Will I ever marry him?
I am 22 years old and I fell in love with a boy 4 years ago...its one sided love that boy doesnt know me nor does he know I love him...
i want to marry him n I promised my self and Allah that I wil always keep him happy.. i ask Allah to make him best 4 me..
i cnt tell my parents bcz I dnt hv mh guts to talk to them 4 ths.. i love him 2 mh bt cant show tht to him.. i only Ask Allah 4 him... i saw him after 4 years we never talked to each other.
I hv never been in haram relation.. i knw thnking of ths boy who is namahram to me is haram bt I cant help.. wil I ever get him? My love 4 him is true n is jst the same as it was b4...
wht dua shud I do to make Allah fulfil my wish.. i believe in Allah's miracles n I wil nver loose hope insha'Allah.. plz pray 4 me n help me decide what 2 I do?
- Butterfly Girl
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In any culture, it isn't very uncommon for the girl's side to approach the boy's especially where the boy doesn't even know you exist.
Plus you don't even know the boy, you have only just seen him and felt attracted due to his appearance. You may be a good judge of character but its a huge risk.
From an Islamic point of view, i don't see a problem with you wanting to marry him.
Salamualaikum,
It is common that one supperses one's feeling and lets go of it all, then becomes depressed.
If you think he is the one you want to marry and he will help you seek Allah's Pleasure, then do Salatul Istikhaarah and recite the dua of Istikhaarah. In sha Allah, you'll find Allah's Help. You'll see that Allah Guides you, Helps you decide whether he is good for your Deen and Dunya.
Secondly, if you feel shy, you could ask someone close to you, such as your sister, your aunt or someone to talk to your mother about this. If may make the difference.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
but is there a possibility that Allah makes some way for her widout her telling anyone? i mean will Allah listen to her prayer of marrying this man if she makes sincere dua ? i know only Allah knows what HE shall do but is there a high possibility that wid dua somehow that guy marrys her or is it necessary for her to make an effort?
Soha,
It is necessary for her to make the effort. Yes, we never know how Allah Izza wa Jal works, but we can not stay idle, saying Allah Will do it for me.
Miracles do happen. And most importantly, they happen as a result of Salatul Istikhaarah and there's a possibility that the Lord makes it happen, without any effort from the sister, but still, I say she should make some effort. If not for herself, she should ask someone else to act on her behalf wisely, just like I mentioned. Of course, even this should be done after she has performed Salatul Istikhaarah.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salam my sister,
For the man you like, i really suggest you make sure he is of good character, all people look nice on the outside.
Maybe you can ask one of your friends in the same place that you meet this man to ask him if he is single and is looking to get married. Because there is no point in fantasizing for 4 years if you have not even spoken to this fellow. Maybe he is engaged to another and is in a committed relationship.
So get a bolder sister to inquire on your behalf. If he is, talk to your parents and ask them with the next step what you should do. If you are too shy to do this, then sister you will never get married. Get some courage and just do it, because you will have to do this eventually and it is normal to like people and want to get married. Just do it, talk to them and see if they can support you and guide in the process.
Wish you all the best and may Allah make things easier for you.
Ps. I 'll tell you a story. My sister is also very very shy. She liked at a fellow at a masjid and asked one of her friends to see if he is still single. He said he was. so she gave him my sisters email. She spoke to him by email and made sure he was compatible. They agreed to meet with their parents there, and got nikha done.
Thankyou so much for ur responces...unfortunatly I dont have a sister though I have a best friend more like a sister to me but she is even shyer than me..i am friendly with my mother but we have never ever talked on such topic...2nd thing is tht v dont have much friendly terms with the family linking us two..(me n tht boy)...i know Allah can do any thing but it needs my effort too...i may not know too much about that boy but I am sure he is a kind and religious man..hope he hasnt disguised..i request u all plz rmmber me in ur prayrs so I get him and we become best 4 each other...i find myslf helpless and I dont have any other person to share my feeling with except Allah and my best friend..i wil defin8ly do Salatul Istikhaarah insha'Allah...bt if there is something else I can do plz do tel me..like a dua or any effort..
slam!
Hopefully you may get your wish fulfilled... but First you get to know that what kind of Boy he is in Nature and character and Deeds and Most Important is that what kind of Religious person he is... If he is at same level as you are than its ok and PERFECT for you and you have to do Dua as well as A Hard Struggle to reach him and to tell him and its my request to you and only a thing that can work is that "TELL YOU MOTHER If he is kind towards you, each and everything" and he can do With the help of Allah Almighty...
and as for as Dua You just need to Fulfil you religious Obligation Like, Namaz, Roza, Hijab, and than call to Allah "Hassbu Nallah wa Nimall Wakeel, Innaka Alaa Kulli Shai in Qadeer" etc. and Recite Surah Muzzamil and surah Yasin often when you r free....
May Allah Accept your Prayers and Give to you what is Best for you! (Ameen)
Dear Sister,
Honestly you dont even know the man from what you've said, so what your feeling for him isn't love its lust. If by some miracle you do get in contact with him make sure you get to know him properly first before marriage otherwise you'll regret it.
slam!
Hopefully you may get your wish fulfilled... but First you get to know that what kind of Boy he is in Nature and character and Deeds and Most Important is that what kind of Religious person he is... If he is at same level as you are than its ok and PERFECT for you and you have to do Dua as well as A Hard Struggle to reach him and to tell him and its my request to you and only a thing that can work is that "TELL YOU MOTHER If he is kind towards you, each and everything" and he can do With the help of Allah Almighty...
and as for as Dua You just need to Fulfil you religious Obligation Like, Namaz, Roza, Hijab, and than call to Allah "Hassbu Nallah wa Nimall Wakeel, Innaka Alaa Kulli Shai in Qadeer" etc. and Recite Surah Muzzamil and surah Yasin often when you r free....
May Allah Accept your Prayers and Give to you what is Best for you! (Ameen)
my stories the same- 22 years old - loved for 4 years. went same school from age 11. knew him as class student nothing more.
i prayed to allah for him for abt 2 years now. i know hes religious.
recently ive started feeeling weak at praying for him, im loosing hope, but i do trust allah.
@Hina tell your parents you sit and do nothing is pointless only way you can fix this is tell your parents in Islam you have a right to do this, may your wish get fulfilled.
Salam
My problem the same. I am 20 yrs old and I like my cousin who is 25..I don't know how he feels for me but I have caught him looking and doing lots of things which makes me think. I have received a proposal from him but my parents aren't sure on what to do as he is from pakistan and plus there is minor family issues. Please can you guide us with some advice, thanks.
Salaams sister,
Approach your parents and tell them you want to marry this guy. You will only continue to be sad, don't live in a life where you sit and do nothing. Another thing do not discuss this matter with anyone else other than your family and take it from there. May Allah grant your wish for your happiness.
Salaam, I'm in exact same position, literally, so what happened?, please tell me xxx
I love someone he's one year older than me and we both studying in the same uni but different departments i shared my feelings with him one year ago that what i feel for him he told me that he's not ready for any kind of relationship right now bcz he's plz nobody right now this's something big responsibility which has to be taken at some bigger level so when he'll be at that stage he'll give me the answer so he's no giving me any answer he say that it neither 'yes' nor 'no' he doesnot know right now what should I do?
Don't wait for him. He might not even be truly interested. Take his answer as a "no". If you meet someone else good or receive a good proposal, accept it.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I hope you got him by now 🙂