Islamic marriage advice and family advice

We’re divorced but I want her back

interfaith, torn, children, marriage problem, lonely

Salam,

Please inshallah, can you help me with a life changing situation? It is so important that I do not want any opinions. I only want references and inshallah names of scholars who I can approach myself to ask for a solution.

My wife divorced me after a nearly 3 year marriage. We have a now 2 year old son, who I have not seen for a year. We both regret the divorce and want to be together in a halal married way.

The only information I have found so far talks of the process of divorce in the Koran and some hadeth and history regarding Umar (?) with his shariah rulings, saying divorce is irrevocable and both parties must marry and divorce others before they can be married again to each other.

Allah knows all I have done for a year is pray and beg him to give me my wife back. She would not even speak to me for 6 months and I was despairing, but now she says she loves me but does not want to do anything haram.

Personally, I would be with her tomorrow. I don't feel divorced. I feel I am still married to her. That love has only grown, and I miss her and my son every day. It is a horrible way to live.

Please, I would appreciate any information about the reality of divorce. Has there ever been hadeeth of people who divorced and remarried without the awful process of marrying someone else? Is there any hope of mercy from Allah if we marry again, as we both love each other and have a son?

Thank you.

salam,

-nardar

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  1. As-salamu alaykum brother,

    I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I could answer your question but you have stated that you only want replies from scholars or references to scholars, and I am not a scholar.

    You could try submitting your question at IslamQA.com:

    http://www.islamqa.com/en

    Best regards,

    Wael
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • wa alaykumusalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

      Isn't divorce halal twice....

      • The brother stated that he does not want answers from us, so I respected his wishes.

        Wael
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

        • ASSALAMALAIKUM-
          DEAR WAEL GOOD OF YOU TO RESPECT HIM-
          Please, I would appreciate any information about the reality of divorce. Has there ever been hadeeth of people who divorced and remarried without the awful process of marrying someone else?
          HE IS EAGER TO KNOW THE -EXAMPLE[PLS SEE INBE UMAR CASE AND THE DIRECTIONS GIVEN BY NABISALALAHUALAHAIWASALAM IN MY ANSWER BEFORE THE PARAGRAPH OF LAST SERMON-

          I THOUGHT IT IS OUR DUTY TO BRING THE CONFIDENCE IN QURAN AND HADEES FOR THE UMMAH WHEN- HE HAS ASKED FOR EXAMPLE-

          AND YOU KNOW IN FRONT OF OUR EYES DAY AND NIGHT THE PRANKS PLAYED BY THE SO CALLED BOSSES WHO ARE SITTING TO BREAK THE HOUSES HAVE NO REGARD FOR THESE FEELING[Personally, I would be with her tomorrow. I don't feel divorced. I feel I am still married to her] FOR WHICH ALLAH HAS MADE OPTIONS-
          AND THIS......The only information I have found so far talks of the process of divorce in the Koran and some hadeth and history regarding Umar (?) with his shariah rulings-WE NEED TO TRUST-THAT SOURCE........ Precedent that must be applied or followed is known as binding precedent (alternatelymandatory precedent, mandatory or binding authority

          OR ELSE WE WILL BECOME ASTRAY-
          REGARDS

        • Yeah, good idea.

    • This could help Insha'Allah
      http://www.islamqa.info/en/ref/45174

  2. ASSALAMALAIKUM-
    1ST PLS DECIDE U BELIEVE IN QURAN AND HADEES OR EXPLANTIONS OF PEOPLE..
    AND DIVORCE IS NOT DOLLS PLAY PLS REMEMBER-
    THIS ANSWER IS FOR YOU BE IT LONG BUT I MUST COVER CERTAIN POINTS-

    DEAR NARDAR-TODAYS ITSELF NOT TOMORROW-YOU CAN GO AND BRING HER BACK AS BOTH ARE HUSBAND WIFE NOW ALSO-YOUR TALAQ WAS OF THE MISCHIVIOUS TYPE[3TALAQS IN ONE SITTING IS SATANIC & NOT FROM SHARIAH]REJECTED IN ISLAM-AND SHARIAH-

    IF YOU HAVE TO MEET THEN YOU MUST MEET THE SAUDI AUTHORISED SCHOLARS THEY ALSO WILL-QUOTE FROM QURAN AND HADESS WHICH IS PRESCRIBED BY ALLAH AND NOT LIKE THE SUB CONTINENT ONES WHO QUOTE FROM THEIR OWN WHIMS AND FANCIES....

