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Breaking promises more than 5 times

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Asallahmualaikum
I have wrote this because i need a help very badly please help me.
I promised to Allah 11 promises and i told that i will fulfill it but when my family goes out or i remain alone im my home i break my promise by mistake plz help me and i dont know will allah forgive or not plz tell me do u think Allah will forgive me .I think im also removed from islam for breaking my promises plz help me and i will to join islam again and i want to clean my promise last plzplz help me .

rowshan

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  1. Walaikumassalaam,

    Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning) “And of them are some who made a covenant with Allaah (saying): ‘If He bestowed on us of His Bounty, we will verily, give Sadaqah (Zakaah and voluntary charity in Allaah’s Cause) and will be certainly among those who are righteous’”(Al-Tawbah 9:75)

    This indicates that whoever makes a vow to observe an act of worship has to fulfil it, because a promise or covenant is a vow and an obligation.

    Al-Zuhri (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Whoever makes a promise to Allaah and breaks it, let him give in charity that which Allaah has enjoined in the case of a broken oath.

    Based on this, you have to offer the expiation for breaking an oath. It is sufficient for you to offer one expiation for all previous transgressions, if the vows all had to do with the same action – which is what appears to be the case from your question. If the vows had to do with different actions then you have to offer one expiation for each action.

    The expiation for breaking an oath is to set free a slave, or to feed or clothe ten poor persons. Whoever cannot do any of those things should fast for three days, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “Allaah will not punish you for what is unintentional in your oaths, but He will punish you for your deliberate oaths; for its expiation (a deliberate oath) feed ten Masaakeen (poor persons), on a scale of the average of that with which you feed your own families, or clothe them or manumit a slave. But whosoever cannot afford (that), then he should fast for three days. That is the expiation for the oaths when you have sworn. And protect your oaths (i.e. do not swear much). Thus Allaah makes clear to you His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) that you may be grateful”
    (Al-Maa'idah 5:89)

  2. lol kid don't worry you're not 'removed' from islam. Just stop making promises you can't keep, I am EXACTLY the same when it comes to promises. So whenever I do a sin, I make a firm intention to never do it again and ask Allah to help me keep this up. Everything goes well for sometime until I slip again, I repent to Allah, perform more voluntary prayers and talk to Him in sajdah. Its kind of my way of 'making it up to Him'. I'm just like that with my Lord. You can't just not commit a sin. However you must be careful from committing grave sins, do not even go to that direction. I'm presuming its something serious since it happens when you're by yourself, try your best to stay in the company of a family member as much as you can, and whenever you find yourself alone, throw away your phone and watch some cartoon or something. Even better is that you recite Quran with its tafsir, and stay busy in dhikr when you're alone. Ramadan mubarak to you ❤ I know this website takes a long time to post questions and everytime you gave in to shaytan, hopefully its much easier to refrain now as that devil is locked up. As for forgiveness, yes of course Allah will forgive you. But you have to do repent properly...I see your guilt and concern already and you're in the right direction ❤ My Allah is the Most Merciful of all, He cannot be compared to anything. He takes care of everyone, whether you're a good muslim or not (I'm not talking about you ❤ im just implying about people who could care less about the thought of Allah watching them waste their life in sin and ignorance) Please please please try to stay away from whatever this sin is, and in sha Allah you will no longer be tempted to commit it after these 24 days of Ramadan. Just don't leave Allah like He doesn't leave you. Some people just start avoiding Allah after being ashamed from their sins and this is just the worst thing someone could possibly do. I wish you could have been spared from the expiation because of your age but I'm not sure about it. Nevertheless, Brother Yusuf is right about the expiation. Please do something about it. Have a great month. ❤
    Assalam O Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa baraqatuh

