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I’m a girl in 9th grade, can I still wear skinny jeans to school?

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Hi,

I'm kinda new to this I've never done anything like this but I have so many questions regarding the hijab and stuff like that.

I've been wearing the hijab some of the time, but not really to school but I'm about to start back to wearing it all the time.. My dad has allowed me to wear jeans and short sleeve shirts.  But now I'm going to the 9th grade and he wants me to stop wearing jeans and short sleeve shirts.

I'm going to an all girls school so I wanted to know can I still wear jeans? I don't really care about the short sleeve shirt thing but I really want to know if I can still wear skinny jeans?  If I wear a kinda long shirt with it!?

- amal


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  1. Dear Amal,

    Its nice that you are concerned about hijaab and such matters at such a youthful age maashAllah :O).

    Infront of non-mahram, Islam tells us we should observe full hijaab, i.e cover hair and all body apart from face and hands, (some people say say feet can remain uncovered, but I am unsure on this). Further, we should wear lose clothing so as not to reveal the shape of our bodies.

    Infront of mahrams and women, we do not have to observe hijaab and our clothing can be relaxed; but we should still be modest and also take into account the situation and the people we are with. I personally think, that even infront of mahram and other women; there are some guidelines and ettiquettes that if followed would be better for us; i.e.;

    - avoid wearing tops with low neck lines infront of both mahrams and women,
    - avoid wearing tight jeans/trousers/pants with short tops that reveal and shape the naval and behind area infront of mahrams
    - and avoid wearing extremely figure hugging clothes, infront of mahrams.

    I feel this helps us sisters observe modesty and maintain a level of respect, dignity and protection (this is my opinion) as shaytaan can whisper thoughts into our minds at any time, even into the minds of our mahram and other women. There is of course no prohibition on what husband and wife wear infront of each other.

    ***
    Going on to your question, if you are attending an all girls school, I do not see anything wrong with you wearing skinny jeans and a long top, even it has short sleeves. If you feel you are wearing something that you cannot wear infront of non-mahrams, perhaps you could wear an abaaya, coat or long cardigan over your clothes on the way to school and then remove it when you are inside school.

    Anyhow, reassure your father that you will wear long tops over your jeans at school and remind him that there are only girls :O)!! I am sure if you reassure your father that you are focussed on your studies and that dressing up will not take over your school work, he will understand and be happy with your choice of clothes.

    If after this, he is still not happy with you wearing jeans, then try to avoid it dear little sister. Its just a small sacrifice to make isn't it? :O)

    There are lots of other lovely clothes you can wear and feel good in too inshaAllah!!

    Best Wishes,

    SisterZ
    IslamicAnswers.com, Editor

    xxx

  2. Praise be to Allaah.

    Verses that have to do with hijab:

    1 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allaah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful”

    [al-Noor 24:31]

    2 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “And as for women past childbearing who do not expect wedlock, it is no sin on them if they discard their (outer) clothing in such a way as not to show their adornment. But to refrain (i.e. not to discard their outer clothing) is better for them. And Allaah is All‑Hearer, All‑Knower”

    [al-Noor 24:60]

    “Women past childbearing” are those who no longer menstruate, so they can no longer get pregnant or bear children.

    We shall see below the words of Hafsah bint Sireen and the way in which she interpreted this verse.

    3 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”

    [al-Ahzaab 33:59]

    4 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “O you who believe! Enter not the Prophet’s houses, unless permission is given to you for a meal, (and then) not (so early as) to wait for its preparation. But when you are invited, enter, and when you have taken your meal, disperse without sitting for a talk. Verily, such (behaviour) annoys the Prophet, and he is shy of (asking) you (to go); but Allaah is not shy of (telling you) the truth. And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts. And it is not (right) for you that you should annoy Allaah’s Messenger, nor that you should ever marry his wives after him (his death). Verily, with Allaah that shall be an enormity”

    [al-Ahzaab 33:53]

    With regard to the Ahaadeeth:

    1 – It was narrated from Safiyyah bint Shaybah that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) used to say: When these words were revealed – “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” – they took their izaars (a kind of garment) and tore them from the edges and covered their faces with them.

    Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4481. The following version was narrated by Abu Dawood (4102):

    May Allaah have mercy on the Muhaajir women. When Allaah revealed the words “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)”, they tore the thickest of their aprons (a kind of garment) and covered their faces with them.

    Shaykh Muhammad al-Ameen al-Shanqeeti (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

    This hadeeth clearly states that what the Sahaabi women mentioned here understood from this verse – “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” – was that they were to cover their faces, and that they tore their garments and covered their faces with them, in obedience to the command of Allaah in the verse where He said “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” which meant covering their faces. Thus the fair-minded person will understand that woman’s observing hijab and covering her face in front of men is established in the saheeh Sunnah that explains the Book of Allaah. ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) praised those women for hastening to follow the command of Allaah given in His Book. It is known that their understanding of the words “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” as meaning covering the face came from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), because he was there and they asked him about everything that they did not understand about their religion. And Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “And We have also sent down unto you (O Muhammad) the Dhikr [reminder and the advice (i.e. the Qur’aan)], that you may explain clearly to men what is sent down to them, and that they may give thought”

    [al-Nahl 16:44]

