Dua for starting family? Recommended way to conceive?
How to get pregnant with the new technology
Question:
Asslamualaikum,
I am married and recently started discussing starting a family with my husband. We've received all sorts of health tips but unfortunately not much Islamic advice. I'd like to know of any advice from Qurán or Sunnah about starting a family, duas to make for healthy pious children etc... Also is there a recommended way to concieve? We naturally want to do things correctly so that the pregnancy is easy and our children blessed.
- Adeelah
Sister Noorah's Answer:
Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim
Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah
There are many things you can do to help to conceive a child. First and foremost, it is important that you and your husband are good, practicing Muslims, because this is the foundation of the family and will help you to be in the right physical and emotional state for conceiving. You should both be observing the five daily prayers, fasting, and giving zakah according to your ability. Your income and that of your husband's should be from what is permissible, and not from the haraam, such as interest, or the sale of alcohol or pork.
As for the du'as, it is sunnah to recite the following du'a before engaging in marital intercourse:
Bismi Llah(i), Allahumma jannibna sh-shaytana wa jannibi sh-shaytana ma razaqtana.
In the name of AllÄh. O Allah, protect us from Satan and keep Satan away from the children You grant us. (Bukhari)
As far as specific du'as for conceiving, there is no "magic bullet" du'a, of course, but here are some beneficial supplications from the Holy Qur'an:
"Rabbi la tadharni faradan wa anta khayru al-warithin."
(My Lord! Leave me not solitary (childless though) You are the best of inheritors.)" (Al-Anbiya 89)
"Rabbi hab li min ladunka dhurriyyatan tayyibah innaka sami`ud du`a' (My Lord! Grant me from You upright offspring, for You hear all prayers)" (Al `Imran 38)
Recite these du'as frequently, and also make a habit of remembering Allah throughout your day with "subhanAllah" "alhamdulillah", and "Allahu akbar" and other authentic du'as.
There are also some "worldy" things you can do to increase the chance of conception. The first is to enjoy marital intimacy frequently. A woman is only fertile for a few days out of the month, so if you are intimate often, you have a better chance to conceive. You can purchase ovulation prediction kits (which use your body's temperature to determine when you might be most fertile) and you can keep track of your menstrual cycle to determine your fertile times. Also, RELAX! Marital intimacy should be enjoyable for its own sake, and if you are enjoying one another and not stressing over "having" to get pregnant, you will actually increase your chances, as stress hormones can interfere with pregnancy. There are many stories about women who finally got pregnant after they "gave up" trying and just resigned themselves to not having children.
I highly recommend this book for all couples trying to conceive: How to Get Pregnant with the New Technology by Sherman J. Silber. Although the book is a resource for people experiencing difficulty in getting pregnant, it has a wealth of information on the men's and women's reproductive cycles and practical tips as well.
Make sure also that you are not doing anything that will harm your health. If either of you smokes, stop now. This includes cigarettes, cigars, and the Arabic "hookah" or water pipe. The toxins from tobacco products can badly affect the man's sperm, damaging it and leading to infertility and potential defects in the fetus. Eat good healthy food, avoid processed foods, and maintain a healthy body weight. Exercise moderately. You should be taking a good woman's multivitamin and extra folic acid to avoid a specific birth defect. There are vegetarian vitamins available online or in health food stores that do not contain gelatin or other questionable or haraam ingredients.
As you see, there is a lot you can do to give yourself the best chance of conceiving. One thing to caution you about: you might receive superstitious advice from family members. One might tell you to wear a necklace with a blue stone around your neck, or do something that has been handed down in the family. Avoid this non-Islamic advice and hold to the Qur'an and Sunnah. InshAllah, you will be blessed with a child who will be a pious believer and a coolness for your eyes.
Fi Aman Allah,
Noorah
Editor, IslamicAnswers.com
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Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim
Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah
There are many things you can do to help to conceive a child. First and foremost, it is important that you and your husband are good, practicing Muslims, because this is the foundation of the family and will help you to be in the right physical and emotional state for conceiving. You should both be observing the five daily prayers, fasting, and giving zakah according to your ability. Your income and that of your husband's should be from what is permissible, and not from the haraam, such as interest, or the sale of alcohol or pork.