    IF YOU ARE THINKING OF SUB CONTINENT GURU SCHOLARS-I THINK YOU ARE.... THAT THE-TODAYS SCHOLARS WHO ARE PLAYING WITH ISLAM AS MORE BETTER AND SURE TORCH BEARERS OF ISLAM-SORRY WRONG IS YR JUDGEMENT[Muslims in general get confused at the hands of Mullahs, the so-called Ulema. THE OBVIOUS REASONS ARE ABONDONING THE OF THE BOOK OF ALLAH AND REFERENCE EXPLAINED IN HADEESES-]
    I don't feel divorced. I feel I am still married to her. That love has only grown;;;THIS ALLAH SET
    THE REAL ISLAMIC GUIDENCE[QURAN&HADEES]SEEING -NATURE OF MANKIND AND HE GAVE THE SOLUTION- READ THE 3 POINTS.......

    1]QuraN-2:229 "Divorce is twice. Then, either keep [her] in an acceptable manner or release [her] with good treatment.NOTE-3RD FALLS AFTER THE 2ND-WHEN THE ARBITRATORS ARE WITNESSES FOR HER RELEASE-[SURAH TALAQ-65 QURAN]
    NO ROOM FOR INSTANT DIVORCE-
    2]This method of divorce prescribed by the Qur’an, i.e. taking three months to finalize it, makes it impossible for a man seeking divorce suddenly to cast his wife aside.

    3]Once he has said to his wife (who should not at this time be menstruating), “I divorce you,” both are expected to think the situation over for a whole month. If the man has a change of opinion during this period, he can withdraw his words. If not, he will again say, “I divorce you,” (again his wife should be in a state of “purity”) and they must again review the situation for a further month.
    3RD EXPLANATION-Even at this stage, the husband has the right to revoke the proceedings if he has had a change of heart. If, however, in the third month, he says,“I divorce you,” the divorce becomes final and the man ceases to have any right to revoke it. Now he is obliged to part with his wife in a spirit of good will, and give her full rights.

    This prescribed method of divorce has ensured that it is a well-considered, planned arrangement and not just a rash step taken in a fit of emotion. When we remember that in most cases, divorce is the result of a fit of anger, we realize that The prescribed method places a tremendous curb on divorce or marriage, one utterance is enough, but for a divorce to be finalized, 3 UTTERANCES ARE REQUIRED-BETWEEN BETWEEN WHICH A LONG GAP IS PRESCRIBED BY SAHRIAH-The purpose of this gap is to give the husband sufficient time to revise his decision, and to consult the well-wishers around him.

    THIS IS ONLY THE GAME THE SUB CONTINENT BOSSES OF DELUSION WHO ARE PLAYING WITH THE LIVES OF INNOCENT UMMAH-
    saying divorce is irrevocable and both parties must marry and divorce others before they can be married again to each other.[1ST THEIR TYPE OF TALAQ IS INVALID AND HARAM IN SHARIAH NULL AND VOID]

    The Prophet then observed, “All three count as only one. If you want, you may revoke it.” Fath al-Bari, 9/275

