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Istakhara came out negative but we still want to marry each other.

English Translation of the Dua for Istikhaarah

Dua for Istikhaarah

I wanna marry this guy but my mom did a istakhara by aalim and istakhara came out negative and I told the guy istakhara came out negative. I'm so confuse because he said if we still marry something gonna bad happen in our feature but we both r still wanna get marry but we don’t know what we should do please help me.

Sara S Khan.

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  1. Sister istikhara is something between you and Allah swt. It should be done by yourself and not by your mum or an aalim!! No one else can do it for you, here is a link about how to pray istikhara:

  2. Salaams,

    Istikhara is not supposed to be done by a third party (in your case, an aalim). It's something you and your intended are supposed to do yourselves. Have you or he done your own istikhara? If you haven't, I suggest you do, and make a decision on what to do based on the outcome of that.

    In my experience, istikhara doesn't just "come out positive/negative". You pray to Allah to make the way easy or difficult, and then set your intentions to go forward as you feel led (in your case, it may be to go ahead with the marriage). If Allah knows this isn't best for you, then what will likely happen is that obstacles will come up to prevent the marriage from going through. If, on the other hand, it is what Allah wills for you, it may be that doors open up to make everything go smoothly toward marriage.

    -Amy Editor

  3. asalamu alaikum,

    I just want to add, you said, he said if we still marry something gonna bad happen in our feature? no one knows what the future holds, except Allah(swt).

    ma salama.....

  4. firstly,is the boy pious? does he fear AllahSWT?

    sleep early,get up at 230AM and do wudu and do tahajjud and ask for AllahSWT mercy in dua.

    do dua that you should get married and you both should always be in guidance and after marriage if something bad is gonna happen please turn it to good.

    give lot of sadaqa,especially help needy people.

    their duas will help you In sha Allah


  5. Bismillahirrahmaanirrahiym
    wassalaatu wassalamu alaa Rasulillah saws

    This is what happens when the ummat of Rasulullah sallallallahu alayhi wa sallam BLINDLY FOLLOWS anything or anyone whether they be scholars ,shaykhs ,Imams. The Christians and the jews went astray before us because they blindly followed their monks ,teachers and rabbis . WAKE UP !!!! muslims .Start learning the Quran karem for your self and the hadith sharif .

    Sister istikhara is not done by anyone but YOU !!! not your mum not an alim not anyone or the jinn in the closet. You make the istikhara .Then maybe you will see proper results . How do you know ,maybe the Alim likes you and wants to marry you himself lol.


  6. I love a girl and my family like her and her family likes me as well. i did istakhara to know what Allah will is. it was light which mean Allah allows me to move forward. but when my lover did istakhara she saw nothing she did istakhara 6 time even her mother did two times but they didn't saw any thing kindly tell me what to do. Because they will not go further unless they get any answer. i am totally honest and i want to know what should i do.
    HELP ME PLEASE.....!!!!!

    • salaam,
      A person does not have to have a dream after they read the istikhara dua. Allah works in many ways. The sister has prayed istikhara asking Allah swt to guid them towards whats best for them therefore she should go ahead with whats intended (mariage) and if it is good for her Allah swt will open the doors and make the process easy however it is bad Allah swt will make it difficult and block all avenues.

  7. Aslaam u alaikum !! I have my fcps exam but I haven't prepared well so I did istakhara if I should appear or not !! I had a dream that before exam I leave for umrah and I am in Makkah and planning that I should appear in the exam in February !! What does it mean? Like seeing oneself going on umrah is a nice thing but then I am also missing the paper in the dream :s

    • Sarah, Istikhara is not necessarily dependent on dream interpretation. Instead, pray Istikhara sincerely then simply go ahead and do what you think is right, and trust that Allah is guiding you in response to your prayer.

      Wael Editor

  8. Seeing umrah is nice thing**

  9. Hi... I did a istikhara for a guy but i cant understand it... I didnt see any light but
    I saw i m protecting 2 children from a prison... 1 girl is wearing black skirt
    And thats the evening time... Whats it mean..?

    • Assalaamualaikam

      Please read the articles about istikhara that are available on this website. Istikhara is not dependent on dreams or dream interpretation.

      Midnightmoon editor

  10. I wrote my query but it is not here now.. it was with the name of Z

    • Assalaamualaikam

      If you have a question to ask, you need to submit a new post for publication. The instructions are available from the drop-down menu at the top of the page.

      Midnightmoon editor

  11. Where does this istakhara come from ? Is there any mention in Quran ? How authentic are Hadith about it, even though it may be in Bukhari or Muslim? If is the Hadith is confirmed by all 4 imams , then we should accept it, not by Bukhari or Muslim cited 2-3 hundred years after.

    • Salat al-Istikhara is part of the authentic sunnah. However, there are a lot of misunderstandings about it. It is simply a prayer for guidance. It is not dependent on dreams or signs. As for so-called istikhara based on mother's names, birth dates, or formulas, those are shirk practices adopted from Hindu numerology and astrology.

      Wael Editor

  12. Assalamualaikum .i want to Marry a guy n my family has agreed to him so last night I prayed Istekhara Namaz n tried sleeping but I cud not sleep till morning 3:30am ..I saw a negative sign ..but we still want to Marry eachother what can b done please help

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