Dua or any other way to unite me with my boyfriend
i have been in relation with a guy back in my country, i recently moved to a new place and our relation was on long distance now, from the past few months things have got really worst between us that we both spilt. no matter how hard we try, we end up on the decision of splitting up which neither one of us is willing to accept. i have been really depressed after we broke up that sometimes i feel like running away and sometimes end up thinking to kill my self.
someone told me that there could be magical spells which bound us in the evil that our relations get spoiled, is there any way, any dua, any thing to do and follow to get him back and have our relation just the way it was. plz i really need help, i had already lost hopes and tried finishing my self but then tried finding some ways that could get him back.
i hope you can understand my condition and help me as soon as possible. plz
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it is not true to kill urself.pray 2 ALLAH n TRUST IN ALLAH.DO ISTAKHARA.may be ur boyfriend will be not better for u in future.there will be some HIKMAT of ALLAH.just pray.READ surah NAAS n FALAQ regularly.ALLAH will help u definitely.
There is NO dua to get your boyfriend back. However, there are lots of Dua's to set your life in order and move over.
" Innalha mas-sabireen" -- O Allah, bestow me with patience
"Ala bi dhikr allah tadma inal qulub" Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find Peace - (13:28)
Hope it helps.
Wa'alaykumsala,
Just because you and your ' boyfriend' broke up, that doesn't mean that you are under any spell/black magic. Think real. Boyfriend-girlfriend relationship/ pre-marital relationship are forbidden in Islam, like totally. Allah hates your action and so obviously there has to be problems and terrible consequences. Know that there is NO dua whatsoever to get your 'boyfriend' back. Its like praying for something haram. So therefore the best action you can do right now in order to please Allah and make your future better is for you to end this ' relationship ' once and for all.
By the way, you've also mentioned that, you both always end up arguing, fighting and then breaking up many times. This is a terrible relationship I've ever heard of, so allow me to ask, Why do you want him back ? Why do you want him to be your husband ? It seems to me that you both are incompatible, it'll just get worst after marriage most certainly. If it starts bad, there's little chance for it to have a good ending in most cases. So think again of what you want.
You can pray for anything you want, and Allah will listen to you. But He is going to answer only for what is good for you and not bad.
" It may be that you dislike something but it is good for you and it may be that you love something but it is bad for you, Allah knows and you dont know " - Quran
Its best if you start performing you obligatory duties as muslim. Do good deeds. Stop sinning. If you want to really marry him then ask you parents to approach him. Do it the halal way insha'Allah. Perform salat al isthikhara too before coming to a final decision. Oh and by the way, suicide is NEVER a solution. Suicide is only a leap into an everlsating torture in Hell. Make your choice.
Salam alaykum sis,
I don't know how old you are, but I know it's difficult. You remind me of myself. I'm in a similar situation but I've been making du'a to overcome this. If Allah swt wants, you will be together in a halal way, if he's good for you. Pray, pray and pray. As you, I only can see myself with the one who was my boyfriend, I wish I was married to him. But think about it, even if you were in a long distance relationship, he left you; Allah swt won't leave you ia. If he had wanted, he would have asked you to get married to him, he would have approached you the right way since the beginning, or at least he would have tried to mend things, but he didn't. This is what I tell myself.
I know how you feel, I do. But you know what? We can overcome this! And we can learn from this experience. Next time, lower your gaze, lock your heart and only give it to your husband, when you get married ia. I know it is soooo painful right now, but ask Allah to be merciful on you and help you get over this. I'll also put all my effort in doing this too.
You are not alone, have patience. You can talk to me if you want to.
Ya allah.. I know right its realy painful sis, I meither can't move on it has being 5 months and am 16.. Well that doesn't matter but now I guess I will hav to stay with this pain :/
We broke up 3 months ago and yes, it is painful. I miss him. However, if my ex-boyfriend wanted to be with me again, I wouldn't want it anymore even if I love him; I learned my lesson and it was I who brought up this pain on me. I wasn't a Muslim before, and even if i wasn't a Muslim and even if I live in a society where having boyfriends is ok, he was my first and only boyfriend. But I tell myself that Allah swt wanted to guide me and wanted me to convert to Islam, when I'm ready he will send someone to me in a halal way ia.