    PL NOTE STRONGLY THE 3 TALAQS IN ONE SITTING IS HARAAM AND EVEN IF PERSON GIVES TALAQ 50 TIMES OR 100 TIMES ALSO IN ONE BREATH IT IS EQUAL TO ONE ONE ONE ONE ONE TALAQ[DIVORCE]
    PL SPREAD THIS MESSAGE TO THE WORLD THAT ISLAM DOES NOT RECOGNISE DEVIATED SCHOLARS FATWAS-EXCEPT THE HOLY PROPHET SALALAHUALAHAIWASLALAM - DECLARATION-
    QUR4AN-SURAH TALAQ-65-....O Prophet, when you divorce women, divorce them for their waiting-period, *1 and compute the waiting period accurately, *2 and hold Allah, your Lord, in awe. Do not turn them out of their homes (during the waiting period) â nor should they go away (from their homes) *3â unless they have committed a manifestly evil deed. *4 Such are the bounds set by Allah; and he who transgresses the bounds set by Allah commits a wrong against himself. You do not know: maybe Allah will cause something to happen to pave the way (for reconciliation). *5"If you have to divorce your wives, you should divorce them till the expiry of their waiting-period".
    The intention of this verse is further explained by a few other Ahadith which have been reported from the Holy prophet (upon wham be Allah's peace) ai d some of the major Companions. Nasa'i has related that The Holy Prophet was infomed that a person had pronounced three divorces on his wife in One sitting. HE STOOD UP IN ANGER AND SAID-:'
    `Are the people playing with the Book of Allah, although I am present among you?"Ibn 'Umar, may Allah be pleased with them, reported: I divorced my wife while she was menstruating during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him).
    AND QURAN EXPLANATION HAS TO BE GOT FROM THE HADEES AND SEE THE STEPS SHOWN IN THIS-
    'Umar bin Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) asked Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) about it, whereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Command him ('Abdullah bin 'Umar) to take her back (and keep her) and pronounce divorce when she is purified and she again enters the period of menstruation and she is again purified (after passing the period of menses), and then if he so desires he may keep her and if he desires divorce her (finally) before touching her (without having an intercourse with her), for that is the period of waiting ('Iddah) which Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, has commanded for the divorce of women-
    PLS GO BRING HER AND COME TODAY ITSLEF-I CANT SAY MORE THAN THIS QUOTE FROM ARAFAT...
    The Last Sermon (Khutbah) of Prophet Muhammad (Farewell Sermon)
    I leave behind me two things, the QURAN and my example, the SUNNAH and if you follow these you will never go astray.
    http://quranexplorer.com/index/Sura_065_At_Talaq_DIVORCE.aspx

  3. assalamalaiakaum-Mahmud
    Isn't divorce halal twice....
    IT IS REVOCABLE-

    QuraN-2:229 "Divorce is twice. Then, either keep [her] in an acceptable manner or release [her] with good treatment.NOTE-3RD FALLS AFTER THE 2ND-WHEN THE ARBITRATORS ARE WITNESSES FOR HER RELEASE-[SURAH TALAQ-65 QURAN]AND THAT PROCEDURE IS CLARIFIED AND TAUGHT HERE FROM SHARIAH-'Umar bin Al-Khattab (may Allah be pleased with him) asked Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) about it, whereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Command him ('Abdullah bin 'Umar) to take her back (and keep her) and pronounce divorce when she is purified and she again enters the period of menstruation and she is again purified (after passing the period of menses), and then if he so desires he may keep her and if he desires divorce her (finally) before touching her (without having an intercourse with her), for that is the period of waiting which Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, has commanded for the divorce of women-
    REGARDS

  4. Dear Brother,

    As you do not want opinion then i think its a not right platform, you should seek help on some Islamic website like IslamQA.com: etc.

    but i cannot stop myself recommending to you after reading that you would be meeting her. i think it would merely increase your pain and when she is also emotional, both of you could do wrong/haram things. I am sorry, i don't mean to hurt but such possibilities will always be there. your meeting each other will merely increase your emotional pain and loneliness. (My brother/sisters, please correct me if I am wrong) being divorced, you guys are strangers to each other now and such meeting will be 'haram' in light of Islam.

    your sister.