    Ibn Hajar said in Fath al-Baari: There is a report of Ibn Abi Haatim via ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Uthmaan ibn Khaytham from Safiyyah that explains that. This report says: We mentioned the women of Quraysh and their virtues in the presence of ‘Aa’ishah and she said: “The women of Quraysh are good, but by Allaah I have never seen any better than the women of the Ansaar, or any who believed the Book of Allaah more strongly or had more faith in the Revelation. When Soorat al-Noor was revealed – “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” – their menfolk came to them and recited to them what had been revealed, and there was not one woman among them who did not go to her apron, and the following morning they prayed wrapped up as if there were crows on their heads. It was also narrated clearly in the report of al-Bukhaari narrated above, where we see ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her), who was so knowledgeable and pious, praising them in this manner and stating that she had never seen any women who believed the Book of Allaah more strongly or had more faith in the Revelation. This clearly indicates that they understood from this verse – “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” – that it was obligatory to cover their faces and that this stemmed from their belief in the Book of Allaah and their faith in the Revelation. It also indicates that women’s observing hijab in front of men and covering their faces is an act of belief in the Book of Allaah and faith in the Revelation. It is very strange indeed that some of those who claim to have knowledge say that there is nothing in the Qur’aan or Sunnah that says that women have to cover their faces in front of non-mahram men, even though the Sahaabi women did that in obedience to the command of Allaah in His Book, out of faith in the Revelation, and that this meaning is also firmly entrenched in the Sunnah, as in the report from al-Bukhaari quoted above. This is among the strongest evidence that all Muslim women are obliged to observe hijab.

    Adwa’ al-Bayaan, 6/594-595.

    2 – It was narrated from ‘Aa’ishah that the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to go out at night to al-Manaasi’ (well known places in the direction of al-Baqee’) to relieve themselves and ‘Umar used to say to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “Let your wives be veiled.” But the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not do that. Then one night Sawdah bint Zam’ah, the wife of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), went out at ‘Isha’ time and she was a tall woman. ‘Umar called out to her: “We have recognized you, O Sawdah!” hoping that hijab would be revealed, then Allaah revealed the verse of hijab.

    Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 146; Muslim, 2170.

    3 – It was narrated from Ibn Shihaab that Anas said: I am the most knowledgeable of people about hijab. Ubayy ibn Ka’b used to ask me about it. When the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) married Zaynab bint Jahsh, whom he married in Madeenah, he invited the people to a meal after the sun had risen. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sat down and some men sat around him after the people had left, until the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) stood up and walked a while, and I walked with him, until he reached the door of ‘Aa’ishah’s apartment. Then he thought that they had left so he went back and I went back with him, and they were still sitting there. He went back again, and I went with him, until he reached the door of ‘Aa’ishah’s apartment, then he came back and I came back with him, and they had left. Then he drew a curtain between me and him, and the verse of hijab was revealed.

    Al-Bukhaari, 5149; Muslim, 1428.

    4 – It was narrated from ‘Urwah that ‘Aa’ishah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to pray Fajr and the believing women would attend (the prayer) with him, wrapped in their aprons, then they would go back to their houses and no one would recognize them.

    Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 365; Muslim, 645.

    5 – It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “The riders used to pass by us when we were with the Messenger of Allaah (S) in ihraam, and when they drew near to us we would lower our jilbabs from our heads over our faces, then when they had passed we would uncover them again.

    Narrated by Abu Dawood, 1833; Ibn Maajah, 2935; classed as saheeh by Ibn Khuzaymah (4,203) and by al-Albaani in Kitaab Jilbaab al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah.

    6 – It was narrated that Asma’ bint Abi Bakr said: We used to cover our faces in front of men.

    Narrated by Ibn Khuzaymah, 4/203; al-Haakim, 1/624. He classed it as saheeh and al-Dhahabi agreed with him. It was also classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Jilbaab al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah.

    7 – It was narrated that ‘Aasim al-Ahwaal said: We used to enter upon Hafsah bint Sireen who had put her jilbab thus and covered her face with it, and we would say to her: May Allaah have mercy on you. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And as for women past childbearing who do not expect wedlock, it is no sin on them if they discard their (outer) clothing in such a way as not to show their adornment” [al-Noor 24:60]. And she would say to us: What comes after that? We would say: “But to refrain (i.e. not to discard their outer clothing) is better for them”. And she would say: That is confirming the idea of hijab.

  3. Salamu Aleikum Amal,

    I think first you should understand the basic concept of the hijab. The hijab, according to Surah Nur

    in the Qu'ran should not reveal the body shape. And tell the believing women that they should draw

    their veils over their bossoms. And that they should only reveal their adornments in front of

    their husbands or their fathers or their husband's fathers or their brothers or their

    brother's sons or their sisters's sons or to their women, eunuchs and slaves that they possess.......

    In the time of Djahiliya, women were wearing a bandana-hijab, but they didn't cover their bossoms ,

    their juyub, the neck area. So Islam advised women to cover that area and also wear a Jilbab , a

    garment that covers the body shape. The whole awra of the female should be covered. Wearing

    the hijab or deciding to wear it is a crucial step for a woman who didn't cover herself before and

    requires a lot of committment. This decision shouldn't be influenced by family members, and normally,

    a girl should cover herself at the beginning of bulugh(puberty), which is normally at the age of nine.

    The social hijab should be observed as well, no flirting with non-mahrams, long, unnecessary conver-

    sations and avoiding the hand-shake.....

    It is not necessary to wear the Jilbab in Europe, you can choose western fashion and make that hijabi.

    But it should be loose clothing and not body-revealing... In general, you could take your hijab off

    in front of ladies, but I'm sure you would have non-mahram teachers or suddenly meet the caretaker

    who is male. And in the morning when you go out of the house, you will be surrounded by other

    males. So wear your tight jeans, but wear a loose clothing over it, so that the tight jeans is no longer

    visible, especially on the backside....:)

    I wish you good luck sister, and hope that understanding the significance of physical and social hijab

    will help you find your appropriate Islamic individual dress code

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