
Anyone who would tell them that after 40 years of marriage their marriage is invalid because of something completely irrelevant, is someone who is trying to stir up trouble and create fitnah. That person is a trouble maker and should be avoided.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.,com Editor
salaam aleikum,
Br.Wael, I suggest, you do some research on this issue, because i think it is actually forbidden in islam for two people breastfed by the same woman to get married, and I believe there is even a report from the Holy Prophet(Swalallahu alaihi wa salaam) forbiding a woman to breastfeed any child that is not her own in order to avoid situations like the one the questioner mentioned; but before the Prophet(Swalallahu alaihi wa salaam) came, people were breastfeeding children that were not their own but when He(swalallahu alaihi wa salaam) came He forbade all of that.
Allahu 'Alaam.
Please let us know what you find out, Salaam.
cinci, I am well aware of the rulings on the subject. Please re-read grana's post. They were not breastfed by the same woman. She said that the husband was breastfed by the stepmother. She never said that the wife was breastfed by the stepmother.
And you are wrong about breastfeeding someone else's child, there is nothing wrong with it.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
wael, the title does say breastfed by the same woman and i guess it got stuck in my mind, also regarding my comment, that is what I was told i think but i guess i was lazy to verify the ruling myself, anyway i hope there is a way to delete it, because i hate falsehood and I am surely not trying to spread it.
You're absolutely right, the title is misleading and I will change it. Thanks for pointing that out.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
My brother, it’s not haram cuz that’s not her real mother. The stepmom has no blood relationship with the girl.
If she was breast fed by her since she was a infant she becomes her child. If she was breast fed by her when she was age 3 then it doesn’t counts. If the case is not that then u got nothing to worry about. I hope this makes sense.
Grana, Wael, Cinci,
Please read the following links on breastfeeding in Islam:
http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/141208
http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/126675
http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/117623
http://www.islam-qa.com/en/cat/360
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Jazzakallahu khair SisterZ for the links, May Allah TA'ALA forgive us all and accept our efforts in his path, Ameen.
Salaam.