    • ASSALAMALAIKUM-
      a repenter muslimah.....being divorced, you guys are strangers to each other now and such meeting will be 'haram' in light of Islam.
      THEY ARE NOT DIVORCED-HOW CAN YOU MAKE THEM DIVORCED WHEN QURAN AND HADEES IS DEFIED AND THIS TREND-IS MADE IN THE WHOLE SUB CONTINENT U KNOW LAKHS AND LAKHS OF GIRLS ARE RETURNING HOME AND ARE DROWNED IN THE QUICK SAND-
      PLS CLARIFY OR ATLEAST SHOW PROOF THAT 3 TALAQ IN ONE SITTING MAKES THEM DIVORCED-YOU STRAIGHT AWAY TOLD THIS SENTENCE WHICH IS ALREADY HARMING THE UMMAH YOU ARE ADDING FUEL TO THE FIRE-BY THIS-

      THEY ARE NOT DIVORCED AND YOU MUST GIVE AUTHENTIC PROOF NOW FOR YR DECLARATION
      being divorced, you guys are strangers to each other now and such meeting will be 'haram' in light of Islam.
      BECAUSE THE READERS HERE WILL GET INFLUENCED BY YOUR SENTENCE-
      WAITING FOR YOUR ESTEEMED ANSWER-
      REGARDS

      • Dear Brother Yousuff, Walekumsalam.

        1. My answer was based on this brother's saying " My wife divorced me" ( i took it as it was done properly as per Islam.

        2. since i am not a scholar, that's why, i added "My brother/sisters, please correct me if I am wrong"
        also that's why i recommended him to seek help of IslamQA.com to confirm/seek clarity on this matter.

        3. I just wanted to warn him not to do anything (while meeting his wife) that he may have to regret later as he is not sure of his situation. He/his wife are in emotional state as i could understood from the post and in such cases, there are always the possibilities that people make mistake of one kind or another.i wanted him to be saved from any further mistake or frustration. that's it. I have no bad intention to misguide anyone.

        However, taking your words that if they are not divorced as per Islam or if there is nothing wrong if they meet , then i correct myself and thank you for correcting me.

        • Dear Brother,

          I read your response which is yet to publish here. I felt a bit as my intentions were not bad (I know nor yours), I think the confusion arose as brother has not detailed properly about his divorce. As he said “ I don't feel divorced. I feel I am still married to her.” I was concerned over his ‘feel’ thing.

          “It is a horrible way to live”, such emotion can not only put him in depression but can also mislead him as- at the time of putting this question or before reading your response, he would be thinking/planning/doing things based on his ‘feel’ing. Such things can not only pain/frustrate him but can also be against Islam. Hope I am clear on this and my intention….

          May I got afraid of reading your response in capital letters 🙂 (at least for a hyper sensitive person like me, it happens) but you don’t need to be sorry for anything as being Muslims, it is our duty to correct each other, to enlighten each other about religion. You major focus was on his divorce issue, mine was his being emotional and depressive and such things cannot be proof but only meant to be felt. I don’t have rich knowledge of Holy Quran & Hadees as you have. I would be happy to improve my learning through brothers like you. We both aimed to help him out in one way or other, so its all ok. 🙂

          Your Sister.

          • SHUKRAN
            MAY ALLAH SHOWER HIS CHOICEST BLESSING AND OPEN YOUR HEART TO HIS BOOK AND TO THE [ORGINAL]TEACHINGS OF HIS BELOVED PROPHET SALALAHUALAHAIWASALAM-
            REGARDS

  5. Salam Ali Yousuff,

    Is there any reason that your reply has to be in capital letter? I just find it so hard to read your font. If possible, release the capital font and let us read your opinion easily. Thanks.

  6. As-salamu alaykum brother nardar,

    I wasn't going to respond since you said you don't want responses from us, but I see you're getting responses anyway and no one is addressing the main issue.

    Divorce is only irrevocable in Islam if you have been divorced three times. If this is only the first or second time you divorced your wife then you can remarry her with no problem.

