How do I propose him?
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I need advice if I should contact someone for marriage proposal. I am 25 year old, neither married nor interested in anyone but I recently visited family and got to know about this person who is unmarried and not interested in anyone. He is in-law to my aunty, I don't know if I should contact him. He is a good practising Muslim and from good family. If I should contact him, then is text message a better way to contact as he isn't in my city.
JazakaAllah,
Miss T.
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Salaams,
I would not suggest text messaging someone when trying to first get to know them. If you have an interest in meeting this person and spending more time with them, the best option would be to have your wali help you make arrangements for a meeting with him or otherwise communicating with him. If you don't have a wali at this point (the natural choice would be your father, then an uncle etc), then you will need to find a local imam who is willing to serve in this capacity.
If all else fails, you can attempt to make visits to your aunt again and speak to her about your intentions and have her help you arrange a meeting where either she or his side of the family can be present. If it's not feasible for you to visit with her anytime soon, perhaps she will be willing to contact the parents of this man by letter or some other fashion and let them know of your interest. Possibly then his parents would be willing to work out the details of allowing you to visit with him. In any case, you should try to keep all "getting to know you" sessions in person. Once you two have spent enough time together (supervised, of course) to decide if you like one another well enough to marry, you can make further plans for your future together.
-Amy
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