As for the du'as, it is sunnah to recite the following du'a before engaging in marital intercourse:
Bismi Llah(i), Allahumma jannibna sh-shaytana wa jannibi sh-shaytana ma razaqtana.
In the name of AllÄh. O Allah, protect us from Satan and keep Satan away from the children You grant us. (Bukhari)
As far as specific du'as for conceiving, there is no "magic bullet" du'a, of course, but here are some beneficial supplications from the Holy Qur'an:
"Rabbi la tadharni faradan wa anta khayru al-warithin
(My Lord! Leave me not solitary (childless though) You are the best of inheritors.)†(Al-Anbiya 89)
"Rabbi hab li min ladunka dhurriyyatan tayyibah innaka sami`ud du`a' (My Lord! Grant me from You upright offspring, for You hear all prayers)" (Al `Imran 38)
Recite these du'as frequently, and also make a habit of remembering Allah throughout your day with "subhanAllah" "alhamdulillah", and "Allahu akbar" and other authentic du'as.
There are also some "worldy" things you can do to increase the chance of conception. The first is to enjoy marital intimacy frequently. A woman is only fertile for a few days out of the month, so if you are intimate often, you have a better chance to conceive. You can purchase ovulation prediction kits (which use your body's temperature to determine when you might be most fertile) and you can keep track of your menstrual cycle to determine your fertile times. Also, RELAX! Marital intimacy should be enjoyable for its own sake, and if you are enjoying one another and not stressing over "having" to get pregnant, you will actually increase your chances, as stress hormones can interfere with pregnancy. There are many stories about women who finally got pregnant after they "gave up" trying and just resigned themselves to not having children.
I highly recommend this book for all couples trying to conceive: How to Get Pregnant with the New Technology by Sherman J. Silber. Although the book is a resource for people experiencing difficulty in getting pregnant, it has a wealth of information on the men's and women's reproductive cycles and practical tips as well.
Make sure also that you are not doing anything that will harm your health. If either of you smokes, stop now. This includes cigarettes, cigars, and the Arabic "hookah" or water pipe. The toxins from tobacco products can badly affect the man's sperm, damaging it and leading to infertility and potential defects in the fetus. Eat good healthy food, avoid processed foods, and maintain a healthy body weight. Exercise moderately. You should be taking a good woman's multivitamin and extra folic acid to avoid a specific birth defect. There are vegetarian vitamins available online or in health food stores that do not contain gelatin or other questionable or haraam ingredients.
As you see, there is a lot you can do to give yourself the best chance of conceiving. One thing to caution you about: you might receive superstitious advice from family members. One might tell you to wear a necklace with a blue stone around your neck, or do something that has been handed down in the family. Avoid this non-Islamic advice and hold to the Qur'an and Sunnah. InshAllah, you will be blessed with a child who will be a pious believer and a coolness for your eyes.
Fi Aman Allah,
Noorah
Editor, IslamicAnswers.com
Sister Noorah, jazak Allah khayr. I'm impressed with the comprehensive and intelligent advice you are giving here, ma-sha-Allah.
Assamalaikum va-rahmatullahi va-barkatahu
i have married before two years but till now am unable to conceive i have PCOD problem and taking treatment but its not working out properly am working i doesnt get time to visit doctor regularly so,suggest me some prayers or any roza which will help me to concieve i know allah will fullfill my desire but still i need the help from your side
Walaikumsalaam Haani,
You are making a calculated choice not to go to the doctors; maybe you are busy at work, but you need medical attention, right?? So you need to make an extra EFFORT? Most employers should allow time off for medical treatment.
Allah will help you, when you try to help yourself. So make the effort by getting your full medical treatment and ask Allah to make your efforts fruitful by making dua.
Effort and dua go hand in hand.
Best Wishes, - 'May Allah grant you with a spouse and offspring who are the comfort of your eyes and may you lead the righteous.' Aameen.
SisterZ
asalam alaikum,how r u ? hope you are fine with the bless of Allah,dear im 7mth married, me n my younger sis got married 2gether n she is pergent now mashallal it is her 6th mth,n im still not pargent pls help me by giving me some advice or due so which can help me,but pls write it in easy english
Aslam u Alekim
I m 9th month marid n still not pregnet.i have shown many docter but they says i m perfectly alrite.olz give me some advice n tell me dua for pergnnecy.i will be thank full to u.
