Just want to be a normal man & what is the actual meaning of Eid-ul-Adha?
Q ; - 1 I don’t want to be a good man or bad man i want to be a normal man.
Now I want to be live life with in a normal manner, like with in my life I want happiness joy normal human being. I am tired of trying everyone happy and it’s impossible for me to do and now it’s time to happiness, enjoyment, laugh on my site. I hate all the things food, nature, animals, new clothes, colors, peoples everything I don’t like anything. And I want to come out of this. I am a human and I want to live life like a human. And if I made some mistake then its mean I am a human and all human being is made a mistake. Why I am try to protect myself to make mistake.
It may be right or wrong I don’t know, our destiny is written and everything happens on that time. But its enough for me try to make happy others and I also know that this thing is come from Allah SWT. Hence I don’t do anything for any one to be happy. And I want only I have to be happy like a small baby, when he wants chocolate and when he get then he would be happy and if he never get then he cry and few days later he wants something else and when he got this then happy otherwise tense not thing about past what he did not get (Chocolate). I want to live feel free life if I am happy then I wants to feel free to express and if I am not happy I want to feel free to cry. I don’t want to hide my feeling its enough for me to hide my feelings to someone who hurt if they see me in that condition.
I want to come over stress, guilt, pressure, emotions, feelings, relations, sacrifice, like, hate, right, wrong, lie, truth, life, death, good, bad, everything I don’t want anything.
and yes i am try to do 5 times salat and try to read quran and totaly belive on Allah SWT.
Q ; - 2 I don't know what to do now, right now I am with my parents decision because they have done many sacrifice because of me in there life and Allah SWT order, I never want to go to my parents decision.
I am tried to talk with my family but they don't want to talk on this point for a sec not even listen to me. then what I have to do, if I want to share my view to my family then is that I am doing something wrong or I have to share my feeling to another person and not want to share my family I am 28 years and not a child who is only love to this girl, I thought on about his family feelings, reputation and respect also. both of us family is religious and knows girl and boy not have to talk when wedding is cancel because of that many sin may be happened when we talk. because of that right now I don't know what the feeling of that girl. few days ago she said to her dad "I don't want to marry another person only marry to me and don't look any more boys for wedding" and last my sister friend receive a message from this girl "please don't call me it's my humble request to you and your friend" I don't know what's going on in her mind, parents don't want to talk then what I have to do.
I thought we have done big sin to break the engagement when one month is remained to nikaah. and girls family made many dreams for that day I know that because I am touch with her family and knows her family feelings.
Girls says "please say to your mom don't do this (break off engagement), there is many issue in my family if this is happen all ready my one engagement is breaks, if this is done one more time then no one wants to marry me because all of them think girl is bad. I am not a characterless girl. I love to my family and not want to see him on this condition any more. whichever dreams we both see is that all of breaks? nothing would be happen? say na your moms I will do everything what they say how they want to live on that home I will do everything and not want to complain for anything but don't break this wedding".
Girl Mom says" Beta Kya hogaya, Tumahari ammi ko bolo na ye rishta na tode kai dino se hamare mu se niwala nahi utarta hai aur bas rote rahte hain sab(What happen! please say to your mom don't break this engagement, many days we don't eat properly and cry every day)"
Girl little Brother say "What happen to jiju why he never call me for many days?"
Right now my family break the engagement and collect all the dress which we are gives to girl, I don't know what's the feeling when she and her family was return those thing back to us, when I saw those dress I thought about her dreams which is breaks because of us, how I give this dress to another girl. Right now i dont know is she still like me or hate me and wants to marry me or not or she likes some one else.
This is one face of the coin another face is on below link
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/we-love-each-other/
Right now I am tried to forget this girl but it's very difficult to me place another girl on my wife place, I am tried to feel this girl is bad, good thing is happen when our wedding is cancel. my family wants me to marry some other girl. I try to feel the next girl is best one which is come to my life. and she is everything which any family and husband wants on girl. but it's very difficult to do on that short time.
Yes I am tried to pray 5 time Salat and I have total believe in Allah SWT. and I am also do istikhara myself, it is little bit confusing and people say the result takes some time to shows what is good for us and hence right now I am waiting and look for result.
Every night or you say when I am alone in my mind girl and her family words float and I don't know what to do.
Q ; - 3 Can anyone describe the actual mean of Eid-ul-Azhaa?
I have little bit knowledge about Eid-ul-Azhaa but not proper or core knowledge about this.
1. What’s the actual mean of Eid-ul-Azhaa?
2. Why this to perform?
3. How perform Eid-ul-Azhaa according to sunnah?
4. How to ready for that day?
5. What have to do after that day?
With Quran reference.
