Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Want to marry a non-Muslim girl

Posted by • October 19, 2011 • Printer-friendly
Marriages betweent the people of different faiths are becoming a norm.

Assalam O Alaikum,

I want to marry a non-Muslim girl. What is the correct procedure for that to take her in my religion?

Wasalam,

ashfaq ur rehaman.


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  1. wael
    October 19, 2011 • 1:33 am

    Brother ashfaq ur rehaman, wa alaykum as-salam,

    As a Muslim man, you are allowed to marry a Christian or Jewish woman who is chaste. You can marry her normally as you would with a Muslim woman, meeting all the requirements of nikah in Islam. However, if she belongs to some other religion - for example, Hindu, Buddhist or atheist - then she is not halal for you and you cannot marry her.

    With that said, even if she is Christian or Jewish and halal for marriage, I do not recommend it. The situation presents too many problems. Will she support you in your faith? Will she keep an Islamic household with no pork or alcohol? Will she guard the privacy of your home as a Muslim woman would, not admitting any man in your absence?

    And then there's the matter of the children. What religion will they be? Even if she agrees that they will be Muslim, you cannot expect her to help you raise them as Muslim. Certainly she will not be able to teach them to pray, teach the girls to wear hijab, etc.

    For all these reasons, I feel it's a mistake to marry a non-Muslim woman. Find a Muslim bride who will help you on the journey to the aakhirah.

    Wael
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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  2. Abu Az-Zubayr
    October 19, 2011 • 4:27 pm

    brother, seriously, can i ask you why on earth you would want to marry a kaafirah, and make her pregnant, so you give your future children a disbelieving mother.

    the prophet[saww] said "choose the one with the religion, or may your hands be rubbed in dust"
    this is a form of rebuke, meaning may you turn out to be poor,hungry/unfortunate etc if you do such and such, or if you dont do such and such.
    and this is comming from the prophet[saww], no one else!

    why would you put such stress upon your future children by giving them a disbelieving mother?
    how would you feel if your father married a nonmuslimah and thus gave you a disbelieving mum?
    wallaahi you would not sleep one night peacefully knowing your mother who is dear to you is a disbeliever.

    some of the companions married some christian women in egypt as they were flabbergasted by the beauty of those such women of a certain tribe back then, then ameerul mumeneen 'Umar [ra] wrote to them and asked every single one of them to divorce their christian wives as their were countless muslimaat/muminaat out there.
    marrying christians is without a doubt halaal, and neither did 'Umar [RA] say it was haraam, but those companions[ra adjma'een] still obeyed him as he was not asking for anything haraam. [taareekh tabaraani]
    and those christian women backthen, and women in general were submissive. this is faaaaaar from that case now.

    if you divorce your non muslim wife she will most likely get custody of the child.
    whereas in the sharee'ah, if the mother is not a muslimah, the man gets the child without further trail etc.

    there are many beauftifull muslimaat out there, who have imaan, akhlaaq, etc

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    • Abu Az-Zubayr
      October 19, 2011 • 11:59 pm

      i think there was ahadeeth of the prophet[saww] deleted from thit above comment of mine, am i right?

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      • wael
        October 20, 2011 • 1:31 am

        Only because there are some hadith that have to be taught and presented in context, as a part of Islamic learning; otherwise people will find them strange and off-putting. That's why Islamic studies classes don't just have students pick up Al-Bukhari and read it. Instead, hadith are taught along with Quran, tafseer, seerah, aqeedah and fiqh, as part of a system of study.

        Wael
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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    • Normal Poster
      October 20, 2011 • 11:54 am

      Actually the end of this riwaya ends with Umar al Khattab RA prescribing advice to the believers to not marry any ahl al-Kitab until all believing women are married.

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  3. Azimoddin
    May 21, 2013 • 8:25 pm

    Assalam,

    My self Azimoddin. and i am a 24 years old guy. i want to marry a hindu girl ( brahmin),
    kindly suggest me on this. and help me out to take the decision on the bases of shriyat..

    what all are the requirements and conditions to get marry with hindu girl... how to marry..
    i am struck in this situation. and please drop me a mail to (email address removed) with detail procedure, conditions, requirements, whether i can marry / can't marry / if yes what needs to be done further about future, children, lifestyle etc.

    Wassalam

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