    As far as "halala" - the act of marrying someone with the intention of having sex then divorcing, so that the woman can marry her first husband - it is forbidden and was cursed by the Messenger of Allah (sws). It is a sin and a mockery.

    Rather, what Islam says is that if you have been divorced three times, and your ex-wife marries another man sincerely, with the intention of staying with him as his wife, but for whatever reason the marriage does not work out and ends in divorce, then she is halal for you again.

    But it sounds to me like this is your first divorce from your wife, which means you can marry her again if you are both willing.

    Quoting from IslamQA.com:

    Revocable divorce is that in which the husband has the right to take the wife back, without a new marriage contract, dowry or consent of the wife. The divorce in which the husband has the right to take the wife back is the first or second divorce, before the ‘iddah ends. But if the ‘iddah of a first or second divorce ends, it becomes irrevocable in a minor sense, and she cannot go back to her husband unless she agrees and there is a new marriage contract and a new dowry.

    There is no difference of opinion concerning this among the scholars, and the evidence for it is the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “The divorce is twice, after that, either you retain her on reasonable terms or release her with kindness” [al-Baqarah 2:229].

    If a third divorce takes place, she is not permissible for him except after she marries another husband in a genuine marriage, then he divorces her or dies after consummating the marriage with her -- and this is the irrevocable divorce in the major sense.

    The evidence for that is the following verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And if he has divorced her (the third time), then she is not lawful unto him thereafter until she has married another husband. Then, if the other husband divorces her, it is no sin on both of them that they reunite, provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allaah. These are the limits of Allaah, which He makes plain for the people who have knowledge” [al-Baqarah 2: 230].

    (End of quote). It constantly surprises me how much ignorance there is about the issue of divorce in Islam. As the scholar said, there is no difference of opinion about these matters among the 'ulemaa. It's not a mystery. And Allah knows best.

    Wael
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • assalamalaikum-
      THIS IS THE BEST ANSWER FOR THE QUESTIONER-
      IT IS THE SAME THING I HAVE BEEN TELLING FROM DAY ONE AS THE ONE DIVORCE IS NOT A COMPLETE DIVORCE WHICH MAKES THEM STRANGERS-

      AND THAT IT IS EASY TO RECOINCILE AS PER THE INTENTION OF ALLAH TO UNITE THE HEARTS-
      PROOF IN QURAN FOR THE COUPLE TO RECOINCILE
      O PROPHET[SALALAHUALAIHIWASALAM] WHEN YOU DIVORCE YOUR WOMEN,DIVORCE THEM IN THEIR WAITING PERIOD,COMPUTE THE WAITING PERIOD ACCURATELY, DO NOT TURN THEM OUT OF THE HOUSES IN THEIR WAITING PERIOD,NOR SHOULD THEY GO AWAY FROM THE THEIR HOMES,UNLESS THEY HAVE COMMITTED ANY MANIFESTLY EVIL DEED,SUCH ARE THE BOUNDS SET BY ALLAH,ANY ONE TRANSGRESSES THESE BOUNDS SET BY ALLAH SHE COMMITS WRONG AGAINST HIMSELF,
      YOU DO NOT KNOW MAY BE ALLAH WILL CAUSE SOMETHING TO HAPPEN TO PAVE THE WAY FOR RE-CONCILIATION,IF YOU HAVE TO DIVORCE YOUR WIVES YOU SHOULD DIVORCE THEM TILL THE WAITING PERIOD [SURAH TALAQ-65 [AL-QURAN]
      [THE GIRL BEING IN THE HOUSE OF THE HUSBAND]

      COMING TO-
      Divorce is only irrevocable in Islam if you have been divorced three times.
      BUT THIS ALSO NOT EFFECTIVE AS COMPLETE PROCEDURE OF DIVORCE- IF IT IS NOT DONE AS PER THE 3 MONTH STEPS- GUIDED BY NABISALAHU ALAHAIWASALAM-IN THE CASE OF IBNE UMAR-

      THEN DEFINITELY THE 3 RD BECOMES IRREVOCABLE ..... As far as "halala" - the act of marrying someone with the intention of having sex then divorcing, so that the woman can marry her first husband - it is forbidden and was cursed by the Messenger of Allah (sws). It is a sin and a mockery.

