Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Marriage to a non-muslim man

Hi I'm a young Muslim woman age of 19 and I have a boyfriend who is a Christian. At the begining of our relationship we were hesitant in view of the fact that we both knew that we love our religion dearly and was not thinking about converting over for the other person. We read the Qur'an and the Bible and it says to marry the people of the book. I took it as people who were monotheist and not polytheist. I sought advice from my Islamic teacher and he told me it was forbidden although, he could not give me.  a verse in the Qur'an where it said that women were prohibited from marrying a Non-Muslim. I know that I'm young and in college and have a while before I get married, but I have gained alot of feelings for this man and I even got the courage to tell my parents. The advice they gave me were to not let anyone interfere with my religion and if he is someone you know you have a future with then do what makes me happy. They were supportive more than I thought, I know Muslims don't think its right for a Muslim woman not to marry a non-muslim because the woman is considered weak. Ever since i was younger I loved being a Muslimah even after people begin to express hate towards Muslims my faith grew and I was more proud to be a Muslimah. I believe that no one will ever change my mind about Islam. It is a great religion and makes me happy. I know that I have alot of growing up to do and I'm trying to become a better Muslimah day by day and I know that one day I will be the Muslimah that I want to be. I just want to know is it a sin if I continue my relationship with this man and maybe one day marry him in the future.

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  1. Dear Sister;

    I can feel your inner turmoil in your question, and i'm really sorry to be the one telling you this, but it's real. It's forbidden for a Muslimah to marry a non-Muslim. The verse you're looking for is this one:
    002.221 Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters), until they believe: A slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman, even though she allure you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever, even though he allure you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire. But God beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of Bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: That they may receive admonition.
    this is Verse 221 from Surat Al Baqarah THE HEIFER, the 2nd Surah in Qura'an.. check its tafsir/explanation..
    my only advice is, if you love him and want his salvation, pray for him that God guides him to the right path of Islam.
    My Best Wishes;

  2. Hey ios,
    I don't know if you will ever see this, but I'm in the same boat as you. I'm a Christian married to a wonderful and beautiful Malay Muslim woman. It is very possible for the two of you to be together. I find it refreshing that your parents were understanding with you, as my in-laws were not. I wish that the imams would get together and decree that Islam would change this to reflect the global community we live in, but I'm not holding my breath. But just so you know it is possible to be together and be happy, my wife and I have been married for 11yrs and have 3 children. Best of luck to you.

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