Trying to conceive after miscarriage
I had married 4 years back. My wife had a miscarriage once, after that till now we are not blessed with a child. Are there any special salah to offer or any aayaths or any duwa that can help with this?
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As salam o alikum Brother inayath syed,
My prayers are with you and your wife. InshAllaah you will be blessed with a child soon.
My cousin went thru a similar heartache. She got marrired and had her daughter within a year Alhamdulillah. However her and her husband were unable to have another baby for over 10 years. She had dificulty conceiving and had 2 miscarriages also. After some time they both got tested and Alhamdulillah everything came back fine. She was under care of a OBGYN and had some issues as well (not related to fertility but other infections etc) making it harder to become pregnant in the meantime.
They both got very discouraged and helpless and just as they had given up hope Allaah (swt) had blessed them with a pregnancy Alhamdulillah. She is MashaAllaah 5 months pregnant rite now and very happy.
The point of my cousin's story was to let you know that you arent alone in a situation like this and even tho i can only imagine how you must feel, i want you to know that there is hope inshaAllaah. If you and your wife do whatever it takes to conceive (put your trust and patience with Allaah (swt) first and foremost, have intimate relations often - not only when she might be ovulating, go get checked by doctors - to rule out any health issues, etc) - inshaAllaah you will soon be blessed witha baby.
And remember Brother that this is a test fromour Lord and inshaAllaah your patience will be rewarded.
"Verily, when He intends a thing, His command is, "Be", and it is!"
Surah Ya-Sin 36:82
Allaah knows best!
Sister Hafsah
Asalaam alaikum,
Have you both been tested to make sure that everything is medically sound, respectively?
Also, learning your wife's peaks of ovulation and being intimate at that time will increase her chances of conception. There are some sexual positions and techniques to try to increase conception, as well. If she causes you to orgasm during her menstruation days through oral sex or with her other allowed parts of her body during this time, please refrain from this, until you are both ready to have vaginal intercourse again when she is free from her bleeding.
Longer sessions of sexual bonding may help to increase your sperm's potency (motility) and be of great help. A technique I often recommend is found here: http://www.reuniting.info/wisdom/what_is_karezza
You may think to yourself, how is holding back from ejaculating going to help? As I suggest, you'll be "building up" to your release to increase the power and amount of your sperm's motility as to help getting your wife pregnant. So try karezza, say twice on a Saturday without orgasm. Then on Sunday, practice karezza to get warmed up and then engage each other to orgasm. You can also switch it up, like two days of karezza and then orgasm the next, or whatever. You're trying to experience different types of sex and change it up. Of course, this should result in lots of happiness and love between you two! Just do what feel good and pleasurable and let the love making fall into place.
The duas of Prophet Zakariya (as), the story of Mayram (sa) and her mother (ra) shall be of comfort, as you requested. As is the case, there are many points to consider in these verses: the dua of mother, of father, and of special attention to the power of realizing the bounties of Our Lord, Allah (swt).
The Holy Qur'an Chapter 3:35-41
(Remember) when the wife of 'Imran said: My Lord! I have vowed unto Thee that which is in my belly as a consecrated (offering). Accept it from me. Lo! Thou, only Thou, art the Hearer, the Knower!
And when she was delivered she said: My Lord! Lo! I am delivered of a female - Allah knew best of what she was delivered - the male is not as the female; and lo! I have named her Mary, and lo! I crave Thy protection for her and for her offspring from Satan the outcast.
And her Lord accepted her with full acceptance and vouchsafed to her a goodly growth; and made Zachariah her guardian. Whenever Zachariah went into the sanctuary where she was, he found that she had food. He said: O Mary! Whence cometh unto thee this (food)? She answered: It is from Allah. Allah giveth without stint to whom He will.
Then Zachariah prayed unto his Lord and said: My Lord! Bestow upon me of Thy bounty goodly offspring. Lo! Thou art the Hearer of Prayer.
And the angels called to him as he stood praying in the sanctuary: Allah giveth thee glad tidings of (a son whose name is) John, (who cometh) to confirm a word from Allah lordly, chaste, a prophet of the righteous.
He said: My Lord! How can I have a son when age hath overtaken me already and my wife is barren? (The angel) answered: So (it will be). Allah doeth what He will.
He said: My Lord! Appoint a token for me. (The angel) said: The token unto thee (shall be) that thou shalt not speak unto mankind three days except by signs. Remember thy Lord much, and praise (Him) in the early hours of night and morning.
As salamu alaykum, Brother Inayath,
Insha´Allah, your prayers will be answered and you conceive healthy babies. There is a post on this site that can be helpful:
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/dua-for-starting-a-family/
Wasalam,
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Aalamoalaikum
My and My husbands tests are sounds good but this month ,its 2nd time that miscarriage happens with me. i recite Surah MARYAM daily and also recite RAb LA TAZARNI FARDAOO WA ANTA KHAIR MINAL WARISEEN.
So please tell me any doooa which help me till baby delivered safely
SADIA
Asalam alaikum sadia ,
please visit this website:(link deleted by the editor due to inappropriate/unauthentic content)
hope it helps
Nada
nada, the link you provided contained innovative practices and extreme disrespect of the Quranic Aayaat. Hence, it was deleted
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor