Talaaq after lying to girlfriend?
salaam,
Respected friends, I am a married person. A few years ago, I used to tell my girlfriend (while I was flirting with her) that "for you I will leave my wife and will marry you", but that was a lie because I was never going to leave my wife for her. So now I am afraid, and wanted to confirm if my nikah is still safe or broken? Please help me!!
Regards,
-agentx
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I am abit confused, you say a few years ago you would tell your gf you would leve your wife, were you married at this point? And you had a gf without your wife knowledge?
Assalaamu 'Alaikum
From the onset you should know that any relationships outside of Islam are completely forbidden. You should seek sincere repentance from Allah and never return to such vile actions.
Your speech "I will leave my wife" is in the future tense which constitutes inshaa. In accordance to this your nikah is still intact with your wife and that statement has no effect in the contract
I agree with all what you said. The marriage is still valid, since he did not issue the talaq word yet. However, he must repent sincerely and never return to any relationship outside his marriage.
OP: So now I am afraid, and wanted to confirm if my nikah is still safe or broken?
You are safe because your wife did not find out about your g/f? How would you feel if your wife had told some thing like that to a b/f?
your nikaah would still be safe. no one is in a postion to judge but it soinds as if your have treated your gf very badly on the false promise of marriage. relationships in islam are haraam for a reason. and you did cross that boundary. no one can change the past. you have come to see the error of your ways, which is the main thing. turn to allah and ask for forgivness. do not ever repeat the same mistake again.
SubhanAllah!
Zina is becoming so easy and casual nowadays. This brother is not even bothered with the fact that he is committing a major sin of adultery. My heart goes to his poor wife.
Audhubillah. May Allah SWT protect us from major and minor sins.
This response says it all. I was completely baffled as to how he casually said he had a gf despite having a wife?!?!!
Assalaamualaikam
I truly hope you are repenting for what you have done, as your actions have been extremely unfair to two women who have given you their trust. If you had truly cared for your girlfriend, you could have considered whether a second marriage was appropriate, rather than having a haraam relationship, committing zina and lying to both her and your wife. And your wife has been betrayed by a man she trusted to treat her well. If you are intending to remain with your wife, it's important to recognise the wrongs that have happened due to your actions, and work to make your lifestyle less open to temptation.
As far as I'm aware, stating an intention is not the same as carrying out the action itself, but if you wish to be sure, it might be best to consult a local scholar.
Midnightmoon
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Salaams,
I think you need to focus on the way you respect women. You had no value for your wife, because you cheated on her. You had no value for your "girlfriend', because you intentionally lied to her when you never meant to fulfill such a promise. It seems as though women are toys to you, and that's a very serious and sinful mindset to have. So when you repent in shaa Allah, make sure you make this also something to ask forgiveness for.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor