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I got nikahfied last year in July and at that time, the boys parents didn't tell that he had illegal daughter, and he is into drugs now. A few months back he told me about his illegal daughter and other stuff, and after two days he said he just wanted to test me and he just made a story up.  Even then I was ready to accept his daughter, but he denied that it was all a story now.

A month before I called him he was already not in a good mood, and he said "your nothing is important for me....find a better person than me",  and I don' t know how.... I reacted irrationally- I said, " ok ,go to hell" and then he made a mountain out of a mole hill.  He said he will not do the ruksati and he will divorce me.  Please, me and my parents are so disturbed- I dont need a divorce! Help me, and can you do istikhaarah for me or tell me what to do?  my name is.. (remaining section deleted by editor)

- Javeria

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Salaam sister. Please do not write any of your details in your post. These details are irrelevant. Always refrain from providing such details to people. There are numerous reasons. No one except Allah knows what is good for us. Giving people family names and asking if it is a good match almosts constitues shirk (associating partners with Allahs). As Muslims we do not believe that anyone except Allah has this knowledge. Secondly, this information may make it easier for someone to perform magic on you. I am not 100% sure. Regardless it is not necessary for people to know. If you want to do istikhaarah do it yourself. This is the sunnah. Please read the following links very carefully as there are a lot of misconceptions about it:

Istikhara in the Light of the Sunnah

Power of Salat-ul-Istikhara

Salat Al-Istikhara in Arabic

Salat-al-Istikhara in Urdu

I do not know this brothers character, but I am quite shocked that you still want to marry him despite knowing he does drugs. If he is still doing so, I urge you to think very carefully about marrying him. If he is reformed then InshaAllah its ok. Also the fact he kept this from you is not a good sign. Do istikhaarah and follow your instinct dear sister. Always ask Allah for whats best for you, as He knows. Sometimes we may think we know whats best but we may be wrong.

Sara
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