Can we perform the Nikkah again?
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu
Dear Brother,
My youger sister got married to a person recently without informing me and my family. But after performing Nikaah she came back home. We have not told this matter to any of our relatives. Now we have decided that we will perform her Nikaah to the same person by inviting and informing our friends and relatives, so that no one may know that my sister ran away and performed Nikaah and then cannot make fun of my family.
Now my first question:-Is there any harm in this as regards as per Qura'n and Hadith??
(as I know asking this question is my shamelessness as one would surely think that my sister ran away and now I'm asking for sugggestion as per Qura'n and Hadith.)
My parents want her to wait (for performing second Nikaah) until they get some appropriate marriage offers for me so that we both (sisters) could marry together other wise people will ask many questions like why younger sister is getting married when elder is yet not married? And the good thing is is that my sister's in-laws are ready to wait till my marriage.
My second question is:- Is it right to make her wait since we dont know how long would it take to get my marraige would fixed, althoug my parents are trying their best for this ??
Kindly answer my these two questions.
JAZAAK'ALLAHU KHAIR.
~Kaneez Fatima
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Fatima,
My understanding is that your sister conducted a nikah in secret and hence without her wali. This is haraam, the Prophet(sws) said the nikah without the wali is invalid. However some scholars say it is valid but is very immoral and void of blessings. Encourage your sister to refrain from having any relations with this man until she is sure of her marital status and better still, consult with a qualified Imam with regards to this and about having another nikah done in the right way.
With regards to your young sister marrying before you, there is nothing wrong with this. If people talk - who cares? If people have nothing to talk about but something so irrelevant, then leave them to it.
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So firstly, consult with the Imam as to how to progress with the nikah. Then encourage your parents to marry your sister first. If they don't agree, then tell your sister that she needs to be patient and wait.
SisterZ
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AA;
I agree with SisterZ.
Your sister's marriage is not valid cause parents (I do not see who else would be wali) are not aware of it. She should stay away from that guy. If everybody are OK withe the marriage then just marry them off.
The fact that they want to marry you first is a culture thing and has nothing to do with Islam. Talk to them and let them know you will be really happy for her to get married and isnhallah you will have your time soon too.
May ALLAH guide us, grant us patience, and shower us with his mercy.
If I am correct, it is from ALLAH. If I err it is from me, and I pray ALLAH forgives me. Allah knows best.
AA
Salaam,
My husband and me got married after we knew that I was pregnant. My baby was born 6 mths after our wedding. Everything is fine now, alhamdullilah.
But I am still concerned on the effects of akhirat or afterlife on him and myself ? How do we repent ? Are there any necessary duties or obligations that my husband and myself have to do for our son now ? My husband named my son with his name. Is that wrong ? I know that in Islam my son does not bear any sins of us but why do our families and freinds still disown us ? My mother refuses to forget even though she has forgiven me.
I always tell me my husband to disown eveyrone cos I am unable to take the pain anymore. Please advise.
Nabisah, please log in and write your question as a separate post, and we'll answer it in turn Insha'Allah. Here's my short answer: just repent to Allah, and try to be on the path of Islam. Consider moving to a new city, and make new friends who don't know about this and will not judge you for your mistakes of the past.
Wael
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