Misterx.
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Asslam Alekum Warahmatullahi Barkatohu,
My prevouse post, i dont find. i am specify link above. is any one help me to find out my old post.
JazakAllahu khair.
Eid Al-Adha
1) It means ' Festival of sacrifice '.
2) This festival refers to the story of the testing of Ibrahim AS faith in Allah.
It is mentioned in the Quran that Ibrahim AS told to his son Ismail AS,
" O my son ! Surely I have seen in my dream that I have to sacrifice you; consider then what you see " ( As Saffat- 102 )
Ismail AS replied,
"He said: Do what you are commanded; If Allah please, you will find me the patient one " ( As Saffat-102)
at the last split second Allah intterupts the sacrificial process and said,
" We called unto him: O Ibrahim, thou hast already fullfilled the vision " ( As Saffat- 104 )
Ibrahim AS passed the test and so a ram was substituted in place of his son.
The moral of the story is that, Allah does not need a human sacrifice, but TRUST and OBIDIENCE as a basis for his worship.
3) and 4) According to sunnah, on the day of eid, one has to;
- Take bath
- Brush teeth using miswak if possible,
- apply perfume,
- wear the best clothing without excess,
- to go early to the place of prayer,
- to delay eating till after the eid prayer,
- to give takbirs of eid.
Regarding the salat al eid,
It consist of 2 rakats of nafl salat. Just like the normal nafl salat only with few extra takbirs. After takbir al ihram, 7 more takbirs are followed in the first rakah and then 5 more takbirs in the second rakah. This is according to Imam Shafi.
On Eid, able muslims must slaughter animals, whose meat will be used for eating, distributing to friends, families and the poor. Giving charity to the poor is also highly recommended.
5) After that day, continue to be dutiful to Allah. There should not be decrease in worship. Praise Allah day and night. And live a normal life.
JazakAllahu khair
Salaams,
Brother, I personally feel that the issues pertaining to the girl you wanted to marry etc were thoroughly addressed and advised in your initial post. I think the feelings of unhappiness you are having are the natural emotions one would have in breaking away from someone and trying to re-write a meaningful future that will be different from the first one you imagined. It takes time for those emotions to come into full balance, and the best you can do is take things one day at a time and seek Allah for every discomfort and struggle. You can never come to Him too much. There are many people who break up, never marry, or have to part ways for countless reasons and that grief is something everyone has to work through.
Allah is only teaching us, through the trials of this life, how much we truly depend on Him. If you wake up feeling unhappy, simply say "Ya Allah, I am feeling horrible this morning. Help me make something positive come of this day and remember You in it." If you're going somewhere and feeling badly say, "Ya Allah. I feel so down. I can't help what I feel. Please help me. Please remind me of Your care for me" and then look for it around you. It is there, and He will come through. Wallahi, there have been days where I've needed to do this almost every hour....but it did get me through that day. And sometimes the next day was a lot better and I could see clearly how magnificent the ways of Allah are.
There are mercy He gives with every difficulty, and we can only live one difficulty or triumph at a time. Try not to let yourself get caught up in all the memories of how things went, or all the worries for the future. They truly are endless. Instead, try to find something to look forward to in your future by thinking of things that you enjoy and can make more a part of your life, and build your hope on Allah being there for you through every moment.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Walekum Asslam Warahmatullahi Barkatohu,
Yes sister, i know that I don't have another way to come out through this. I don't have a choice to forget,if girl and me like each other and our intention is also good and i am doing every halaal thing to resolve my issue and things not happen may be yes i am fight for those who is not written with me.
people say we learn many thing through experience and but no one knows what we learn through experience is right or wrong may Allah SWT Protect me any misguidence.
in my condition i learn many things
Dont belive on any one because all are humans. even your family member guardian or any one.
Many people in this world who misguide you with name of Allah SWT or through emotions.
try to do every thing which is right according to in the light of islaam, and find solution using the book of Quran sharif and hadith.
Asslam alekum warahmatullahi barkatohu,
If possible ASAP Publish my post because i have only one month remaining my nikaah, many times i notice when i publish the post it takes aproximately 25 to 30 days and in that long time my life change without getting solution many times its happen to me. i know that may be you have very limited members in your team and because of that it takes time to publish, Jazzak Allah Brother and sisters you have done great job, i am try to find solution my self also but if possible publish below post ASAP.
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/?p=54170&preview=true
Brother and sisters
JazakAllahu khair
Asslam alekum warahmatullahi barkatohu,
is there any one who tell me how much time it takes to publish my post.