Is being asked to convert to Islam by boyfriend a good thing?
Hi,
I'm in need of abit of advice. I have only been with my Egyptian boyfriend for few months and he says to me that he wants me to become a Muslim, is this a good thing? How will it affect the children that I already have?
He has also mentioned marriage and tells me he doesn't want anything from me i.e money or visa.(he already lives in the UK) he tells me to read about Islam and his religion so I know what he his all about.
When I search this all I find is about the worship to God (Allah) and praying etc so im a little confused as to what else I need to know about his religion.
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First, I think it would be wise to think about accepting Islam apart from the relationship with your boyfriend. As you may or may not know, male & female relationships outside of marriage are not permitted in Islam, so you will need to grapple with this scenario. This is perhaps the fundamental reason why he wishes to marry you and have this relationship on better terms with love and God's acceptance. Yet, as a Muslim man, he can marry Jews and Christians, as well, though there are complications to those cases. Search this site to research that, too.
You need to determine what kind of relationship that you have with God right now, if any. Do you feel something missing from your life spiritually, emotionally and psychologically? Do you see that there is a Creator to all the world around you? What is it that you want from your life?
You will come across two different perspectives online: anti-Muslim diatribe and pro-Islam websites. Keep in mind that it is up to you to open you heart and mind and find what it is you are looking for, though.
My friends give very good advice to any potential revert/convert in saying, "Take your time and learn about Islam before accepting it, personally. It may take you one day or 10 years, but your journey is with God and no one can rush it."
Having said that, here's link to two of my favorite convert/revert stories:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1FuVMDeOa6s
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CcxzIE4xxrI
And this is a nice clip:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9LskipET6UE&feature=relmfu
There is more to that sister, Allah has promised paradise to those who beleive in islam and do righteous deeds "ALLAH HAS PROMISED THOSE WHO BELIEVE (in the oneness of Allah- islamic monotheism) AND DO DEEDS OF RIGHTEOUSNESS THAT FOR THEM IS FORGIVENESS AND A GREAT REWARD (ie paradise)" "AND THOSE WHO DISBELIEVE AND DENY OUR VERSES (ie the koran) ARE THOSE WHO WILL BE THE DWELLERS OF THE HELL -FIRE" koran5:9-10 . . . . "...and whoever follows my guidance (ie the koran and islam), THERE SHALL BE NO FEAR ON THEM, NOR SHALL THEY GRIEVE (because they shall be in paradise)." "BUT THOSE WHO DISBELIEVE AND DENY OUR REVELATION (ie the koran) - SUCH ARE THE DWELLERS OF FIRE. THEY SHALL ABIDE THEREIN FOREVER" koran2:38-39 . . . . "YES! WHOSOEVER EARNS EVIL AND HIS (or her) SIN HAS SURROUNDED HIM (or her), THEY ARE DWELLERS OF THE FIRE (ie hell); THEY WILL DWELL THEREIN FOREVER." "AND THOSE WHO BELIEVE (in the oneness of Allah - islamic monotheism) AND DO RIGHTEOUS GOOD DEEDS, THEY ARE DWELLERS OF PARADISE, THEY WILL DWELL FOREVER" Koran2:81-83 . . . "YES, BUT WHOEVER SUBMIT HIS FACE (him/her self) TO ALLAH (ie follows Allah's religion of islamic monotheism) AND HE (or she) IS A MUHSIN (ie a good doer who performs good deeds totally for the sake of Allah only and withous any show off or to gain praise or fame etc) THEN HIS (or her) REWARD IS WITH HIS (or her) LORD (Allah), ON SUCH SHALL BE NO FEAR, NOR SHALL THEY GRIEVE (because they shall be in paradise)" koran2:112 . . . "WHOEVER BRINGS A GOOD DEED (islamic monotheism and deeds of obedbence to Allah and His massanger -muhammad) SHALL HAVE TEN TIMES THE LIKE THEREOF TO HIS (or her) CREDIT, AND WHOEVER BRINGS AN EVIL DEED (polytheism, disbelief, hypocrisy, and deeds of disobedience to Allah and His massanger - muhammad) SHALL HAVE ONLY THE RECOMPENSE OF THE LIKE THEREOF, AND THEY WILL NOT BE WRONGED" Koran6:160 . . . Please google ''can someone teach me the good and bad of islam'' and check on the responses given by the four people under the islamic advice site.
Alsalam Alikom (Peace be upon you);
I think it is a good thing. It seems like he is really interested in marrying you, God willing. Not sure how old are your kids, but if they are still young, it should be no problem to teach them Islam and build on it. But if they are already out of the house, married or what ever, you can still be their mother, stay in contact, etc.
I am not very familiar with books that explain Islam, but you can ask him to provide some. Or maybe if there is an Islamic Center near by or mosque where you can ask an Imam. Of course, you can always ask more specific questions here if you liek and we will try to help you God Willing.
May ALLAH guide us, grant us patience, and shower us with his mercy.
If I am correct, it is from ALLAH. If I err it is from me, and I pray ALLAH forgives me.
Alsalam Alikom
Hi
m a muslim boy and me and my girlfriend is in love with each other since past 1y. she is hindu and want to get converted to muslim. plz can any one help me and tell me abt, is it good to make her muslim and to get married.? plz help me
AA;
Please start your own thread. This is to help this lady with her issue.
AA
Dear man! I dont want to assume that Your question is a troll (false), but if you are a muslim, you should know the importance of da'awah (ie inviting people to accept islam) . . . . It is one of the obligation of every muslim and Allah would inshaAllah reward you with beautiful gardens in paradise if you invite people to HIS religion (ie islam). . . . . So my friend what are you waiting for. . . . Do as much as you can to bring her into islam and Allah would reward you beyond imagining..