I am in a sinful love, will Allah forgive me?
I am muslim married women. Ever since I can remember religion was my priority in everything. The strength and practice of my belief changed many people around me to become good Muslims. I can say I worked very hard to show people a good way of life. Now when I succeeded I became the most sinful women. I met a single muslim men on line. We got in comunication because he was interested in some things from my country. He is the best men and a very good Muslim, or I can say he was the best Muslim until i made him sin. Like never in my life I couldn't use my brain. I just used my heart and he got so deep inside it. He feels same about me. He feels very guilty about us sinning, about his brother in religion (my husband) which we both cheat on, but he is very weak to leave me. And I, my life became a life of lies.The guilt is destroying me but I don't see a way of stopping.
We never met in person but we know each other better than anyone else. We talk every day and I let him see me without my hijab, I let him see me as my husband should only see me. I know you realise how bad I am for hiding under my hijab, for letting people think that I am a good muslim. I know we must stop and I beg Allah to help us but I am very scared to wake up knowing that he is not in my life any more. I don't know if your answer can help us because we know the burden of our sins, I only want to ask: if we ever stop, is there a forgiveness for us?
-naomi
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Salaams,
Neither I nor anyone else can speak on Allah's behalf to say what He will or will not do in response to a given situation. However, in the Qu'ran Allah says, "Say: “O 'Ibadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives ALL sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. And turn in repentance and in obedience with true Faith (Islamic Monotheism) to your Lord and submit to Him, (in Islam), before the torment comes upon you, then you will not be helped.” S. 39:53-54
As you can see though, the key to accessing His mercy is to repent and become obedient. It is imperative for you to cease contact with this man, and to never contact him (or any other non mahram) again. Now if you continue to talk to him, or indulge him in any way, then you are putting yourself in a risky situation. As the latter part of the ayat states above, you may wind up in a situation where you are put beyond help and turned over to your folly.
You know what you are doing is wrong, but you still have a chance to make it right. Turn yourself around to the right path and start taking that first step back toward obedience. Make sincere tawbah to Allah and do whatever is necessary to eliminate the temptation of staying in contact with this person, even if means locking yourself out of the computer.
-Amy
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U have done wrong , u should repent for that
But what will happen if ur husband find out about this , its gonna affect ur marriage
And even if he forgive(by anychance) , u have 2 prove that ull never do this again
Salaam sister,
First and foremost you are a Muslim and second you observe hijab too and third you are a married woman!
As you are a Muslimah, please thank and submit to Allah (swt) for granting you the truth. Therefore, please leave this internet haram guy/man/boy... you both are sinning and r forbiden to each other.
And as u observe Hijab, please remember there are muslim girls out there who despratley wants to wear hijab in order to please no one but Allah (swt). Therefore, by you being involved in such situation and not letting it go and Allah forbids if your sin comes out in public, then you are have made it or making it harder for those muslim girls who dearly wants to or feels the need to observe hijab. As a hijabi you need to set a good example so no muslim families stands against their daughters/sisters wishes who merely wants to please Allah (swt) by wearing hijab.
And sister, you are MARRIED. what you are doing is not only considered haram in Islam but also wrong and shamful in other faiths another than Islam. Sister,pl Oooooease understand that you are involving urself in committing adultary!!! The ounishment inIslamis stone to death!
Please, please and so much more please STAY AWAY FROM THIS GUY!!! You are not only ruining you married life relationship but also your relationship with Allah (swt)!!!
Please turn to your Creator ALlah (swt) and not to this guy who is weak in emaan and leading you to weakness of emaan too.
Please just imagine that if ur chatting to this guy and right that second you die! How shamefuland scary that your husband or anyone else see ur conversation with a non-mahram!!!
Please protect yourself by protecting your deen.
Please turn and repent to Allah (swt). Allah (swt) loves those dearly who repents immdeiatly after committing big or even the smallest sin. One day u r going to become a mother urself iA and what advice r u going to give to ur kids???
And to me you obviously care about yourself that u came here to seek advice. Please take all the Islamic advice and re-start with taking care of urself properly again! x
Turn to Allah (swt) is the BEST!
Ur IKnowItSister 🙂
Hello, I know this post is old, but may I ask, what ever became of this? What was the outcome of this, sister?
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