How can I be happy after divorce?
Divorce...
i am not happy at all. my husband divorced me with invalid reasons.
i have leave my prayers of that reason WHY ALLAH HAVE DONE it as for me.
i want my husband back bcz i am lovin with him.
can i get my husband back in my life
i cant bear him with another woman.
- nimra
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Unfortunately, you can't make someone stay with you just because YOU love them. I do understand that divorce is hard, especially when you still care about your former spouse. But how can you want to be with your ex-husband after he's abandoned you? Don't you feel really betrayed by him? I know I would, in your shoes.
Anyway, I think you have to decide to care more about yourself than your ex-husband. Start focusing on getting your life back on track, value yourself and spend time with the most important people in your life. At some point, when you're ready for it, you can always try to get married again, inshallah :).
Start praying your prayers again, look after yourself and your deen and let your ex-husband be.
Assalamu'alaikum wa Rahmatullah,
I think Adina Mohammadi has rightly said what I would have. However, I would like to tell you that this is the moment that Shaitaan makes use of, and leads a person to the path of Hell Fire. When you are in distress, Shaitaan comes to you and shows evil, makes it seem good, such that you do it, looking for support. You see, what looks like support is actually a pillar of Hell (just for example).
Leaving your prayers will lead you nowhere but to Kufr. The proof is the statement of Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam:
“Between a man and shirk [associating others with Allaah] and kufr there stands his giving up prayer.” (Muslim)
Your saying "Why Allah Has Done this to me?" is also not something detestable. Allah Does not Wrong anybody. He May Test us, but He Loves us. His Mercy cretainly overpowers His Wrath. if we face wrong, it is either because of the choices we make or trials from Allah to see if we thank Him or we be ungrateful. Just like Sulaiman Alaihis Salam said:
...."This is by the Grace of my Lord to test me whether I am grateful or ungrateful! And whoever is grateful, truly, his gratitude is for (the good of) his ownself, and whoever is ungrateful, (he is ungrateful only for the loss of his ownself). Certainly! My Lord is Rich (Free of all wants), Bountiful." (Surah an Naml, 40)
Have patience, let this man go because he does not deserve you. And make yourself ready. Perhaps you have a better man coming to your life. May Allah Make it so. Aameen.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Nimra,
You cannot hold Allah accountable nor leave your prayers due to the fact that your husband has divorced you. If anything, you should hold fast to your prayer as it will be a source of comfort to you at this very emotional time. I am certain you are angry and upset however, Allah is there for you...he is listening.
If I may...why is it that your husband divorced you? What were his reasons and why do you feel they are invalid?
Salam
Hey there beautiful.
Your husband has divorced you for invalid reasons? Doesn't that prove how much he is NOT worth being with!
I understand that you are left heartbroken, and you are suffering; in so much pain. But you have to be patient and put your trust in Allah that he will give you something so much more better. Just be patient sister - I assure you that something amazing will come your way.
I know it's hard, but you have to be strong or you will not get over this. Keep busy and get closer to Allah - that will get rid of the pain.
I hope you get over this, and I hope you will be happy insha'Allah.
Salaam Nimra,
I know exactly how you feel was going through the same thing in fact i found out he moved on with another woman. Yes it hurts the worse thing a woman could ever feel betrayed especially when you have kids with a man like that .
At times i felt angry , distressed and a lot of pain. I would cry myself to sleep but one day i thought is he crying for me? No Hes not worth my tears to be honest he didn't deserve a woman like me im educated, independent, with family values, beautiful, loving and a working professional. His friend advised him in front of me your making a big mistake if i had a wife like her i would never leave her but he turned away arrogantly.
It then clicked how did i stay with a man like that he would beat me, put all the financial burdens on me and responsibility of the children. He would stay out all hours of the night. If he loved me he wouldn't treat me like this or abandon me.
You should try and keep yourself happy most importantly love yourself. My mum says to me i don't think i could be as strong as you but i have no choice because life is a struggle. I trust Allah, his judgement and i believe Allah has a better plan for me likewise he has for you ameen.