What do you like to do? Do what you like and try to keep you busy, and spend time with friends. But again, put your trust in Allah swt <3 cause it's the only way you will feel better again eventually.
Well I think am loosing my emaan, I however I feel very scared I don't know why? I can't share my stuff with anyone, and I come from such a family which is very strict I don't go out.. I just go to my cousins rarely.. And my ex was my cousin..
Its realy hard am loosing hope there's nothing I can do
When I cry I pray to allah, I dint find any result, and on the other hand the guy is so happy he's already in relation with many girls.. Well am just fed up of my self..
Y I have to suffer? It hasn't affected him then y isn't allah showing mercy on me?:'(
I always think about this guy I end being sad frustrated and mad :/
Don't loose eman over a man. You said your 'ex' has relations with many girls already. Then why are you upset? There's nothing to envy in him. He is a disgusting troll. Have patience and remember Allah always. And when you pray or make dua, do not bring this matter with you. Jusk ask Allah to help you with patience. Forget him and dont go to his place. You'll eventually get over it. You're young, so you need time.
Uttering " Why Allah is not showing me mercy ?" is going to get you more troubles.
Prophet said " Allah answers all prayers untill someone hasten saying ' Why my prayers aren't being answered ?' "
juweriya, I understand you, I really do. I miss him and I wish I could be with him, in a halal way of course, but if that didn't happen or hasn't happen yet, it must be for a good reason; I might not understand that reason now and maybe I will never understand it but all I can do and all you can do is trust Allah.
My ex and I also live in different cities, so I don't know what he's up to. He might be going out with other girls and living "la vida loca" and I wish I could get over all this as fast as he did. However, I feel sorry for him. I think he's a good guy who is misguided and who's trying to do as his friends do. I pray that he becomes a good Muslim again and that everything goes well in his life.
To be honest, today I miss him so much that I'm trying very hard not to cry. At first, I used to talk with some friends about how I felt about it, but I think that they got tired of listening to it and besides they didn't seem to understand me, so I stopped talking about it. I don't have anyone to talk about it neither.
And please!!! Don't loose eman over a man.. That is true. Have you ever thought that you guys breaking up was a way to stop sinning? You deserve a guy that wants to make things right from the beginning, a guy who cares about your feelings and not just say sweet things to get you and play with you to leave you later.
I would tell you my email or my fb profile, but I don't want to post it publicly.
Assalam-u Aleykum sisters, 2 years ago i met with my husband , i was just 17 and i was in grade 10 he was 19 and he was in grade 11. when i met him i had little knowledge about islam , i wasnt even wearing hijab, was acting as canadians .. all those stff , anyway he studied in islamic university in syria for 4 years. whe started talking in 13 of april 2011, i honestly used to hate him , cuz of his look but knew that he was a good guy.. he tried to hard to make at least a friendship between us but i always rejected him. after all we kinda started dating, it was too normal for me cuz i was away from islam but he wasnt , i just thought that we are dating and after a while we will breakup.. it happened alot, trust me more than 10 times, i know the days that he was reading The Holy Quran to me .. telling me the sins and the punishments.Rights amd wrongs, the difference between sin and intension.. everything, cuz of his action i strted loving him, we became more closer , not phyically ! we met in april i wore hijab in june and we engaged in july 6 and married 2 days ago , on July 14 Sunday :)) .. As i said i was so hopeless , we broke up many times, and i saw that we were both trying hard , believe me the problems we faced with .. yours seems like a point beside ours, the family issues, both side! and ours also, i wasnt mature as he was and he is now .. i was so sensitive and stupid, the world was so pinky for me and i didnt face with the the realities of life , he taught me everything with patience .. Now we both understanding, understand our situation, and everything is perfect now, i did so many bad stuff when we first met, i mean like as a muslim to be away from