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I want to change my school, parents won’t listen

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I want to change my school but I don’t know how to tell my parents, they won’t listen.

- Lilly

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  1. As-salaamu alaikum

    Have you talked to them? Tell them your reasons? Why do you want to move? If you have not told them, how would they know? They are not mind-readers.

    I'm sure there are some challenges in your school right now that you want to leave, but please discuss this with your parents. Also, visit your school counselor, maybe she can help with your challenges, or if it's for the best, she can also help you convince your parents to move you from the school, especially if you're being bullied or such thing.

  2. I don't know how old you are but changing schools is not like changing your username on Fortnite. It's not that easy and there many factors that come into play. Unless your reason is good, your parents will never listen. Because they have to think about cost, education, if they are dropping you off then they have to reschedule if the school is further away etc.

  3. Asalamualaykum Sister Lilly,

    Out of curiosity and so I can help you better, what is the reason that you want to change schools?

    As someone who was moved from school to school like an "army brat" a number of times, I can tell you that being able to stay at the same school for any length of time is actually a blessing! You can former deeper relationships with people who you've known longer, have the requisite challenges and successes in your friendships needed to form close bonds, and not have to start over, take certain classes over, skip certain classes, etc.

    If you go to a public school, you likely will not be able to change schools, as you need to go to the one you are assigned to by locale. Exceptions are made only rarely and you'd need your parents' help to take you to the farther school, which may interfere with their work schedules. If you go to a private school, your parents are investing a lot of money and once again will need a very good reason to change schools.

    If you are being bullied or excluded at your school, please talk to your guidance counselor and your parents about this, as it is very serious indeed and not good for your emotional health. If that is the case and it continues without disciplinary action, you do indeed have a legitimate reason to change schools.

    Hopefully though, that is not the case. Sometimes, we do not get exactly what we want in life but what we get turns out to be better Alhamdulilah. I hope this will apply to you sister.



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