ALLAH HAFiz
Assalamualaikum
I've been married for almost 6 years now and every month was just a painful month to dealt with.
I practise your advise on the dua and fasting but it's just not my time yet.
i get more stress everyday..thinking about what going to happen. but i never stop dua that Allah will grant us child sooner. Inshaallah.
asslamu alaikum
mera age 29 aur mere husband ka 30.meri shadi ko 2 shal ho gaye.hum dono ne doctor ko dikhaya hai aur ham dono mehi problem hai.meri right uterus blocked hai. mere husband ka sperm cunt low hai.
hamdono hi baccha ke liye taras rahe he.aap bataye kon sa dua podhe aur kiya kare.plz me bohut stress mai hu. Allah humko madad kare jese sabhi aurat maa bani hai me bhi maa bonu insaallah.
As salamwalaikum,
sister, i am 26yrs old and i am having regular menses too, now we are planning for family, and we are trying this for first time and i am littel bit nervous , sister please suggest me some dua's that will be more helpful and some advices too, i required your reply.
Allah hafiz.
Asalaam Aleykum,
sister am turning 29yrs old this month inshaallah and married for 5yrs.every since i got 2 miscarriage nothing seems to work for me.i have fast and pray. if there is any dua to receite pls help me.
hi, i have been married for a year and my husband came over 7 months ago, i have been trying to get pregnant we havent been using anything. my periods are regular. I want allah to bless me with child. Can you tell me any dua pls or any advice. thankyou
Salam .
1 Problem hai ...
Hamari Wife Ko bacha chaiye
per unme 1 problem hai
unki haddi(bune) me bukhar (Feever) hota hai roz
unki body puri body roz garam hoti hai
karne ka bhi faida nahi hota
aase mahol me babby kese paida kare batao jara
aaslamaycum warhmatullahi
I'm turning to 27 next month and married for 2years . i felt very down when met my husband family keep on asking, "Have'nt pregnant?". i've tried met doctor do some scaning & done my d&c scoopy three month before but no positive result shown. Sis kindly advice me what to do as i really want to conceive but alot of things play my mind
Naeema, has your husband been checked out? The problem may be his. You may also want to do some research on the best timing of intercourse for conception.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
i have been married for 6 years and not becoming pregnent.we are trying for more than 4 yeras.i already have visited so many doc and according to their opinion both of we r allright.so plz give me some doa so that i can be pregnent by the help of Allah sobhanallahtala.
Salam I got merried in July 2010, abt 7 Mnth ago n m still not pregenent,bt my period Is delay for 3 month and I tested with pregnency tester bt it is showing m not pregnent and m stress nw dnt no Wat to do begin to doc bt dey gave me blood test bt the result says m nt pregnant n eveyfin is fine so why m nt getting pregnent? Can u help me with this please. Thank you will wait for ur reply
Salam Farha,
The first comment of this page made by Sister Noorah is excellent, it may help you, inshallah.
Try to relax and feel the joy that you are looking for a baby, there is a post made by Wael in Islamic Sunrays, it is under the label of Inner Peace and it is called: Islamic Meditation for Relaxation and Spiritual Comfort, the link is:
http://islamicsunrays.com/islamic-meditation-for-relaxation-and-spiritual-comfort/
All my Unconditional Love and Respect,
María
For every woman out there, looking to conceive, its not just duas you need, you might need medical attention.first thing to do is BOTH need to get tested, husband and wife. Then if after ONE year of trying you don't conceive, you seek fertility treatment. Dua and medicine go hand in hand, but if sumone has PCOs , u need medical help. Seek Allah's help and also your gyn. Goodluck. May Allah bless you all with healthy children . Ameen!
very nice feeling in respect of Islamic view
Salaam alaykum Sisters.
Thos of you who have Pcos please try a natural hormone regulater called Agnus castus (chaste berry) Try the liquid form 40 drops every morning. You can not take this if you are on any fertility treatment as this will not work.