      HOPE YOU ARE AT REST NOW THAT WAEL HAS CLARIFIED YOUR PROBLEM -
      REGARDS-

      • Dear Brother ALI YOUSUFF & Brother Wael

        One of our Sister is going through a tough time and need guidance in light of Islam. Since I am not a scholar but i want to help her out, therefore may i request you both to please guide her in light of Islam. Given below is the link to the question put up by her on this site.

        http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/husband-emotionally-unavailable/comment-page-1/#comment-145151

        I am sorry for putting up this way but i dont way other way out. Please do help her out.

        Jazakallahu Khairan

        • Sister Noha has received 109 responses to her post. I think that's plenty.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • I agree but except a few, rest are personal opinion/advise.
            She needs guidance in light of Islam ( Holy Quran and Hadees) Tha'ts why i have requested. What are her rights and what would be appropriate course of action as per Islam, is all she needs to know. If possible, please help her.

          • While reading answers on this website, I came across this link http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/head-covering-obligatory/

            and i happened to read a hadees as follows-

            Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: Allah does not accept the prayer of a woman who has reached puberty unless she wears a veil" ( Abu Dawood )

            Is it authentic? could you please refer more about it? does it refer to covering while offering saleh or covering in general?

          • The word "veil" in this hadith simply refers to hijab. A woman cannot pray without being properly covered.

            Wael
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • Brother Wael,

            109 response is plenty of responses but it is not a valid reason to turn down someone when they specifically asked for your help. May Allah forgive us and guide us all. Ameen.

    • As-salamu Alaykum, Br. Wael,

      Does this information/advice change in the case of khula (female-initiated divorce)?

      The poster specified that his wife divorced him, so it may be that he did not pronounce divorce at all.

      Br. Nardar, you need to speak to someone knowledgeable about such matters. Almost every Muslim country has judges and muftis who are legally qualified to tell you where you stand with your wife. You can often speak to them on the phone. If you live in a Muslim country, you can also visit the local Shari'ah court or department that deals with such matters.

      But when you present you case and ask your question, you need to be very specific about what happened. Otherwise you may not receive the correct information.

      If you post here with your location and let us know the languages you speak, perhaps someone can point you in the right direction.

      • "Does this information/advice change in the case of khula (female-initiated divorce)?"

        As far as I know it's the same deal. But I cannot say definitively.

        Wael
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  7. ASSSALAMALAIKUM
    REG NOHA-
    She needs guidance in light of Islam ( Holy Quran and Hadees)
    I READ THE WHOLE PAGE PLS ASK HER TO WRITE BACK WITH SHORTEST MATTER-AND WITH THE
    POINTS NUMBERED SO THAT WAEL AND OTHERS-AND ME CAN KNOW AS OF TODAYS WHAT IS HER WORRY AND WHAT SHE WANTS TO KNOW -
    SHE HAS PRAISED HER HUSBAND IN MANY PLACES AND REBUKED ALSO -
    REGARDS

