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Breaking promises more than 5 times

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Asallahmualaikum
I have wrote this because i need a help very badly please help me.
I promised to Allah 11 promises and i told that i will fulfill it but when my family goes out or i remain alone im my home i break my promise by mistake plz help me and i dont know will allah forgive or not plz tell me do u think Allah will forgive me .I think im also removed from islam for breaking my promises plz help me and i will to join islam again and i want to clean my promise last plzplz help me .

rowshan

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  1. Walaikumassalaam,

    Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning) “And of them are some who made a covenant with Allaah (saying): ‘If He bestowed on us of His Bounty, we will verily, give Sadaqah (Zakaah and voluntary charity in Allaah’s Cause) and will be certainly among those who are righteous’”(Al-Tawbah 9:75)

    This indicates that whoever makes a vow to observe an act of worship has to fulfil it, because a promise or covenant is a vow and an obligation.

    Al-Zuhri (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Whoever makes a promise to Allaah and breaks it, let him give in charity that which Allaah has enjoined in the case of a broken oath.

    Based on this, you have to offer the expiation for breaking an oath. It is sufficient for you to offer one expiation for all previous transgressions, if the vows all had to do with the same action – which is what appears to be the case from your question. If the vows had to do with different actions then you have to offer one expiation for each action.

    The expiation for breaking an oath is to set free a slave, or to feed or clothe ten poor persons. Whoever cannot do any of those things should fast for three days, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “Allaah will not punish you for what is unintentional in your oaths, but He will punish you for your deliberate oaths; for its expiation (a deliberate oath) feed ten Masaakeen (poor persons), on a scale of the average of that with which you feed your own families, or clothe them or manumit a slave. But whosoever cannot afford (that), then he should fast for three days. That is the expiation for the oaths when you have sworn. And protect your oaths (i.e. do not swear much). Thus Allaah makes clear to you His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) that you may be grateful”
    (Al-Maa'idah 5:89)

  2. lol kid don't worry you're not 'removed' from islam. Just stop making promises you can't keep, I am EXACTLY the same when it comes to promises. So whenever I do a sin, I make a firm intention to never do it again and ask Allah to help me keep this up. Everything goes well for sometime until I slip again, I repent to Allah, perform more voluntary prayers and talk to Him in sajdah. Its kind of my way of 'making it up to Him'. I'm just like that with my Lord. You can't just not commit a sin. However you must be careful from committing grave sins, do not even go to that direction. I'm presuming its something serious since it happens when you're by yourself, try your best to stay in the company of a family member as much as you can, and whenever you find yourself alone, throw away your phone and watch some cartoon or something. Even better is that you recite Quran with its tafsir, and stay busy in dhikr when you're alone. Ramadan mubarak to you ❤ I know this website takes a long time to post questions and everytime you gave in to shaytan, hopefully its much easier to refrain now as that devil is locked up. As for forgiveness, yes of course Allah will forgive you. But you have to do repent properly...I see your guilt and concern already and you're in the right direction ❤ My Allah is the Most Merciful of all, He cannot be compared to anything. He takes care of everyone, whether you're a good muslim or not (I'm not talking about you ❤ im just implying about people who could care less about the thought of Allah watching them waste their life in sin and ignorance) Please please please try to stay away from whatever this sin is, and in sha Allah you will no longer be tempted to commit it after these 24 days of Ramadan. Just don't leave Allah like He doesn't leave you. Some people just start avoiding Allah after being ashamed from their sins and this is just the worst thing someone could possibly do. I wish you could have been spared from the expiation because of your age but I'm not sure about it. Nevertheless, Brother Yusuf is right about the expiation. Please do something about it. Have a great month. ❤
    Assalam O Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa baraqatuh

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