And do 100 times in sajdah Ayat Karima ( Laillaha Illa Anta subhanaka ini kuntu manazzalamin) for 40 days inshallah you will consive. I did this and I have consived for 2nd time. I was told I had problems, try natural treatment beore you go for fertility treatment. Do google the herb I wote you will hear many amazing stories. Alhamdulillah It helped me.
Another tip which really does do wonders is drink pure rose water mixed with your water every day, as this make your utreus strong and get it ready for implantation. I have tried all this in both pregnances.fennal aslo help alot. We can do what we can but the rest is in Allahs hands.
JAK
Take care
duas and salaam
salam to you sister seyda. itoo suffer from pcos how do you take this chaste tree and do you take this every day or just for a few days?ive heard good things about this but scared about side effects inshallah i will do the aytul karim too.sister can i ask you if you are over weight and insurin resistant as iam both and struggling to lose weight any tips may allah reward you.jazakallah xxxx
asalam alikum
dear sis i got marriage before 1 half year but we r convience for baby but negative result. i have menses problem after the marriage at 1st month only i suffered delay of mense for 1 or 2month i suffered a alot.i consulted to many dctr they gave me a lot of tablets.than i came dubai at first month i got menss and it continue for 15 or 20 days .or some time monthly twice .also irrgular sill im suffering .im very much in trouble plz help me allah and u sis.plz sis give me some tips alahfz
Sister,
Please log in and submit your question as a separate post.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaam,
I've been married for three years trying co conceive but i've had no luck.
Pls help me.
asalaam o alikum
i have some qurani ayat with refrences, read these ayat as many time a day as u can.i am also recently married but because of family problems want to concieve soon. aftrer reciting these dua plz remmber me in your prayers.
1.FAHAB LI MIN LADUNKA WALIYH... WA AJALAHU RAB E RADIYAH (surah mariam: 5,6)
2.RAB NA HAB LA NA MIN AZWAJINA WA DURIYATINA QURAT AL AIYANN WA AJALNA LIL
MUTIKEEN IMAMANN( surah al furqan:74)
3. RABE HAB LI MIN ALSALIHEEN( surah al safat:100)
4. BISMIALLAHI YA BADI AL AJAIBI AL KHAIRI YA BADI
last dua,s refrence i forgotten, but it is also very nice dua for solving problems.
while you reciting 1 dua dnt mix it woth any other.
and surah mariam and surah muzamil are also very helpful for pregnancy.
and dua after tahajud also very effective.
remmember me in your prayers. jazak allah khairaan
Saalam i git marrid six years ago i have lOst one child but can not get pregnent agai its been 4 years. Ow but no luck.recently my husband said too have a child unless im going to get remarrid again i live him sooo much i dont know what to do doctors are saying i have poleyestic overies syndrom i dont have regullar periods they regular for couple months then they stop then i think im Pregnat but im not.
My husband says he wont divirce me i can still live with him and his so called new wife but i dont want too share him and my question to him was what if he does not conceive with his new wife too im in the misdle i dont want to lOse him and i dont want share him please give me some advice on what i should do we are concidering ivf. Ut not sure this is ok in islam
Shamiza, please log in and write your question as a separate post, thank you.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
im married eight months me give advice
Hi Shamiza,
Assalamu alaikum, Polycystic is not at all a problem. Now days most of the women having this issue.
You knew, I've that same issue. But, I believed our lord allah and prayed him as much as I can. Pray 5 times daily, read quran as much as you can. Keep on say tasbi (Ya-allah, ya-rashul like that)
Before intercourse, ask dua to allah "Please bless us with children...".
Go to the doctor who completed "DGO", take proper medicine for PCD. Insha allah, you will blessed by allah with a kid like me.
Alhamthulillah!!!!
am married 6 months am over 40 suffering frm small ovaries menses irregulr mine late marriage want 2 get pregnant any herbal cure for hormones or duas plz guide me.
Assalam - o - Alaikum,
Firstly I want to make dua for everyone who is trying to conceive InshAllah Allah will make this happen.
I was married in Aug 2010 and trying to conceive since march 2011.I am 24 years old.I have irregular menses sometimes and after marriage I have gained almost 12kgs of weight. From few months back me and my husband started taking this seriously and last week I came to know that I have PCOS.
