PLS HELP! 23 year old with 2 kids and husband is a liar, gambler and drug addict
Salamz, I really need some advice, I am 23 years old have a som who is 16 months, and a daughter who is 1 month old and am living with a serial liar. We were married against both our families wishes at 19 (i converted and had been with him since i was 16). We. both decided to live a pious life and were very happy and our life revolved around prayer and strengthening our faith.
He then atarted to gamble and take drugs, steal from our account, it got better he would turn to his religion and then the same routine again. I. became pregnant with our son and he was severley addicted to drugs apparently speed. The day my son was born he became the man I married, prayed was kind and religious again. Then 5 months later he was back to his old ways and I found out I was pregnant. I went back to work to help prepare financially for our next child and he would take all of my money and his money and spend on drugs, he sold all of my gold when I left the house and even stole my work laptop. I came back to try to help him but I have also found him talking to a girl while I was recovering from giving birth to our daughter. He gambled all our money last week and I couldn't even buy food or nappies. He constantly lies.
I have no father or brother, my mother doesn't want to know me when i am married to. him and I have no idea how to live life without him. Do. i try and stick this out or do i take my kids and get out of this destructive environment. I feel like. i may break down at any point and what woud. happen to my children then.....
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What you are feeling now is not love.
It is dependence only. You are poor and alone in the world.
This was a terrible mistake. He should be beaten very badly.
I am very sad for you sister.
There is no blame on you if you leave him.
Maybe there is blame on you if you do not.
Do not give him another "chance". Just go. Get as far away as you can. Don't look back.
HELLO ,SALAMWALAIKUM ,
IF YOU ARE MUSLIM PLEASE CONTINUE TO PRAY THIS IS RAMADAN INSHALLAH ALLAH WILL GUIDE YOU ,EVERYONE IN THIS WORLD HAS A REASON TO BE HERE ,YOU DO TOO ,YOU CANNOT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ANYONE'S BEHAVIOR BUT YOU DO HAVE A RESPONSIBILITY TO YOUR FAMILY IF YOU ARE EDUCATED FIND A JOB FROM HOME OR STRUCTURE YOUR LIFE AROUND THE SAME SCHEDULE BE VERY CAREFUL WITH A SITTER ,NO WORRIES IF FAMILY IS NOT TALKING TO YOU ,YOU ALREADY HAVE ENOUGH ON YOUR PLATE ,GOD ONLY GIVES WHAT YOU CAN HANDLE ,IT WILL GET BETTER PRAY EARLY HOURS FAJR ,IF ALLAH IS WITH YOU IT WILL ALL WORK ,AS FOR THE DRUG ADDICT IT IS SATANIC IF YOU ASK ME FORGET THE ADDICTION IT IS DEMONIC SO IF YOU GET INTO BAD THINGS BAD WILL COME HIS WAY ,ONLY WAY OUT IS CAN'T SHELTER YOURSELF FROM A DEMON ,JUST PRAY IF ALLAH WANTS HIM TO GET BETTER HE WILL IF NOT MAY ALLAH HAVE SOMETHING BETTER PLANNED FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN .
NEVER GIVE UP ,YOU HAVE HOPE FOR YOU BUT YOU CANNOT PLAN A LIFE FOR HIM ,HE CAN MAKE HIS OWN CHOISES ,PLEASE PRAY ,INSHALLAH IT WILL ALL GET BETTER.kEEP READING QURAN ,
Sister, next time please don't write in ALL CAPS. Thank you.
Wael
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