Is it haram to express one’s feeling in front of someone?
Salam,
I am 21 year old and live in the UK and I am friends with someone of the opposite sex. This person is older than me by 2 years, and I've known this person for quite a long time. I have no attractions towards her at all and she is not attracted to me either, I look at her more like my sister. But the problem is that I have feelings for her younger sister who is my age, I've never spoken with her and not planning on it either. So, I told her older sister who is my friend that I have feelings for her younger sister and told her not to tell her and I told her that I would like to ask for her hand in marriage in two years. I told my parents already and they agreed and soon I will tell her parents. I would like to know that was it haram for me to tell her older sister that I have feelings for her?
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Salaams,
The risk you take by involving the older sister (your "friend") in your feelings for her younger sister are that the older sister may have really had feelings for you all along, and you may not have known it. For that reason, it perhaps would have been better to leave her out of the equation. But taking you at your word, that she and you have had no attraction toward one another, you may have avoided this. However, let me take the time to remind you that there is generally no place for a "friendship" between unmarried males and females, so I would take caution to limit the contact you have with the older sister in any regard.
I am not sure I agree with you about your decision not to say anything about the girl (younger sister) you are interested in. I think there is an appropriate way to share your interest in her before offering a proposal, because she has the right to decide if she has a mutual interest in you before deciding for marriage. I think you should think of a way you can let the younger sister know of your intentions and thoughts, and let her have time to process what she thinks of that, before marriage is even discussed. This would be the most respectful and valuing thing to do, especially for someone who could possibly your future wife.
-Amy
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I don't think expressing your love in a halal way is wrong in anyway. I think you have done the right thing before it's too late and she gets married to someone else. You haven't done anything wrong 🙂
walaikumsalaam, i would take the above advice, but would like to credit your handling of the situation, in this modern age your way of proposal is much liked by myself, and you are avoiding comitting any sin, as said above you should find out how the younger sister feels, and i hope it works out for you inshaAllah.
have you thought about marriage properly for example
-stable career
-compatibility
-future plans e.g.children
are you sure that your ready for marriage your very young usually men get married at 25 perhaps you maybe rushing it a little.
It's Dua! MAY Allah know everything, its Some verses from Quran and its means Allah give from unknown source your never think about it, so please you go head it's no shirk and bidath. You don't find in Bukhari