I have started working out on my weight and started improving my routine.
Sister sayeda I will like to try the herb you told...where can I get it?If its available in India or Saudi Arabia?Does it have ant side effects?
Remember me in your duas and I'll do the same InshAllah.
JazakAllah Khair
aswlk... i am trying to conceive from since 2years,,, but doctors saying that ihav right ovarian cyst,primary infertility so plz help me ...giv me any good surah wazifa or tell me some thing best that i can conceive sooon...plz do dua for me...
Dear Ayesha Asalaamualaykum
May Allah grant you and your husband pious off-spring together and may they be a blessing for you in this life and the next, aameen. Every woman desires motherhood and I pray that every woman is showered with this blessing, aameen.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaam,
l pray to Allah the Merciful to grant all women children, I have had IVF treatment twice with no luck, Doctors state thier is nothing wrong with my husband and I, when I feel down and upset which is very often, i remeber that Allah the Merciful has said in the Quran , " No soul shall carry a burdan greater than they are capable of carrying", We need to remebr that at our lowest times such as when our period has statertd and we relise we are not pregnant it is Allah's (swt) mercy that allows us to carry on, at all times we should thank him and pray to him,
Remember Allah (swt) has said every prayer is answered,either stright away, or at a later more convienant time, or we are offered something much better in the hereafter, pls sisters keep me in your prayers at all times and InshaAllah we shall all have children soon,
Aameen to your heartfelt dua dear Sister. May Allah fulfil your desire for motherhood soon and may it be a blessing for you in this life and the next, aameen.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
ASSALAMUALAIKUM WA RAHMATULLAHI WA BARAKATU
DEAR SISTER
INNALILLAHI I LOSS MY SON AFTER BIRTH. SHE BIRTH BABY AFTER TOMUCH PAIN.SHE GAVE BIRTH AFTER 7MONTH 15 DAYS.PLS LET ME KNOW INSHA ALLAH SHE WILL BECOME SOON PREG.
BEST REGARDS,
MOHAMMAD
Brother,
I am very sorry for your loss. "Inna Lillahi wa inna ilayhi Raji un" May Allah grant you and your wife with sabr and make this bring you nearer to Allah. Insha'Allah you will give your wife the time and comfort she needs to recover this loss and Allah will bless you both with a child when He(swt) knows best.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaam Brother,
I pray Allah swt gives yourself and your wife patience in this testing time, and InshaAllah you will soon blessed with a healthy child, to him we belong and to him we will all no doubt return,
your wife will need you to support her right now and please make that a priorty, remebr you have married her in Allahs swt name and promised in Allahs swt name to protect her, please dont be offended by what i say i say this through expereince, in times of distress we tend to blame each other and it is easy for a husband to blame his wife for a miscarrage as she is the one carrying the baby, you need to support and be there for one another and remmebr Allah the Merciful has started in the Holy Quran, that after every distress he gives us ease, trust in Allah swt and nothing is impossible, remebr he is closer to us than our jugular vein,
i will InshaAllah keep you and your wife in my dua and please keep me in ours,
Salam to my fellow sisters and brothers in Islam.
I too have been trying to conceive for three years now. I have done some reading and have also asked a few of my close Friends on how I can Dua to strengthen my iman. Do make the effort to do some research on the influential women in islam who did not bear any kids but yet remain no less than a perfect woman.
- read the yasin every day to be closer to Allah
- fast for seven days and say the names of Allah 'ya baari', 'ya khaliq' and 'ya musawwir' before breaking your fast. InsyaAllah Allah will bless our wombs with righteous children
- Do yoga to help your body regulate blood flow
- drink a lot of water. Regard our womb as soil. The more water it has the more fertile it is
InsyaAllah. Allah will help us if we help ourselves first. I too will try to do the above in the hope where my body system will readjust itself if I try to be healthier both physically and spiritually.
Hamidah,
This is a good idea. All so often we hear about influential Muslim women and their role as Mothers, but I have never heard about the other side, i.e. how did Aisha(ra) feel upon never having had children? I am sure she must have felt the absence, but are there any authentic documented writings on this subject? I wonder. If you do find anything, please let us know here insha'Allah.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor