We think our family cursed us because we are reverts.
Salam aikum,
My husband and I both need some advice. We are both new muslims. I have been muslim for 2 years now and my husband has been muslim for 9 years. As we are both reverts we have a lot of problems with both of our families. Our families are christians.
My husband and I both have suffered from emotional and verbal abuse ever since becoming muslim. Being called a ' terriost' all the time and being threatened to get chucked out of home if we dont change back to christianity. Every time we went to mosque our family have tried to stop us and threatened to lock the door when we come back from prayer and was told to sleep outside instead.
I am now 40 weeks pregnant and my husband and I have now moved out into our own new flat. We think our family might have cursed us. We are always arguing, my husband spends all the money we recieve for himself, hes become more addicted to his smoking, we have both been feeling unwell recently, we havent been praying at mosque recently due to muslims accusing my husband from stealing, family are mentioning to us that they believe in black magic and they say that I am going to get post natal depression after giving birth.
My family are stopping us from going to mosque even though we dont live with them their excuse is ' dont pray there because muslims might curse you' , family forcing us to go back to christianity and our family are stopping us from calling our daughter a muslim name and would rather us to call her a christian name instead. All of these are stressing us both out and we both really need some good advise. At night we can both hear strange noises, we both have stopped praying because we get so tired when prayer comes so sleep instead.
We dont know what to do. We both want to be good muslims and both want to encourage our daughter when shes older to become a good muslim too. Please can anyone advise us and please dont mock us both because we both dont need that at the moment.
Thanks.
- fatimaling1988
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As salamu alaykum, sister fatima,
It is so terrible the situation that you are going through, everyone deserves be respected specially by our own family but this seems to work in the way around in this world, let´s try our best to help you to solve or at least improve all this situation.
One of the powers of cursing lies on the fact that our own mind gives it the power to damage us, specially if it comes from our family, it goes directly to the marrow of our bones, the only human way I believe to get rid of this, is prayer, ayat al Kursi, and at night time before going to bed surah 112, 113, 114, ayat al Kursi and al Fatiha.
Recite the Quran, the Names of Allah and his Attributes, learn duas and be who you want to be not what others expect you to be, insha´Allah.
Can you change your city? I know this sounds quite dramatic, and I like to face things and jump into the troubles to solve them, insha´Allah, but it seems to me that both of you are quite tired and maybe good for all of you to put some distance in the middle and that you try to live a healthy life as a new family.
Eat well, rest and pray your salat. That will protect you too. Take care of yourself and your family, insha´Allah.
Be straight, respectful and loving, even with those that haven´t been right to you, forgive them, Allah(swt) watch us all, the Justice is in His Hands, He(swt) is the One that touches the Heart, Alhamdulillah.
All my Unconditional Respect,
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalamua alykum Sister,
May Allah guard you from the evil of people and help you remain in the fold of Islam as Muslims.
As long as Allah is your helper, no black magic, no white magic can have any effect on you.
So make Allah your Helper and Friend, pray regularly and seek His Help. Keep to the recitation of Surah Falaq and Surah Naas with meanings and seek refuge in Allah from all the evil of that which He created - Min shaari maa khalaq.
Increase your reading of the Qur'an. Imaan goes down at times when a person moves away from the revelations of Allah, so keep to the recital of Qur'an, play qirat of a good Shaikh in your new home daily, sit together, read meanings of the Qur'an for each other, Insha Allah it will give you lot of strength and heal your wounds and give you courage to remain Muslims and stand firm no matter what the families say or do. Insha Allah.
119. Lo! We have sent thee (O Muhammad) with the truth, a bringer of glad tidings and a warner. And thou wilt not be asked about the owners of hell fire.
120. And the Jews will not be pleased with thee, nor will the Christians, till thou follow their creed. Say: Lo! the guidance of Allah (Himself) is Guidance. And if thou shouldst follow their desires after the knowledge which hath come unto thee, then wouldst thou have from Allah no protecting friend nor helper.
121. Those unto whom We have given the Scripture, who read it with the right reading, those believe in it. And whoso disbelieveth in it, those are they who are the losers. - Surah Baqarah.
And Allah says in Surah Al Maidah:
57. O ye who believe! Choose not for friends such of those who received the Scripture before you, and of the disbelievers, as make a jest and sport of your religion. But keep your duty to Allah if ye are true believers.
58. And when ye call to prayer they take it for a jest and sport. That is because they are a folk who understand not.
59. Say: O, People of the Scripture! Do ye blame us for aught else than that we believe in Allah and that which is revealed unto us and that which was revealed aforetime, and because most of you are evil livers?
60. Shall I tell thee of a worse (case) than theirs for retribution with Allah? Worse (is the case of him) whom Allah hath cursed, him on whom His wrath hath fallen! Worse is he of whose sort Allah hath turned some to apes and swine, and who serveth idols. Such are in worse plight and further astray from the plain road.
You should also recite Surah Al Qalam Insha Allah and read it with meanings at home to strengthen your faith in Allah and make firm your purpose:
Surah 68. Al-Qalam
1. Nun. By the pen and that which they write (therewith),
2. Thou art not, for thy Lord's favour unto thee, a madman.
3. And lo! thine verily will he a reward unfailing.
4. And lo! thou art of a tremendous nature.
5. And thou wilt see and they will see
6. Which of you is the demented.
7. Lo! thy Lord is best aware of him who strayeth from his way, and He is best aware of those who walk aright.
8. Therefor obey not thou the rejecters
9. Who would have had thee compromise, that they may compromise.
10. Neither obey thou each feeble oath monger,
11. Detractor, spreader abroad of slanders?
12. Hinderer of the good, transgressor, malefactor
13. Greedy therewithal, intrusive.
14. It is because he is possessed of wealth and children
15. That, when Our revelations are recited unto him, he saith: Mere fables of the men of old.
16. We shall brand him on the nose.
Only Obey Allah and follow not the sinful people.
May Allah bless you with an obedient and righteous child and guide your married life to peace in dunya and aakhirah.
Salaam,
Your brother.
Salaamu alaikum!!! Sister, u ve been giving excellent advice by d sister and d brother. . . . . I just wanna help u with some du'as and inshaALLAH no black magic, or black powers, or satanic pawers, or bad wishes or prayers from ur family will ve effect on u. . . . Sister, i want u to sit down alone and think about d greatness of d God (ALLAH) dat u worship. . . . . He created d heavens and d earth. He created u and me and all d creatures in d heavens and d earth. . His powers is far far far above d so called black magic, or black powers. . . . . . Sister, make sure u and ur husband are punctual to ur sallat prayer and dont allow any form of depression or bad speech (coming from ur family) to make u leave d religion of truth (islam). . . . They will leave to regret what they are doing in this world and in d hereafter (judgement day). . . . But not least, try to show them kindness and be good to them., let them see d beauty of islam in u and also let them realise from u that muslims are not terrorist. . . . Explain to them that islam denounce all form of terrorism and also all bad and inhuman act. .the false propaganda they see/hear from d media is just done by d non-muslims to damage d image of islam. . . . . . . . . . So now coming to d du'as, ricite d following 100times after d morning prayers and also after magrib or isha prayers. . . . LA ILAHA ILLALLAH. WAHDAHU LASHARIKALAH. LAHUL MULK WA LAHUL HAMD. WAHUWA ALAKULLI SHAI'IN QADIIR. . . . . . . Sister, d very day u start this prayer, no black magic or any evil power can ever approach u or have an effect on u. . . And also there will be a barrier between u and satan (or any devil). . . Mind u, d prayer should b done on every day bases. . And if in a case u are having much work to do, u can reduce d numbering from 100 to 10 for that day . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . Also u should be reciting ayatul kursi before sleeping and u can also recite it as much as u can (may be 30 or 40 or 70 or 100 or more) in d morning and in d evening. . . . InshaALLAH no devilish or satanic power can get to u. . . . . . U should also ask ur husband to be doing d du'a. . . . . . . . Wassalamu alaikum warahmatullah. . . . . . . . . Mohd
Assalamu Aleykum.
Dear sister,as brothers and sisters remin all power is in the hands of Allmighty ALLAH ,trust in him
and consenterate what you want to be to please your creator not anyone else,also make a habit to
play quran at your home,especially sura Albaqara. Insha ALLAH all bad evil will disappear.
Salam sister!!!
How are you doing now? Hope you are still a Muslim and your people have stopped nagging you. And if they haven't please tell them to stop playing the role of a '"terrorist'" and let you and your husband and child live in peace!!!! All of us have to go back to Allah and it is only withHim that rewards amd mercy lie, not with any worldly relation of thing.