I can’t give him a little space in my heart…
I want to share with you my story. I was 21 years old when I get engaged in nikkah.. that time I was happy because I was consider mother and family is happy in this relation.
Later after 6 months I realised that I don't like him.. though he loves me more but germs of hating being created - he want to make relationship before ruksati which is shocking for me. 2 years after nikkah ruksati was there. Very first night I avoided him and 2 years of marriage has been passed and we have not made any type of relation.
I don't like him he knows every thing but he don't want to leave me. He is job less he gets money to do fraud and some other sources. He ever commit truth with me. Thses little things create hateful feel in my heart. He shows himself innocent in front of my family but they never understand what he was actually. He used extra and unnecessary things to satisfy himself.
He loves me but I can't give him a little space in my heart... what should I do?
Misha
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I dont think that its his fault.
Its all you , you need to improve yourself and your behavior towards. He is your husband and hs many rights over you, why are you depriving him of his rights. fear Allah swt , othrwise you will be punished on the day of qiyamah.
The things you mentioned arent such a huge things to be the reason of your hate. Save your relation, be broad and accept him.
samiya, you don't think the fact that he is a criminal is a cause for concern?
Wael
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forgive me , i slipped that part.
She says that I realized that I dont like my husband after six months of my nikah and then she started hating him , and avoided any physical relation with him for almost two years.
If she isnt that close to her husband and is continually avoiding and hating him then how can she expect him to become a better person. Her husband loves her , she should love him too and end every conflict that is between them and should perhaps guide her husband to leave all criminal activities if she really is interested to save her relationship.
Salam,
I recommend getting a divorce. Parents feel that someone is good for their child based on credentials and they hope the child will come around and love that person too. In your case this hasn't worked out, no point in wasting your life with someone you're never going to be a wife with.
In Pakistan, its not that easy. Parents would want their daughters to compromise.
Compromise how? She's not willing to have relations with the husband, what would the parents have her do?
yeah you a re right in pakistan usually people facing that kind of people almost 65 persent people facing same problems
You need to tell hI'm how you feel and then ask him that he needs get his act together...Honesty is the best policy...Tell him this that success in both of the world's is only Obeying Allah's commandments and teachings of prophet Muhammad PBUH. This is the only success .Regardless how intelligent or wealthy a person might be the humanbeing will never succeed because of this one formula....LA Ilaha illilah Muhammadur rasulloolah .This fact! And those who chase this world for play n sport etc...will live a hard life. .full of stress and worry because of there actions....SO YOU DECIDE!