islam and comparing as a kafir, was just shamefull anyway, this is the short story of me, what im trying to say is that the sister commented above here, (poetry) is right , Pray Allah, stay faithfull and dont lose your hope, but hope of allah not your bf, its always complicated in relationship once you go through to Halal way, you see hpw the things changes compleately 🙂 take care of yourself and dont be crazy! if he is that bad and u guyz always figth u will also be sad after ur marriage which is not worth it, if u sure that he is good and just has to learn some stuff otherwise he has a pure heart, try and explain if its not too late for both of u ( I hope that its not late) secondly, you are too young, i know i was 17 but u didnt really have a real relationship on that time but now i love my husband and he loves me.. We both Great Mashallah, dont stress just pray cuz whats good for you and has benefit for you only comes with prayer. and i think you want it too .. Take care of yourself 🙂
my boyfriend and were together since 4 months .. we still love each other . but the problem is he was actually engaged to someone else.. but they had broken up she broke his heart .. when he met me he fel in love not a day passed by we didn't talk ..after 4 months his parents called her parents and told then they want to end it .. so they did .. after 15 days suddenly the girl's parents come and make his parents emotional and all .. i did my istikhara with him it came out positive he tried to take out istikhra nothing was coming in his dream .. his mother took out istikhara for that other girl it came out positive .. he called me and told me i can't do anything now ..he hates that girl he doesnt even want to here her name.. his parents know .. i don't know what to do m going crazy!
rabia, as-salamu alaykum.
1. We do not have boyfriends and girlfriends in Islam. Such a relationship has no legitimate status.
2. You did not try to formalize your relationship by marrying him. Did his parents meet your parents? Did he propose marriage properly?
3. Forced marriage is invalid in Islam. If this young man truly want to marry you, he can reject the other girl. But if he doesn't have the heart or the will to make his own choices, then you are wasting your time with him.
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Well jazakallah sis
I would like to hear it too and may be it changes my way of thinking but here they don't alow changing email etc hmm..:(
Same happened to me too 😀 , relationships were banned for a reason ALLAH knows the pain they can bring esp to a girl. Say ElhamdALLAH that u lost nothing , everything gets better in time and u will forget about this boy and move on. I rememeber when I first ended my relationship i was a total mess and it was even harder on me because i was the one that choose to end it. But now I know that that ALLAH has his ways. U will find someone that truly deserves u and then u will look back and laugh at how silly this was. U are 16 u are young and still immature about love, you are fooling urself that u only love this guy but when u find the guy for you , this will seem like a silly mistake. ALLAH forbid this relationship you didnt listen therefore you must live with this pain for a little bit which is much more merciful then burning in hell over a guy,
life is a experience so live it wisely and don't repeat mistakes.
Well.. U saying for a while it will pain.. Sis its 5 months :'(
Nothimg is changing, whenever I see him I am lik y? Y me? :'( y can't I just forget and move on.. He's my cousin so I see him many times
It realy hurts that he moved on in just and hour though but y is this happening to me :'(
I won't ever liv a simple and happy life:'(
Sister
I can understand ur plight, though my situation is not similar to your, but still there are similarity. Well i have a boyfriend and we live world apart, I live in the Indian ocean rejion and he in South Africa, we talk each day via Face book n mobile, but well i am not sure too whether i will be able to marry my boy friend, he did propose to marry me, but then he ask me to give him time before making our relationship official as he wants to establish his business well first n live seperate from his parents.
Also my boyfriend is younger than me, i am 33, thought i don't appear my age,in fact i look like 25 as i maintain my body well and thanks to Allah i am good looking and he is 24, so i really wants to know whether in islam it is permissible to marry a boy younger than me, whether there dua that can unite us soon.