  8. ASSALAMALAIKUM-
    A woman cannot pray without being properly covered.
    DEAR WAEL THISIS TO INFORM YOU THAT THIS[HADEES] I HAVE SENT TO MILLIONS OF PEOPLE FROM 2 YEARS AND THE REFERENCE IS NOT FOR THE TIME OR IN THE PERFORMANCE OF SALAH-OF SALAH ONLY-
    IT IS THIS REFERENCE WHICH APPLIES -MEANING ALL THE TIME THE WOMAN FROM THE TIME AND AGE OF PUBERTY-
    FROM
    1]QURAN-The Noble Qur'an - Al-Ahzab 33:59
    O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils)* all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
    2]Allah, the Exalted says:
    “…TELL YOUR WIVES AND YOUR DAUGHTERS AND THE WOMEN OF THE BELIEVERS TO DRAW THEIR VEILS ALL OVER THEIR BODIES (SCREEN THEMSELVES COMPLETELY EXCEPT THE EYES). THAT IS MORE SUITABLE THAT THEY WILL BE KNOWN (AS A RESPECTABLE BELIEVING WOMAN) AND NOT MOLESTED…”
    Al-Ahzab 33:59
    FROM HADEES-
    3]Hadith - Bukhari 6:282
    'Aisha used to say: "When (the Verse): 'They should draw their veils over their necks and bosoms,' was revealed, (the ladies) cut their waist sheets at the edges and covered their faces with the cut pieces."

    AND THEN THIS IS FINAL WORD FROM ALLAH SO THAT NO MORE OF OUR OWN ASSUMPTIONS-ARE ENTERTAINED-

    Allah, the Exalted says:
    “IT IS NOT FOR A BELIEVING MAN OR BELIEVING WOMAN, WHEN ALLAH AND HIS MESSENGER HAVE DECREED A MATTER, THAT THEY SHOULD HAVE AN OPTION IN THEIR DECISION. AND WHOEVER DISOBEYS ALLAH AND HIS MESSENGER HAS INDEED STRAYED INTO CLEAR ERROR”
    Al-Ahzab 33:36
    HOPE THIS IS CLEAR FOR THE QUESTIONER...MADAM- a repenter muslimah

    • Dear Brothers,

      Then it means that this hadees refers to covering (including head, except hands and feets) not just during saleh but all the time??

      Apart for Saleh, covering head(hair) is a part of it?

      if a woman covers herself properly during Saleh. In normal times, she wears modest loose fitting clothes covering everything except her hair, will her prayers not be accepted??

      • A Muslim woman is required to wear full hijab and dress properly at all times when she is in the presence of a non-mahrem man. If she does not it is a sin. If she prays without covering her hair then her prayer is invalid, even if she is alone, as covering the 'awrah is one of the requirements of salat.

        If she covers her hair only during salat and then uncovers it at other times, will her prayer be accepted?

        In a word, yes, her prayer is valid.

        The eminent Muslim scholar Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi states:

        “If a Muslim woman does perform prayer and observe fasting, but still does not wear the hijab, this does not mean that one tells her to stop praying or fasting till she wears her hijab. Instead one should encourage her to adhere to her religious practices and advice her not to delay wearing hijab, in shaa’ Allah.

        Therefore, one can conclude that her Salah (prayer) is valid as long as she wears the hijab in the Salah and performs it in the proper manner. Also, her fasting is valid as long as she stops eating, drinking and sexual intercourse from dawn till sunset.”

        At this point, Sheikh Yusuf al-Qaradawi relates an indicative story. He said that once he was delivering a speech before thousands of female students in Constantinah, Algeria. The majority of the attendants were without hijab. A female student asked him: What do you think of female students who attend Islamic lectures without wearing the hijab? The answer was expected to be harsh. However, Sheikh Yusuf replied that we should not only welcome her but also encourage her to attend. Any woman’s motive to attend such lectures is a clear sign of inward faith that needs to be stimulated in order to come to the surface.

        Sheikh Yusuf al-Qaradawi concludes that we should not reject the Muslim woman who offers prayer, fasts, and is keen to do her religious duties because she has a weak point and does not wear the hijab. Rather we invoke Allah to strengthen her will and help her commit fully to her Islam.

        Finally, we would like to remind the woman who observes prayer and fasting while not wearing hijab to fear Allah and hasten to Him by repentance and start wearing hijab immediately."

        Allah Almighty knows best.

