Need a dua’ to break up with my boyfriend
I am in a relationship since a year and the boy whom i love is non muslim so i dont want to continue with him... i want to get out of dis senseless relationship although i love my boyfriend heartily yet my love for Allah is much important...
I'm still a virgin but i have done something for which I am guilty.. please tell me some duas by wish i can lose the affection of my bf..
Please if you can then help me as soon as possible.... 🙁
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Fatima, Asalaamualaykum,
It is not good enough that you wake up for Fajr, make dua for Allah to help you break away from this 'haraam relationship' and then you make a conscious decision to meet your boyfriend - this is just making a mockery. You need to make a 'conscious decision' to take practical steps to break away from your boyfriend - no matter how what difficulties come your way and simultaneously make dua for Allah to help you to be steadfast in this 'conscious choice'.
Everytime you 'choose' to see your boyfriend, or you choose to speak to him on the phone, you are feeding your nafs. The nafs is like any muscle in your body, it will only become stronger when you train it in the right way. So train yourself to not answer the phone when your boyfriend calls, to maybe change your phone number, to not go and see him when you feel the urge to do so, to swallow the harsh words you may hear from him upon breaking up and to swallow your pain of loneliness. It is not going to be easy breaking away, but if you purify your intention and change your deeds to match your goal - which is to 'to stop this haraam relationship and to ultimately attain Jannah', you will endure the emotional pain for some time, it will make you stronger. So the more you patiently persevere, the easier Allah will make it for you.
At the same time, keep reminding yourself of the greatness of this sin you are committing. Do not belittle the sin by thinking 'Atleast I have not committed zina', as you may not have committed the actual act of zina, but some hadiths of Rasool(sws) say that the other things that are involved in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship are zina. So everytime you work towards continuing this relationship, you are working towards securing your home in hell. So keep reminding yourself of the severity of the sin and punishments attached to it. Please read the information at the following link sister, insha'Allah it will help you: http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/the-sin-of-fornication-and-adultery/
With regards to making dua, make sure you are doing your five daily Salaah on time, make dua in Sujood, make dua in the last part of the night just before Fajr, call upon Allah(swt) by His Names and ask Him(swt) to forgive you for your grave sin.
Busy yourself with other things, for example: spend time with family, good female friends, attend Islamic talks, start learning Tajweed or Tafsir of Quran, go to the Gym or take up other halaal hobbies. The less time you have to do nothing, the easier it will be for you to resist Shaytaan's whispers.
Please make the effort, then put your trust in Allah.
SisterZ
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Salaam sister, i hust read your story, i am in a relationship myself and although it is haram haven't done anything but i want to get married but i'm too young and need guidance. As for u if u really like him encourage his to convert to Muslim. If that doesn't work i think you shold be strong and end it.
Salam sister,
I read your reply to the other sisters'
Question. I have been in a relationship
With a Muslim boy, and I am fourteen. Normally,
People say that it is Haram to be in a
Relationship, as you will waste your time
Talking to him instead of performing prayers
Or you may be lead to sins by Shaitan such
As making zina or other stuff etc. However,
My boyfriend is a great Muslim and he would
Never do anything like that, because he set
Down limits, and he always reminds me of
My prayer if I haven't prayed yet. He talks
To me lots about Islam, Sunnah, and he is
The one who made me strong with my religion
And told me to have faith in Allah. There had
Been times in my life which were bad and
He was the only one there for me, even when
My parents weren't. Please understand that
He is a very good Muslim and would never
Perform zina, or anything similar to it.
We love each other dearly, and we have
Been in this relationship for a long period.
Do I still have to end it?
Please reply A.S.A.P.
Salam.
Nuha,
It is not right for a Muslim non mahram man and woman to spend time together alone, or as part of a social group, or to have personal conversations for no permissible reason by email, text, phone, to hold hands, to hug, to be affectionate etc. You say that he would never dare to commit zina, but as time passes the feelings may become stronger between you both and this sin may occur. This is why Allah commands us not to come even 'near' to Fahisha (illegal sexual intercourse).
The best thing for you is to part with this boy and get on with your studies. If in a few years time, if you are both still interested in one another, then tell your parents and get married.
SisterZ
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Have you ever read the story of Basîrah the saint?
Assalamualaikum Aayat,
Firstly i would like to say that you should be thankful to ALLAH for he saved you from Haram.
Being in relation with a non-muslim or with a muslim is not allowed before marraige. Please don't speicify your sin in front of everyone..........ALLAH knows it. Your soul is pure thats why you want to get rid .......you have two options either convert him to Islam or if he is not doing so you should get apart.
If you read Quran ......ALLAH says " (tarjuma) ................."Humne nek mardo k liye nek aurtein banayi hain aur khabees mardo ke liye khabees aurtein banayi hain".................
Aap bas ALLAH se dua karo ke woh aapko sahi rasta dikhaye...........