At time i am scared to take that step, don't knw if i shud wait for him as he ask me to do and to reject all other proposals. moreover he is someone verry jealous and possessive.
Mareyah, please log in and write your question as a separate post, and we will advise you in turn Insha'Allah.
Wael
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Assalamualaikum
can anyone tell me any dua to get married to the one i love .
we met on internet and we have fallen in love with each othr . bt due to caste diffrnc my parents will not accept him bt i dont want to marry any one elz .... need help 🙁
You can pray for whatever you want, as long as its not sinful.
But be realistic about whether or not it will happen. Allah isn't going to give you something that is haraam or bad for you. Also, if this person is not written in the divine decree for you, making lots of dua for him isn't going to make any difference , it won't happen.
Pray Isthikhara for Allah will insha'Allah guide you.
can i keep fast for this purpose ??
if yes than wht niyat should i do ??
To be honest with you, falling in 'love' with someone on the internet and then dis-obeying your parents is a really bad idea. Internet potential partner is usually dangerous. You'll receive no support whatsoever later on incase problem arise. Think again. Make your choice.
You said about fasting.
You can fast anytime you wish for the sake of Allah. Except those forbidden days.
Our Prophet somtimes fasts on mondays and thursdays.
If you want to fast to control your desires or avoid bad deeds then it is recommended.
If you break an oath, you've got to fast for 3 days.
Etc
Just make an intention in your heart. Be specifice regarding what you are fasting for. Like " O Allah, I intend to fast tomorrow for your sake just to seek your pleasure and reward ! "
Regarding fasting to marry a man. I'm unaware about this.
i know him from the past 2 yrs . he is madly in love with me so as me . he wana send his propsl aftr he complte his educatn . still one and half year is there for it but my parents are looking a guy for me . i m so much tensed and feel helpless . i cant imagine my life without him :'(
Dear Sister(Princess),
Ending up loving someone from Internet determines that you may not have a BIG social circle across. Internet is the cyber social circle. We all are looking for things around us and we like to fall in love when receives the right level of confidence from the person the first time. Imagine if you had to travels countries after countries and continents after continents for any work and had to interact with many individuals. In 1-2 year time period you would have a great social circle. Now you have more choices to look for and your heart will definitely may fall on anyone, maybe your heart would fall on somebody who's a muslim from another country, but a very hard working, very honest man and very true and doesn't even uses Internet until very important.
Incase if you are unaware, In Islam there is no place for girlfriend/boyfriend. It is unislamic and a SIN. Pre-marital relationship is forbidden whether online or offline. It WILL have terrible consequences later on.
"And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appearthereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty..." ( 24:31)
"And keep thy soul content with those who call on their Lord morning and evening, seeking His Face; and let not thine eyes pass beyond them, seeking the pomp and glitter of this Life; no obey any whose heart We have permitted to neglect the remembrance of Us, one who follows his own desires, whose case has gone beyond all bounds." (18:38)
"But those who disobey Allah and His Messenger and transgress His limits will be admitted to a Fire, to abide therein: And they shall have a humiliating punishment." (4:14)
Some people may runaway to their lovers breaking their ties with their family. Thus Allah warned-
“ But those who break the covenant of Allaah after contracting it and sever that which Allaah has ordered to be joined and spread corruption on earth – for them is the curse, and they will have the worst abode.” (13:25)
"Hadhrat Aaisha (Radhiallaahu Anha) narrates that the Rasool of Allah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, '(the personification of) Family ties
are attached to the throne saying, 'he who joins me, Allah joins him and he who breaks with me Allah Ta'ala breaks away from him."
(Bukhari and Muslim)
Islam is a simple way of life with no burden, so why make it hard on yourself ? Soon you'll be heart broken, depressed, tensed etc. Allah will not give you these, you'll give these yourself.
علي بن عبد الله آل الشيخ
I so wish I could talk to you any other way without being published. You give great advises and I still have a lot to learn. 🙁
Assalamu3alaikum Every One
After reading the above e-mails, I feel that I am not the only one in this world who is facing this pain and agony and suffering.
