I met a Muslim man after my husband left me, I converted to Islam, will they allow me to marry him?
I'm married in civil in Philippines but I am separated with my husband but not legally cause he just left me then I meet a muslim guy here we love each other so much he wants to marry me that's why I convert to islam.
You think I can marry this guy im afraid they wil not allow cause im still married.what should I do. im a muslim now. please understand and help me.
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You will have to divorce your husband legally then get married to the other man.
Assalamu'alaikum Sister,
May Allah Accept your Islam. The answer to your question depends on where you live. I heard that divorce is not allowed in Philippines. In that case, they may not allow you to marry anyone else.
But in Islam, you are allowed to marry this Muslim guy, if the following is true: You converted to Islam while your husband did not, or he has left you and is a Muslim himself, and does not intend to come back.
In the latter case, you may need to approach a Qaadhi and annul your marriage in order to marry someone else. In the former case, your husband has 3 months time to consider converting to Islam since your conversion. If he does not, he is no more your husband.
It will be best if you can legally portray yourself divorced/single somehow to the government of Philippines. This will make your new relationship legal and avoid other problems.
This is my opinion, and Allah Knows Best.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Abu Abdul,
The woman is saying this: "he wants to marry me that's why I convert to islam". On occassions where it's been a Muslim man who says he wants to convert out of love, you have adviced him to back off. Yet, now, this woman is saying the same thing and you're advicing her how to go for this guy.
I thought I'd point it out to you, because I remember the last time I emntioned this hypocracy, you said that you definitely donnot differ between men and women. You do :).
*a non-Muslim man.
I definately do not. ๐ If you have something to tell this lady, please do so. But do not ask her to go back to Christianity because her sincerity is in question, but ask her to purify her thoughts and her beliefs, her creed.
Get my point?
She has accepted Islam. The people who were asked to study Islam and then consider accepting Islam were contemplating on whether to accept Islam or were to accept Islam in order to make things seem halaal, as far as I remember. And I remember telling you this when you called it hypocricy.
Perhaps my reply was not complete in this post. Please include your valuable words to make it complete. And I hope you are clear now.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I have never told her to go back to Christianity, I just thought I'd point out that you DO give different advice depending on the sex of the person. When it has been men who's said they want to convert out of love for a Muslim girl, everyone - inclusing you - as told the guy that his conversion will not be valid if he's not doing it for Allah. Now this woman is saying SHE has converted out of love for a man and no one is saying to her that her conversion is only valid if she converts for the sake of ALLAH, not this man she wants to marry.
I was adressing you, not her, by the way :).
You keep on generalizing all situations regardless of variables.
There are few points to be noted,
1- The OP said that she has 'converted' to Islam, meaning its done and so we have no right to tell her to back off as she may have been sincere wallahu 'alam. Whereas it some other posts, the non muslim man is 'thinking' or 'considering' to convert to Islam for the sake of marriage contract with no faith. But if they have 'converted', i'm yet to hear anyone advising them to leave Islam lol.
2. With the above said, in normal circumstances, regardless whether a christian or jewish woman converts to Islam or not, a muslim man will be able to marry her and therefore, the scope is wider. Whereas, a muslim woman is forbidden to marry a non muslim man and so if a disbeliever converts for the sake of love marriage contract with no faith in Allah and His messenger etc can you call him a believer ? Ofcourse, not. Therefore, we advise him to either back off or learn about Islam.
You say: "I just thought I'd point out that you DO give different advice depending on the sex of the person."
This is your own perspective which is false. Not depending on the sex but depending on the situation. And I wonder why you were picking on my comments when you had no advise to offer? ๐ You speak as though I don't want women to sincerely accept Islam and I want men to have an upper hand. Neither do I have right to do that nor does anyone have right to accuse me of it. ๐ I have no right to elevate men from what they deserve, nor the women, they are servants of Allah and each has a duty assigned. And dear sister, I have much better things to worry about, than differentiating between Allah's servants, Aakhirah is enough to occupy the time.
Sister hagar mohammed, perhaps you have known what I have not mentioned in my previous reply that sincerity is a pre-requisite in reverting to Islam. If you have not believed in Allah and His Messenger - Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him, then please know that Allah Is The Lord of Jesus peace be upon him himself, who was no more than a human being and His servant, who will return to this earth, to apply Islamic Legislation throughout the World. Islam is the only religion acceptable with the only Lord, so make sure you follow it wholeheartedly so that you reach your destination which is Allah's Pleasure.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalam'alaykum,
Divorce is not allowed in 'civil law of the philippines' whereas it is allowed for muslims under 'muslim code of law of the philippines', so since you are a muslim already, you need to go to a sharia court and the imam their will finalize your divorce and then you can re-marry insha'Allah. Incase, If they don't accept because you married under civil law, then go to a local court and apply for annulment on the grounds of abandonment and most probably they would accept. Therefore, its best to seek permanent divorce before re-marrying.
Since you are in the Philippines, its easier for you to contact any lawyer or sharia council and so ask your questions to get authentic valid answers regarding the procedures and/or documents required.
Ask for the divorce legally I mean on papers
HI
BETTER YOU GET DIVORCE FROM YOUR HUSBAND THEN GET MARRY WITH MUSLIM GUY,
AS ABU ABDUL BARI SAID, IF IN PHILL NOT GIVING DIVORCE THE TAKE SOME SUGGESTIONS FROM LAWYERS, IT MUST HAVE SOME PROVISION FOR THIS, BECAUSE CONVERTING INTO OTHER CASTE YOU NEED NOT TO TAKE A DIVORCE FROM HUSBAND, AS YOUR IDENTITY WILL CHANGE AS THEY TAKE INDEMNITY BOND FOR CONVERTING,
GOD BLESS YOU AND HAVE A HAPPY LIFE AHEAD
GOPI