Masturbation is my only option
I'm a 15 year old boy. I dont know why it is that people claim masturbation to be sickening your health, I personally from my own experience have never felt any kind of sickness after doing it. Nor did I regret doing it once it was done. Some times I fealt sad and angry at myself, but that was purely because, I at that time believed it to bee 100% forbidden by all schoolars, something that I now realise is far from the truth.
So psychologically and physically I do not believe that masturbation is harmful to your body. In fact, it removed the sexual stress and thoughts that I kept in my mind all day long when not masturbating!
Allah created us, our bodies, and our needs and desires.
When a person reaches puberty it is a need for your body to replace the semen at some point or another, the semen cannot just stay in there from the day you reach puberty, to the day you get married. And as far as I know, the bodies respond to the need is to warm our body, and not least make us think of the opposite sex all the time, and this sexual thinking and warming body does not stop, it is strengthen as time goes on. At some point or another one cannot take it any longer, and has to fulfil his sexual desires and what are the alternatives?
I'm a young man and quite frankly, I have a very hard time with my body due to the schoolars who claim that masturbation is forbidden by Islamic laws. I live in the west, where the public is filled with woman, and some ARE attractive!
Now what I HATE so much is the "solutions" given by the Islamic schoolars, “solutions" that are supossed to take you away from masturbation, yet none of them can and do.
The first “solution" is to fast. I personally cannot fast, and I have my reasons for that; If I stop eating my mom will notice it and she will for sure ask me for for why it is that I'm not eating, and a sexual conversation is not something that I would like to bring up and talk about with my parents. Nor would I want to fast everyday til I get married for that is simply impossible not to mention that I do not want to become thin and skinny.
The second “solution" is to lower your gaze. Well this is not something that you can do anywhere, anytime! When I talk to some one I look at them while talking, I do not look down! Now I DO look away when I'm in public, but that is not possible anytime anywhere.
Also I do not see how this could even be thought of as a “solution". Looking at woman does not strenghten your sexual desire or make your mind think of woman even more and deeper. Naked woman in front of you or not, your mind will still be thinking of woman when it is need for it. So lowering your gaze does not actully help
And then there's always the marriage solution, but due to many reasons I personally cannot marry as a 15 year old boy
Other solutions include visiting the mosque, playing sport reading the Quran and such, but none of these actully help you when your not doing it, none of them are activities that you can do during the whole day, none of them are solutions that take your mind away from its natural thoughts when not having masturbated. I do these activities as often as I can, but they do not take my thoughts away from sex!
I'm not trying to say that masturbation is greate, but it is the only alternative for the youth my friend! I have not masturbated for 10 days now, but I know and realise that I cannot continue much further.
What advice do you have for me and others ? A 15 year old who have never ever had any “wet dreams" or anything like it. For the last week and days I have bin thinking of woman 24/7 (I'm serius), yet managed to not masturbate afraid of it being sinful. Now I'm reading every side of the story while attempting to create my conclusion for wether masturbation is forbidden or not, and I my friend need your respond as much as I need my conclusion.
Please help me for I have bin trying to reach my conclusion for so many days, and my body is just slowly weaken as time goes on.
I'm not really afraid of fornication for I do not believe it to be near my enviroment, though I can honestly say that if I somehow got in the sittuation of possible fornication then I would probably push every thing to the side and fulfill my desires.
I'm really desperate on a respond so please help me. If you believe masturbation to be forbidden then please explain to me for why it is that you believe masturbation to be "seeking beyond" (Quranic verse), also if you are againt masturbation; so is the semen of a young man supposed to stay inside of his body from the first day of production to the first sex experience with his wife? do you not agree that this is illogical? So the sperm that comes out of the man of his wedding day is supposed to be 10-20 year old sperm cells? If you are against masturbation the please give me some advices for how to cure it! Some REAL ones! And if you believe masturbation is halal then please explain to me how come.
- Desperate 15 year old boy
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