Should I marry him just because of his Deen, his character?
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ssalamu aleykum I met this guy 3 years ago despite the fact i do things to make him upset, and i don't understand why i do that , he still like me the way i am and want us to get married.
Most of the time i think i'm not good enough for him .One thing i love about him is the fact that he is a good muslim , his honesty and i don't know what else i like about him, apart from religion...
my parents like him i'm still confused about my feelings for him and i'm scared of losing a good man any advices will be greatly appreciated. We never have intercourse ! we're waiting to be married first...
- meenah
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asalamu alaikum,
if his character and deen are in check, I suggest you should accept. in a hadith prophet Muhammad(pbuh) said if a man comes to you and you are pleased with his deen and character than marry them.
at the end of the day you got to realize we only here temporary, our goal is jannah inshallah, so its best to find a brother who will help you and vice-versa in this world and the hereafter, cos death will come knocking at our door unannounced.
keep your eyez on the prize(jannah)
ma salama
Walaikumassalam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu.
Do istikhara sister.
check this link http://www.islamawareness.net/Dua/Fortress/026.html
May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!
Salam Sister!!
Yes Surely you should accept him and should spend your life with him in Halaal way!!!
I don't agree with the rest of those who've answered you already, you should not marry this man until you know more about him. He might appear to be a good Muslim on the surface, but you must know what kind of character he's really got, and what about it you actually like, before you can determine if he is a genuinely good Muslim, or if he's just one of those Muslim guys who say they are religious and act like they're religious, but when you get to know them better, they're actually hypocrites who commit the worst sins.
Make sure to involve your parents, ask them to find more out about this guy - don't blindly believe he's a great Muslim, many sisters have made the mistakes of their lives by being gulliable and not put enough effort in to knowing a man and work out if he's good husband material before marriage.
Excellent advice! Mashallah
Very great answer. Ma Sha Allah.
Asaalamialaikum,
Sister, the answer is: yes you should. If you think you are not good enough for him, that need not be true. Perhaps Shaitaan is standing behind you and saying: no you aren't good for him and he isn't for you.
Do not listen. Instead, ask Allah. Do Salatul Istikhaarah.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Go for his religion first n religion includes the character as its among the very important of religion.when u think he qulaifies than go for istikhara and whatever decision comes follow that.
Salaam
Don't ever marry someone because you are afraid you might lose a good man. You need to really assess your reasons for considering this man. You should marry based on deen and character - that is important and very beautiful but you also need to be happy with the idea of marrying him. It is something you should want ideally. Also there does need to be attraction and definetly compatibility between you both.
I advise you to do Istikhaarah - please see the above links on istikhaarah and read them through carefully before commencing.
And be honest with yourself at all times.
Sara
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Prophet Muhammad (Peace be Upon him) has said, ' One should look for the following 4 qualities while seeking a partner for marriage'.
1. Virtue
2. Nobility
3. Beauty
4. Wealth
If you think He fits in this criteria, then go ahead with this marriage.