Marriage to muslim convert and disobedience to parents
Aslam-u-Alyqum,
I need your help to understand what should I do.
I fell in love with a non-Muslim girl five years ago and carried our relationship till now. Now we decided to get married and she is ready to embrace Islam. But my parents are totally against this. I had tried to talk to them but they are very firm on there decision even if she converts.
What should I do? Shall I disobey my parents and convert her and get married or shall I betray her and listen to my parents?
I know disobeying ones parents is one of the major sins but is it right if I abandon her and do not bring her to way of Islam?
Please help me.. What should I do? I am very confused.
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Walaikumsalaam,
Disobeying parents is a major sin. Its good you recognise that. You have been in a relationship for five years. Was it a haraam one, because if so, do you know that having a haraam relationship is also a major sin?
First of all correct yourself and your own ways Brother. Are you being disobedient to Allah? Make tawbah for the haraam relationship you have been having for the past five years. Establish a good connection with Allah.
Secondly, if the revert sister has genuinely converted for Islam and is practising, only then try to take things further.
Its best to have the blessings of your parents, so I would suggest you make full efforts with them. If you trying to mend your relationship with Allah - He will be your strength. Speak to some respected family members, and an Imaam to help in convincing your parents.
Aslm alkm. Brother, go back to ur lord by engaging in more 'ammalus salih' and then be obedient to ur parents and make d girl understand dat she shld convert to islam for d sake of ALLAH ALONE and not marryin you. Engage d elders of ur family to convince ur parent dat there is no difference btw one who was born in islam and a new convert. I cld remember a debate dat we had some year back. The subject was ''who was d best btw a person born in islam nd a new convert''. Lastly make istikharah and keep prayin for d BEST.
i ask a Mufti .. but her conversion should not be for marriage .. as it is not time lasting
salaam brother. to be honest with you this is a sin but like you need to separate these two issues. first deal with ur girlfriend. get to convert for herself and Allah not for the sake of your marriage. its haddith that u should marry someone for being pious and religious not for beauty or health or even love. love is a blessing from Allah and until she converts for him how can u call that love? now think about your parents, heaven lies at the feet of your mothers? are they not the ones who raised you to be the good muslim brother you are today? talk to them calmly but dont talk until you know she has converted for the sake of allah. take one step at a time and you will be fine. Allah will always guide you so dont be afraid
AoA tell to ur father that one day u offer me for marriage so y you cant accept this girl and ask them if u are not agree no problem butt i will also not agree with ur choice... i will be alone whole life hehehehe
my english is not true butt i think u can understand
Al salamualaikum
Allah bless you brother because you are brave muslem, especialy you managed to convince your girlfriend to convert to Islam, this is the greatest thing a muslem can do to our Islam. You should relay on Allah and marry this faithfull women, and dont worry about your parants because at the end you are bringing this women and her childeren to Islam and Allah shall forgive your sins because of this. About your parents sonner or later they will recognise the great think you've done to your dean.
Dont listen to what others here telling to obay your parants you are not doing somthing wrong or against your dean. Islam needs melions like you who can bring others to Islam and so the oma of Islam will expand and multiplay insahaa Allah.
Wa alaikum alsalam
I married a convert and in the eyes of my parents its like i committed a blasphemy. Culture is stronger than religion these days and the one who stands up against it would be destroyed mentally by parents and the rest of the cultural people. Which according to some scholars is shirk to have another law beside quran and sunnah. وان جاهداك لتشرك بي ما ليس لك به علم فلا تطعهما
In short going to heaven requires test from Allah. To stand up against these kind of people is a massive struggle and the fruit of it is heaven
I read something about a man not having to listen in most situations.
http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/98768