I like a girl who wants to convert, I plan to tell my mum soon.
Salaam,
I know there may be many posts here but I have an idea(mentioned later) that i need advise on.
I have done most of my studying away from family and many of my friends are non-muslim. I do not consider myself a very strong Muslim even I try my best to pray 5 prayers and read the Quran. I donot drink, smoke. I hang out with my friends but i make it clear that i dont visit clubs n such and they are ok with it.
I have known many girls and i admit many of them were pretty, but i never ever thought of having a GF, even though few have expressed their feeling to me.
Recently i met a girl who actually caught my interest. I tried to stay away from her, but that plan failed miserably. We havent been in a "Relationship" , but we did spent time together and seem to understand each other well.
I have made it clear to her that, we only have a future if she converts to Islam(surprisingly that was no shock to her) and she understands and agrees to it. I also stated clearly that if my parents dont approve we will not be married(regardless of her being Muslim or not) because family quarrels are the worst and i would rather not have them(i have seen enough in my extended family to know). She has started to study up on Islam as well, but she hasnt been able to keep up between her dissertation and her internship, but she intends to re start in full again after shes done dissertation.
I havent told my mother yet, but I plan to tell her everything soon, including the plan ahead.
The idea was to Invite the girl to my country and home and have her stay with my Mom (who is religious) and have mom show/teach her things about islam plus we have an excellent islamic community in my city and I think being here for a week or so will be a great experience for her. I believe she is sincere about studying Islam but knowing her, having a hands on approach is the best way for her.
Advice on this please
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Brother,
As someone who has been through this, my advice would be to talk to your mother first and see what her thoughts and feelings are for what you plan to do. Seeing how she reacts and her response will be a guiding factor in what your next steps might be.
Salam
Assalamualaikum,
Brother, talk to your mother and tell her that she would be teaching the Deen to a non Muslim, possibly leading to her Islam. If she agrees, you could invite the girl to yoyr country.
If you directly talk to her about the plan to marry, she may deny. But once the girl accepts Islam and successfully impresses your mother, you can put forward the proposal to your mother.
Even if she does not agree, the girl has the benefit of 'Faith in Allah' which is much better than 'a relationship' with you. But if she agrees, then you will have her in a Halaal way.
Pray Salatul Istikhaarah first, and then do what you have to. Limit your interactions wih the girl, lest you should fall into sin and cause trouble to yourself.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaam brother, MashAllah that your friend is looking to accept Islam. Take it from me, As I am also new yo islam and it was a bit hard for my family to accept and till this day my in laws do not accept me as i was not born into the religion( backward pakistani thinking).
I think you should tell your family( patents) first, you need to know what their reaction will be.
This will also shiw you if your friend is actually interested in converting for the beleif or for you.
I hope this helps you. May Allah guide you.