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I have HSV but don’t want to ruin a woman’s life.


Salam sisters and brothers,

Please no judgement because only Allah knows how this happened with no 1% Haram.

I'm a 37-year-old single muslim male with HSV and no kids, living in Arizona, United States.

I was married 5 years ago when I got herpes. I got divorced after 3 months... I couldn’t make it up to my wife after what happened.

I have been looking for halal partner all this time but it’s really hard to find a wife with my issue, and don’t forget stigma.

Today I’m here trying to fight for halal with no cheating....I want her to know that I have herpes .. I don’t want to destroy someone life.

InshaAllah I find what I'm looking for and thank you for your time



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  2. Assalaamualaykum Brother Abdullah,

    Just keep praying and making dua to the one who is in control, Allah. Allah has planned for every human being who wants to get married a just have to take steps to find her. Register on Muslim matrimonial websites. You can choose whether you want to be up front about your health issue, or if you'd rather wait until you meet the person. If it were me personally, I would say something like..."I do have a sensitive health issue that we'd need to discuss at some point" up front, but I'd need to find the right time. Don't be afraid, as Allah is in human can change your fate without the intercession of Allah.

    Best and Inshallah your heath improves.


  3. Salam brother,

    If it is true that you contracted HSV without committing haram, I am so sorry to hear this, find strength and patience in Allah,this is undoubtedly then, a great great test for you,

    I do not want to hurt you dear brother or cause you anymore distress, but i think you should refer your matter to someone of knowledge, this is too serious a matter, to take the advice of lay people,

    In islam we are taught, that a Muslim should not expose himself to harm..... that is any harm...

    That includes mixing with a person who has a contagious disease, especially if that disease is serious and chronic, such as herpes.

    The rulings of sharee’ah are addressed to everyone, sick and healthy alike.

    With regard to the one who is sick, Muslim (2221) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The owner of sick camels should not bring them to the healthy ones” – lest the disease be transmitted to the healthy ones.

    With regard to the one who is healthy, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Flee from the leper as you would flee from a lion.” Narrated by Ahmad, 9429; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 7530.

    it would not be fair or islamic to expose another to your condition, even if someone agrees to it, for example, would it be fair for a man to marry a woman then infect her and his child with HIV? because she agreed to the marriage? why would such a person agree to such a marriage, except if they are utilising their emotions and not their common sense?
    it would be a case of taking advantage of the vulnerability of a man or a woman who has develop irrational feelings for another, that they would expose themselves to harm intentionally ( emotional vulnerability)

    please do refer your matter to someone more knowledgeable, this is a very serious situation, i wish for you happiness brother., may Allah make this trial easy for you, remember Allah gives his hardest tests to the strongest!

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