  3. Very True Story Happpen to me because of promise with Allah /oath

    Brother don't worry Allah will forgive every sins and I also already made promise (oath) with Allah for 03 three sins .(for not to do) but you have to repent very sincerely and again you should not break them and not to do sins and try to avoid maximum and what to do humans falls in mistake but must repent and so don't keep stress in your mind...i broke promise 5 times this is true story please read carefully... when ever I break promise and do sins that following day I will get school life dream after that i will check very orginal sources of dream book in internet or other sources of book .this school life dream
    mentioned it related to oath (promise) then i will stop breaking promise and stop doing sins and this is another time when I was breaking during 3 period, I got same dream school life and then I realized again I realized this is related to promise (oath) then due to human nature of my mind and desire again I continue sins so after some few days I got dream like School Examination dream then I refered in the book related to the dream so I got shock news it is warning something for promise so after that even thore I had big desire I did not stop doing sin so after few days when I got up /walk up I got very very mental stress some thing like big unstress..I never felt like that before My dear people you may think it is just normal stress or unrelax but wallahi it is like big stress wallahi before it is very big stress ..mind unrelax after that I relaized this happened because of promise then I went to street and gave some charity/sadaqa,after that it reduced stress in to little bit and after that next day I took expiataion for promise since I'm poor man I can do for fasting nine days since I broke 3 three promise so after that what happened when I started to fast, when I second 2nd day in after fajar sleep I got dream that I'm running away from school during school time without permission from principal then after that my teacher came and hit me so after I got up In morning I realized this is related to punishment for breaking promise so after next day fasting (3rday) when I slept after fajar I got another dream that I met king or one ruler He was speaking to me with laughs (smile) and talking to me after i got up In morning I realizied Allah is happy/pleasure with me because I did not break promise again and I made expiataion for it by fasting and after that I again broke promise after few days due to my big human desire so after that what happened I had some psychological issue from before that when ever I see temple ,churches or pastor monk ,statue then mind say don't look it ..if you look again and you commit to kufur by seeing kufur picture or temple these thing increases during broke time of promise it increased much ..waste and waste I can not just see temple ,churches other etc..so one day suddenly my aunty got sick and she called me and asking me to come and take her to medical care centre then I went to her house and took her medical care centre so after that while I was medical centers I felt badly some thoughts coming like I got kufur hought it means as i said earlier psychological thoughs so after when i was returning medical centre suddenly i felt my eman or pious/Faith was reducing , this I felt literally in mind then me and my aunty both came to my home and then I'm getting nerves ,upset,feel depressed, shock very very big pressure..never felt before so suddenly i thought of listening Rukaiya shareef then I started to listen lots even thore I'm listening, I did not feel anything well in mind same felt unrelax and so after my aunty told listen sura Baqarah then I listen in surah baqarah in youtube with video footage then suddenly I got to see in ayah, verses say those people who used to lie then they became Kafir (Kufur) Here we have to understand here that lie means big lie between Allah and person I just think .after that some stress or some big unrelax increased as I said earlier increased much waste .depressed shock it means as i said earlier so after that I thought this all happened due to breaking promise with Allah then I prayed Allah ask forgiveness but not sincerely and ask some duas but it did not work up to noon following day so during night time morning time I felt fear with Allah and my heart got fear that Allah will punish me in grave as well hell and I'm so upset thinking of hell and grave punishment very shock knowingly in other day I went to meet my aunty brother he usually give advice to me then I went to there and met him and told my problem He made me some small relax even thore big relax believe me that I was big stress in my some thing hard even thinking of grave punishment punishment and hell punishment for breaking promise, oath,, here believe even I urine went out because fear of Allah and his punishment side because of breaking promise after i saw tawbah/repentance book with Arabic. Very good and original sources for asking forgiveness from Allah and then I returned to my home with my father ,there i washed my body due to urine leakage /out in trouser and I made ablutution,,wudu and started to make tawbah/repentance with that tawbah book And I read all instructions before do tawbah then I prayed two rakats sunnath then after that I prayed /recited some Quranic and Hadees duas in dawbah book you know follow all guidlines of tawbah.after finishing tawbah/repentance I felt so verry relax in other words very peace.then I went to bed exactly 3.00 pm at noon time after i got up 11.00pm at night I had fast sleep since I couldn't sleep even one minute before day .I thought I would die due to unsleep ( I can not able to sleep even 1 minute due to very highly pressure)don't think please it is just small pressure it is very high so after that I dream in hostel, collecting all garbages/waste items and collect burning it ,So this dream that I realized Allah erased my all promise related sins by testing.

    This is Wallahi Happened in my life few years ago and again wallahi
    Some time you may thing this guy is mental no ..Very true happened to me
    Please don't make promise ,unless can full fill ...if you are doing promise ,please full fill it other no problem...if you break promise and please ask sincerely forgiveness that not repeat it please .

    Please understand Breaking promise is go to Kufur since it is big lie /promise between creator Allah and person so be careful when you make promise,oath because I was able to see ayah, verses in surah baqarah those people who used to lie they became Kafir due to munafique qualities (even we heard our prophet Muhammad peace be upon him also some munafique there survived ) but person to person lie or promise is not much affect /reflecting even we have to stop munafique habits even lie between person to person .since minor hyprocrasy will
    Lead to major hyprocrasy..be careful...major hyprocrasy dangerous since in heart don't believe in Islam and out heart showing of Islam but inwardly he hate Islam

    Even Allah said don't break promise offent ..it is not good ,I read ayah and one I remember

    Sorry for any wrong English.

    Because I wrote because to give information to my Islamic friends to understand..effects of promise or consequence of breaking promise ...such as punishment, go to kufur,

    Even thore I had psychology issue that when I see temple churches monk problems that may go to kufur that I fully accept I had issue with psychology side and but other Details very true wallahi believe me my dear.

    May Allah bless every one and protect promise and forgive sins Ameen...please share among your friends and please don't get stress or upset that I have become Kafir..make tawbah ,repentance then you wil definitely become muslim..don't worry because Allah is so merciful and He forgive sins a lot and don't shy to ask forgiveness...

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