As-salamu alaykum brother. I deleted the rest of your comment, but I submitted the entire thing on your behalf as a pending post. It will be published in turn Insha'Allah. And I changed your username (on the post) to Blessed One, as the Prophet (sws) taught us not to name ourselves or our children with bad names.
Wael
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im in love for one year and he dont love me he love my sister bt my sister dnt love him i want him i do istakhara it ws yes bt nw he dnt even talk 2 me this thing also effect on my studies i need a quick and easy fast solution that he start loveing me other wise i will die soon without him im finish plz tell me amal so he come back to me i wana marrry him and live happy life................tell me urgent
FAMA,
1) You cannot make someone love you;
and
2) No, you will not die without him.
How was your istikhara 'yes'? If he is still not interested in you after your istikhara, then clearly he is not for you.
Sister - patiently persevere towards your studies and your salaah and refrain from chasing someone who does not want to be with you. Find happiness in yourself first and you will naturally attract things you like in'sha'Allah.
SisterZ
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Hi brothers and sisters
I am actually in a relationship with a man who is on the verge of becoming famous.
peace, please log in and write your question as a separate post, and we'll answer you in turn, Insha'Allah.
Wael
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how do i log in?? my post didn't show?
assalamualikum sister..
sistah, please log in and write your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn Insha'Allah.
Wael
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Assalamu alaikum,
I can understand your situation as I am also going through it now.....insha Allah I hope you will get him soon.....trust in Allah....remember him always......
ifa, it is haram in Islam to have boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. How can you say "Insha'Allah" and "trust in Allah" for something haram? Wake up!
Wael
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Salaam sisters i have been with my boyfriend for three years i am not very religous and i really wanted to marry him he promised me the world we did commit zina and i found out i was pregnant he told me he could not marry me as i am not the one am too controlling for him as i stop him from seeing other girls and doing wrong things i begged him to marry me but he refused told me to get rid having no choice i did when i did he came back proposed said he loved me and now back to same situation he doesnt want me not spoke for a whole month and he cane back said he missed me but he liking someone else a new girl he known for two weeks and says a future but came back to ne cause he missed what can i do? As i want him done so much gunnah n dnt want a new man or find a new one i want him want to marry him
Assalam o Alekum,
Sana, please log in and write your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah.
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As salaam walikum
Assalam walikum, I have been reading this comversation, I am in a relationship and I am so comfused with him, sometimes he cares about me sometimes not. My boyfriends just stopped talking to me and i really love him so much. I have been searching what I gonna do with him, please help me I am having a hard time I cant even sleep at night because of him. he even blocked me on his phone and now i am thinking to go to his work to tell him how much I love him, but i am not sure is this helped.
Nour:
Are you muslim?
If so, not only should you NOT go to his office to declare your love, but you should not be having any contact with him at all.
Your relationship is haram and will only lead to destruction of your soul. Best to end it, if you care about your religion at all.
Yes, I am a Muslim woman from Philippines, I commented to your dua because I thought you could me am advice or some dua. I love this guy so much instead of I found someone none Muslim. I was reading all those comement on this site and some they give some advice those who need advices.
Assalaamualaikum....
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My.boyfriend.is.from.india and.im philippine.
sarah, please register and submit your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah. My short answer to you is that if the two of you have genuine feelings for each other, you should get married. Create a concrete plan to make that happen. If it's not possible then you have no future with him and you are wasting your time.
Wael
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I am pregnant and.my boyfriend in pakistan he has no visa pleade can.you give me a dua so he can come back to england.
May Allah SWT not rekindle any haram and satanic relationships..ameen
Look. Make dua to get him back. Pour your heart out to allah. And if you unite. Do it halal. No physical contact. Stay strong.
if a guys love me and i know it that he loves me is there is any dua to keep distance from him