I am 19, I love my cousin, but he is cheating with my sister
Assalam o Alaikum,
I am 19 . I loved my cousin. By chance I got his number and started chatting with him. I just wanted to know does he have same feelings as me or if he is involved with someone else.
He told me that he had 6 girl friends. At the same time said that he loved me. I did not believe him and left him. Then I felt that he was chatting with my sister.
I asked him. I thought he was doing this to tease me. He first asked "has your sister told you?" I told him I just has a feeling. He denied it, but his behaviour was totally changed, it became a bit insulting. He told me that he just lied that he had any girlfriends.
I felt from sister 's behaviour that he was lying to me.
I repeatedly asked him but he denied it. I even asked my sister but she did not answer. She said neither yes nor no. I was more tense. I told him I loved him. He also said the same thing. I could not believe him.
I just feel pain on this situation. He just runs away, just insults me. He does not tell me the truth. He says he loves but at the same time he insults me and runs away. I am very tense about this situation.
- salsabeel
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Salaam my Sister,
It sounds very much like this cousin is playing games with you. If there was any love or desire for a halal relationship between the two of you, he would approach your family and ask for you.
You're texting a on-Mahram man, telling him you love him and pursuing him is all haram and I would advise that you stop this immediately. None of his responses indicate that he has any halal interest in you. The longer you carry on like this, the worse and worse you will feel when it finally dawns on you that there is no such thing as a text-relationship or marriage.
If a man wants to be with a woman, he will act in an appropriate manner, initiate contact, call her father and asks for her. If he does not - then desist your communications with him, because he is not interested.
Peace,
L
Sister Salsabeel, forget about this guy. He is a loser and a liar, and not a good match for you at all.
What you are feeling is probably not love at all, but simple attraction. After all, this guy has very few redeeming qualities. He lies, he insults you, and he is a womanizer. It's natural to develop feelings of desire for those we see regularly, but there is nothing good or promising about this situation.
Forget about this guy, and try to work on your own development. Work on your relationship with Allah, and your practice of Islam, and your Islamic education. Pay attention to your school work. Build a future for yourself. Get involved if you can in activities at the masjid, or an Islamic study circle for sisters. Your world and your view will expand so much, and one day you will look back and be so glad that you didn't get involved with this no-good cousin.
Wael
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Y don't u tell ur sister tat hes telling u tat he loves u. Call him up and have her listen too. I wouldn't let him play u and ur sister. Just move on from him, its just a crush u got goin on. Ur'll get over it.