You can fall in love many times it's just not about only the one you love. I would request you Aayat that please save yourself from sin............this life is too short and the road to heaven is too vast.
Just listen to your heart.....
thanks.
Asalaam alaikum,
Please take SisterZ's advice, as her muscle analogy is spot on regarding our nafs. Look at your lust as a fire that must be put out with the "water" of abstinence from this relationship so that from the ashes may rise a blossoming flower that will be ready for a proper Muslim marriage and a God loving and fearing man. Having said that, here is a particular dua I find helpful along with the last two chapters of the Qur'an in keeping away from sin.
Oh Allah (swt), I ask You to make me do pious deeds and that which is lawful. Prevent me from doing that which is forbidden, let me do that which is good; protect us, have pity on us, admit us to Your mercy, and cause us to die without ever having been seduced by evil, by Your mercy, Oh the Most Merciful.
SubhanAllah! Beautiful Dua Professor X;
Could you please provide the exact verse(s) and reference?
I want to add to that dua something that helped me control my nafs.
Repeat the following name of Allah 1000x times after Fajr or Isha (whenever you have time):
"Ya Ahadu" (The One) Repeat this Beautiful Name of Allah 1000x if you can after Fajr or Isha prayer, or whenever you have time. The Asmaa-ul Husna, if and when repeated with sincerity and dedication, have a powerful effect on the person reciting them.
Then make dua, a sincere dua, which should involve tears from the Fear of Allah and His punishment. Make dua like that of which you have never made before.
InshAllah, you will soon benefit and control yourself (your nafs) and make your iman stronger.
MuslimBro
Aslamoaliqom....
I've also been thro the same. Except me and him were quite good muslims until shaitan took us away from tht. We havent done zina... no ofc we wouldnt do tht we're just 14. But we have done things that we are guilty off...I was grateful for him because he made me a better muslim and a better person. But ofc we were guilty as we knew we shouldnt have a relationship. It is now ramadan the month of well being religious!.. and i decided tht our relationship .. should be over. As much as it hurts to break up ... i know it is worth it. But is it haraam if i still love him.? and from time to time i get kind of sad about it... is tht bad too?
Please answer me and jasakom allah khair : )..
sarah, we are not judged for our feelings, only for our actions.
Wael
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hi there
i have been engaged for 8 months and i m really not happy with my relationship
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salam,
i need help from dua, can anyone tell how to get rid my mind free from the infatuation of a man, who is tyrant and deceptor and keep illicit relationships with females. he is after me for more than 3 years and i have tried my best to get rid of him, but he is an obstinate and want to have physical relationships with me as well. please help me to free my mind from the thoughts of that man and to divert his mind to other direction so that he may not trouble me again.
wasalam
iqra, please see our articles on duaa (links at the top of the page). We have some good ones. Also, I suggest that you cut off all contact with this man. Change your email address and phone number if necessary. Cut him out of your life altogether.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Eidtor
i cant see any duas for getting rid of a troubled man , can you please specify those duas, i am in dire need of specific duas.
regards
iqra, there is no such specific dua' that I know of. Use one of the duas given, or speak to Allah in your own words.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
aslam o alekum ap sub kese h meri bhi ek problem h dosto plz help me
Salam alikom
My name is KHALED 25 years old . al hamdo li allah i am Muslim . I'm from Algeria and I'm from a Rich family and I have a good job . The last year i met a Korean girl . She is a Christian . Day by day we were talking a lot and she was always finding me beside her when no one stand beside her . After few months we fell in love and we decided to meet . And really we met .
We loved each other's more and mo're and we arranged everything about Marriage . I was always pushing her to stop drinking and to don't eat pork . She really stopped drinking but she was eating pork .
The devil was fooling me because he was telling me it's ok KHALED to be in a relation with her as long your goal is to guid her to Islam .
Sisters and brothers . I'm from an Islamic family and we are conserved family we don't do haram things especially zina .
I had everything . I was arrogant . I was happy for being young and rich and educated and have a young cute and beautiful Korean girl . Or maybe that was what the devil telling me.
My first goal was guiding her to Islam and always i was telling her about Islam and i gave her Quran with Korean language and I told her to be more respectfully in her walking and dressing way .
For me i was doing nothing wrong cuz i was serving Islam . But that was the devil's way to do his work with me . He used me very well .
Last time we met in Europe and we saw some countries but in the end happened ( zina ) . After that by 1 day from our meeting I had a big problem and I went to jail for 1 day and I Lost some Money. It was a misunderstanding and I was innocent but I knew that it was god's warning to me.
I cried a lot and I asked forgiveness from god And I told him to take my heart to him . Not to her.
Last time we didn't talk for 2 weeks and I decided that we must finish and yesterday we broke up and I deleted all our pictures . Now i feel little bit sad but I know I did the right thing and I trust god .
