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I did something sexual on a webcam, what should I do for forgiveness?

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I did something bad on a webcam and now I need Allah's forgiveness

Asalamu Alaikum,

I'm a young teenager, I do not want to say my age, and I've done something terrible.. I masturbated on webcam for someone I don't even know.. And I know you're probably thinking "She's a child of Shaytan, she is horrible, she is not a real Muslim" but I am a real Muslim.. I'm really close to Allah. And I don't know why I even did that. I don't even do that disgusting stuff.

I've been asking for forgivness to Allah, and I still feel so guilty.. What should I do to get forgiven by Allah, and how should I stop feeling this way?. I'm not sure if Allah has forgiven me, I'm so scared that let's say I die today, I'll never get forgiven for the day of judgement.

Thank you.

- Zarina


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  1. Sister Zarina, As-salamu alaykum. I'm a bit pressed for time today, but your post deserves a response. So, my short answer is not to let your guilt destroy you. We all make mistakes and the important thing is that we learn from them and become better people.

    Islam teaches us that Allah forgives all sins. All that is needed is tawbah (repentance), which means that you regret what you did, you stop doing it, you intend to never do it again, and you ask Allah for forgiveness.

    So just try to be a better Muslim. Do your prayers, and choose friends who are conscious of Allah and striving for Islam. Get involved in wholesome activities that will occupy your time in good ways.

  2. asalamu alaikum,

    repent, pray and never do that again. surely allah swt will forgive.

    ma salama

  3. Aslm. We all did bad things in one way or d other. But wat matter is our repentance nd abstainance from dat sin. So repent to Allah nd never u do dat again, surely Allah wld forgive u. May Allah forgive us all our sins nd may Him guide us to d straight path

  4. Walikum assalam dear sister,

    Let me first say that in Islam we are told to not be judgmental about others so therefore I'm sure very few people will automatically assume you are "evil" . Mistakes is human nature, but it is a Muslim who realizes his/her faults, accepts them and is guilty about it.

    Out guilt is a powerful drive that we can use to actually benefit us as well. In addition, even the Prophet Muhammed (pbuh) has said in the Hadith a Muslim who commits a sin and and feels guilty about it is better than one who doesn't. You're at an age which can be confusing sometimes, where you will seek acceptance and love from others. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you remember that what you are, being a woman, is someone who is very previous. You have been blessed with so many things by Allah (swt) and that is because women are a special creation. You do not need someone else to make you feel you are special, you are unique (being Muslim alhamdulillah) on you own, regardless of what anyone else says of thinks.

    Coming back to the main point, there are times of our lives where we all make mistakes that we regret later. That is only natural. Perfection, for us, is a struggle and not a destination since none of us except the Rasool Allah (pbuh) can be perfect. This is why Allah (swt) has always kept the doors for forgiveness open to us. I like mentioning the following Hadith al Qudi when I speak of forgiveness:

    "Allah the Almighty has said : O Son of Adam, as long as you invoke Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O Son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and you then asked forgiveness from Me, I would forgive you. O Son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the Earth, and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as it [too]."(at-Tirmidhee)

    It goes to show that why Allah (swt) is the Most Forgiving. Several times in the Qur'an Allah (swt) has said that He (swt) will forgive any sin, except Shirk, as long as a believer sincerely repents. One thing we need to keep in mind is another Hadith al Qudi:

    "I am as My servant thinks I am. I am with him when he makes mention of Me. If he makes mention of Me to himself, I make mention of him to Myself; and if he makes mention of Me in an assembly, I make mention of him in an assemble better than it. And if he draws near to Me an arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom's length. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him at speed." (related by al-Buhkari also by Muslim, at-Tirmidhi and Ibn-Majah).

    So you need to believe that Allah (swt) will forgive you, inshAllah. There is really no sure way of knowing if Allah (swt) has forgiven us however, if we do our best then Allah (swt) will give us Justice as He (swt) has promised. There are mainly four steps to forgiveness that one needs to go through. After that, we keep struggling and pray that Allah (swt) has forgiven since Allah (swt) has said in the Qur'an that He (swt) will forgive His (swt) believers when they repent sincerely.