        Wael
        IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  9. ASSALAMALAIKUM-PLS NOTE THE MEANING OF KHULLAH AND THE STATUS-
    ibn `abbâs said: “khul` is a separation and not a divorce” [related by ahmad.ibn hajr said: "its line of transmission
    is authentic." al-talkhis al-habir (3/231)].

    someone asked ibn `abbâs about a man who divorced his wife twice, then she made khul` with him; can he marry her again? ibn `abbâs replied: “yes, allah mentions divorce at the beginning and at the end of the verse and mentions khul`in between.” [related by `abd al-razzâq (11771)].

    ibn al-qayyim said: "this is the school of thought of ibn `abbâs, `uthmân, ibn `umar, al-rubayyi` and her uncle. in fact, it was never related by any companion that khul` is a divorce." [zad al-ma`ad (5/197)].

    ibn khuzaymah said: “it was never established that khul` is a divorce [al-talkhis al-habir (3/231)].

    this is the opinion of ibn taymiyah. he gives strong support for this opinion inmajmu` al-fatawa (32/289).
    HOPE THIS MAKES THE SITAUTION MORE STRONG IN FAVOUR OF THE HUSBAND THAT HE IS NOT DIVORCED AT ALL AND THE WORD USED MY WIFE DIVORCED ME THIS IS THE REPLY-
    If you indeed wish to re-marry your wife for the second time, it would be absolutely obligatory upon you to now fulfill all the conditions of a brand new nikaah as follows:
    Propose re-marriage to your wife, and if she wills she may consent, and if she wills she may decline your proposal.
    Determine a brand new ‘mehr’ for the nikaah.
    Availability of two witnesses to the new marriage contract
    and, have the consent of the guardians of the bride to her marriage with you.

  10. ASSALAMALAIKUM-
    In normal times, she wears modest loose fitting clothes covering everything except her hair, will her prayers not be accepted??
    YES YOU ARE 10000000000% CORRECT PRAYER IS NOT ACCEPTED-BECSUE ISLAM HAS TOLD ABOUT COVERING THE WHOLE BODY WITH A OUTER GARMENT APART FROM THE DRESS WE ARE WEARING AND TO BE DISCARDED ONLY ONLY ONLY IN FRONT OF A MAHRAM- NON MAHRAM WITH OUR SATISFIED MOIDEST LOOSE DRESS IS NOT ACCEPTED BY ALLAH THEN WHERE IS THE QUESTION OF DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MOHRAM AND NON MAHRAM-PLS GO THROUGH WHAT ISLAM SAYS TEACHES NOT OUR ASSUMPTIONS DEAR-FULL DESCRIPTION IS IN THIS- MODESTY ALLAH AHS SHOWN SO FOLLOW HIS WAY OF REQUEIREMENT NOT OUR FOWL BRAINS http://muttaqun.com/niqab.html
    AND THE SCHOOLS OF THOUGHT WHO DEFY THE HADEES WITH THEIR WHIMS AND FANCIES ARE THE WORST CULPRITS -
    Prescribed Methods of Covering......

    Tafseer - Ibn Katheer
    "Allah commanded the muslim women to cover this sheet on top of them to cover their bodies except one eye, when it is necessary for them to come out of their homes."
    Tafseer - Commentary by Ibn Jarir and Ahkam-ul-Quran, Vol.III, p.457
    Imam Muhammad bin Sirin said: "When I asked Ubaida bin Sufyan bin al-Harith (ra) the meaning of this verse and how the jalbaab was to worn, he demonstrated it to me by pulling a sheet of cloth over his head to cover his entire body, leaving the left eye uncovered. This was also the explanation of the word 'Alaihinna in this verse"
    Tafseer - Alu'si, Rul-ul-Ma'ani, Vol. 22, p. 89
    "Ibn Jarir Tabari and Ibn Al-Mundhir described the method of wearing the jalbaab according to Ibn Abbas (ra) and Qatadah (ra). The sheet should be wrapped around from the top, covering the forehead, then bringing one side of the sheet to cover the face below the eyes so that most of the face and the upper body is covered. This will leave both eyes uncovered (which is allowed in necessity).

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