I wanted her to be a Muslim but I was aboit being non Muslim . I was about losing my self . She have a brain and she can know what is the correct religion . I can't controle her heart and make her a Muslim . The prophet's uncle died and he was not a Muslim and I'm not better than the prophet peace be upon him .
My dream now is to marry a good Muslim girl to rise My kids well and teach them Quran and go to heaven all together .
Sisters and brothers . Believe me and don't let the devil fool you and tell you to keep going in your relation because you want your bf or gf to be a Muslim . If you wants that so the best way is to do what our god orders us and he will do the best for us .
Now i believe that if she is my destiny god will bring her between my hands to me and she will become a Muslim .
I can't make her a Muslim . If she really wants that god will help her . Its not my job . I am a man and she is a woman so I don't wanna fool my self any more . Womem help women . Men help men . How i can be in a closer room with her and the devil is the third and lie on my self that I do this just to guid her to Islam .
Plz sisters and brothers be smart and learn from my mistake . You don't have to do the same mistake to learn .
I swear it started with hi in internet anf it ended with zina .
I hope my story will help someone . Its not a magic story . It's true and we just broke up yesterday .
I'm asking god to forgive me and all Muslim . Astaghfiro Allah
Salam alikom . Fi aman Allah.
Thank you for sharing your experience. InshaaAllah many will learn from it. May Allah be with you.
Thank you sister . Honestly I didn't plan to tell my story until I saw the story of sister nuha . So i wanted to warn her the devil will use all the ways to lead us to haram even the way of Islam it self . So we will think we are doing well as Muslims but we are going down in haram . We can't guid people to Islam by doing haram . Allah never put the cure in something haram .
Now I'm asking my self a question . Maybe if I was a good Muslim this will effect on other people and this is may lead them to Islam . No leading them by involving in haram with them . I feel so much regret . Astaghfiro Allah .
hello.......give me a strong powerful prayer that will help a relative who is engaged in an illicit relationaship with a non muslim......awaitin your reply with anticipation...
aslam o alekum
i m zara . i need dua or prayer to get rid from a person.
tat person is a non muslim guy who is in love wit me and wanna marry me.
but i m not in love wit him and dnt want him in my life forever.
i always wanted to b my gd friend but he misunderstood me
Please help me via dua or prayer
hiii assalamualaikum....
This is sabir, i was in love with a girl named Neha Fatima, she was shia muslim and i am sunni muslim, we know its immpossible for us to get married but still we move on and our relationship contineous till 5 years,
every thng is going perfect but suddenly i day she call me and said she got engaged, dat time i cried alot, i asked the reason, she told that the boy which he is goin to marry is rich and earn three time more than you....
the boy is flirter, smoker and he is 31 yrs of age and neha is 21, i prooved against her that he is not a nice guy but still she wants to marry her.....the next day of engagement they started talking late night till 3 am......like they are in relationshp since long time.....suddenly my girl change.....my life change......but now i started hating her.....n move on into my life by looking after my family.....but still i am not able to forget the memories we spent together....i love her like crazy....did every thing for her, supported him financialy, in her bad moment and good moments as well den y she did dis to me........today i came to know that money can buy every thing...
Sabir, if marriage between you two is impossible then you have no future with her and no business with her. You should not be in a relationship with her. It doesn't matter who she marries or what she does. It is not your concern. In any case, she has now revealed her true character to you, so perhaps it's for the best. Next time go the right route and get married, instead of these long-term boyfriend/girlfriend relationships that always end in disaster.
Wael
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As salam alaikum
Wa alaykum as-salam, please register and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn Insha'Allah.
Wael
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Wa alaykum as-salam, please register and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn Insha'Allah.
Wael
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asalamualikum,
Can anyone help me I am in a trouble I want to do breakup after 9 months relationship because of my studies and other reasons. I was not in any physical contact with him. he is also a muslim and loves me more than anything that's why I am afraid to tell him.is there any duaa to help me and I should dare to tell him
Khushbakht, read all the answers already given on this post.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
As Salam o alaikum
I am a muslim girl and 20 years old. I have been in a relationship for 5 years now subtracting 5 months from then when I broke up with him in between when I was 18 years old. We always wanted to get married, actually he was literally forcing me to get married. On the other hand my family don't want me to get married until unless I finish my degree. This created a lot of misunderstanding and problems between us. And it is still happening. We have never been happy. Ofcourse its becox we are doing Haram. We commited a lot sins.. I believe it's becoz I am lack of Iman. Now I am learning researching and trying to be a good muslim girl. I want to end this relationship.I just don't know how to. I need courage. Need a good advice...
Salam
Iam a mother of girl who is in love with a boy .all of us in my family doesntvwant this boy as he is a nuisance,dramatic and irresponsible person.he even have bad habits .We talked to the girl so manso many times but she doesnt listen to us .Is there any dua that we can pray and she forgets about him .
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Wael
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Walaikum Salam sister, Don't worry , pray 2 rakats of tahajjud sincerely and Allah will guide your daughter for sure .