    The four steps are quite simple actually: The first part is to feel remorse for the sin. Without that one will not be sincere of course. The second step is to beg for forgiveness from Allah (swt) and believe that He (swt) will forgive you, inshAllah. Third is to make a vow (a promise) to yourself and Allah (swt) to never repeat that sin. Lastly, is to try your best to make sure you are never tempted and avoid situations which might lead you to repeat your sin.

    An interesting point in this is that, in the case of some sins, we are able to do only the first three and end up repeating our mistake. The beauty of Islam is in how, even if you

    "Say: O Ibadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful" (Quran 39:53)

    Here's a narration from another website which I think is beautiful (considering the gravity of the sin in this case):
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    "One night when I returned from the Prophet's Mosque after offering Isha Prayers, I saw a woman standing outside my door. I said 'Peace be on you' and went into my room, closed the door, and began to offer nafl (supererogatory) Prayers. After some time, she knocked at the door. I opened the door and asked her what she wanted. 'I have come to ask you a question. I committed adultery and became pregnant. Then a baby was born and I killed him. How I have come to ask you if there is any chance that my sin be forgiven?' I said: 'Absolutely not'. At this she went away grief-stricken, exclaiming: 'Alas, this piece of beauty was created for the Hell-fire.'

    "The next day, after the Fajr prayers, I narrated the whole incident to the Prophet (peace be on him). He said: 'How wrong an answer you gave, O Abu Hurayrah! Have you not read those verses in the Quran: "Those who invoke no other deity along with Allah nor take the life which Allah has forbidden "“ save justly; who do not commit unlawful sexual intercourse "“ and whoso does that shall meet its penalty, his torment shall be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection and he shall abide in it in ignominy "“ unless he who repents and believes and does righteous works. For such Allah will change their evil deeds to good deeds. Allah is Ever Forgiving, Most Compassionate. Whosoever repents and does good, he returns to Allah in the manner he should" (Al-Furqan 25:68-70).

    Upon hearing this answer from the Prophet (Peace be on him), I went out and searched for the woman. I met her after Isha Prayers and told her what the Prophet (peace be on him) had said. She prostrated herself and said, 'Thanks be to God, Who has opened the door of forgiveness for me.' Then she repented and freed a female slave and also the son of that slave." (See Tabari, 'Tafsir', comments on Surah al-Furqan 25:68-70 Ed.)"
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    So finally, dear sister,, have faith in Allah's (swt) Mercy and Forgiveness. You have already expressed how much you regret this so let this guilt inside you motivate you to stay away from such sins. Don't let the guilt eat you from inside rather let it empower you to ask forgives from the Almighty Allah (swt) and become a better Muslim.

    You will be rewarded inshAllah for even being regretful and asking for forgiveness. So you can do something even better which is to advise other young girls from falling into similar temptations and for that you shall be rewarded even more, subhanAllah.

    I hope this helps put your heart at some ease inshAllah. Surely, Allah (swt) the Most Kind and the Most Merciful, knows best. May Allah (swt) forgive us all for our disdeeds. Ameen.

    (Sorry for the lengthy reply)

  5. i agree with every1 alah 4gives theses who are sinceryar 2 ther wish we all make mistak dalen but that best thing 2 do iz be sinceryar 2 alah n ask 4 his 4givness every tym

  6. may god forgive us.... ask for forgiveness....only allah can survive us....may god bless. we are lucky to be muslims.

  7. I have been tortured until I read this.
    I feel ashamed, dirty, sick, embarrassed and to the point of wanting to take my life because i have let ALLAH down, but after reading the above, i canot wait to ask Him for forgiveness.
    May Allah have mercy on me.

    • Sister aisha, Alhamdulillah, I'm happy to hear that what you read helped you. You should never ever think about taking your life. Allah SWT is so forgiving, in fact He loves to forgive his servants.

  8. As a non-religious outsider open to converting to Islam, I found every post on this forum amazingly educating and insightful into the forgiving nature of Islam. Thank you everyone for opening my eyes.

  9. mashallah.. happy to read the advices from all muslim brothers and sister's.

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