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I need help with this problem (waswas)

So I have always had Waswas ever since I became more practising. Since about 1 year and a half I have been getting Waswas about the deen in the form of doubt for example in the Quran Allah said that he made the earth flat I always understood it was the ground that we walk on I would get thoughts like the Quran says the earth shape is flat this means this religion is wrong. Everytime I would research about the topic and prove the Waswas wrong but because the shytan can’t find anything to create doubt about in the deen, I have been getting Waswas about the same gender. I have never liked a girl sexually or romantically and I see pictures of girls on instagram ( by accident) and I have never looked at these women like that. But now when I see woman I get these thoughts which is weird because I never got these thoughts ever. I get really anxious and I don’t know what to do. I always dreamed of getting married and being happy with my husband and i see an attractive man I would be attracted to them but obviously I wouldn’t do anything. But because of this and the mental pressure it is causing i am scared and want it to stop .I know that I should not think about it but I get scared if I leave it my brain would be accustomed to this kind of thought like other thoughts that are stuck in my mind as a results of Waswas.

Please help I am very depressed and just wish I would die

Thank you

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  1. As Salaamu Alaikum
    We all go through this, here is an answer a scholar gave to someone who had similar problem. May Allah guide you through this and protect you and strengthen you in your Iman and Ihsan and draw you closer to Him. Ameen! This may also be the evil eye, In shaa Allah try to talk to an Imam or someone who has knowledge. Keep reading Qur'an and Ahadith, increase in du'as, extra prayers and fast. May this be a help for you and may Allah forgive you and have mercy on you Ameen!

    When I do Salah (formal prayers) or intend to do good deeds I often get very evil thoughts in my mind. When I concentrate in Salah, and try to focus on the meaning of the words, evil thoughts enter my mind, which make evil suggestions about everything including Allah. I feel very frustrated and angry about this. I know that none forgives sins except Allah alone, but because of my thoughts I feel that there is nothing worse than to have evil thoughts about Allah. After Salah I ask Allah's forgiveness, but feel very bad because I want to stop these evil thoughts, but I can't stop them. These thoughts spoil my enjoyment of Salah, and also make me feel as though I am doomed. Please advise me.
    Answer

    Praise be to Allah

    Evil whispers during prayer and at other times come from the Shaytan, who is keen to misguide the Muslim and deprive him of good and keep it far away from him. One of the Sahabah complained to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) about waswas during prayer, and he said: “The Shaytan comes between me and my prayers and my recitation, confusing me therein.” The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “That is a devil called Khanzab. If he affects you, seek refuge in Allah from him and spit drily to your left three times.” He (the Sahabi) said, I did that and Allah took him away from me. (Narrated by Muslim, 2203)

    Proper focus (khushoo’) is the essence of prayer. Prayer without proper focus is like a body without a soul. The following are two of the things that help one to develop the proper focus:

    1 – Striving to think about what you are saying and doing, pondering the meanings of the Quran, dhikr (words of remembrance) and du’as (supplications) that you are reciting; bearing in mind that you are conversing with Allah as if you can see Him. For when the worshipper stands to pray, he is speaking to his Lord, and ihsan (perfection of worship) means worshipping Allah as if you are seeing Him, and knowing that even though you cannot see Him, He sees you. Every time a person experiences the sweetness of prayer, he will be more inclined to do it. This depends of the level of one's faith – and there are many means of strengthening one’s faith. Hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Of the things of your world, women and perfume have been made dear to me, and my joy is in prayer.” According to another hadeeth he said, “Give us our rest through it, O Bilal (ie. with prayer),” and he did not say, give us a break from it.

    2 – Striving to ward off the things that may distract you during prayer, namely thinking about things that are irrelevant or distracting. Waswas affects each person differently, because waswas has to do with a person’s level of doubts and desires and the degree to which a person is attached to other things or fears other things.

    (From Majmoo’ Fatawa Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah, 22/605)

    With regard to what you say about the waswas reaching such a great level that you have begun to experience waswas that makes you think about Allah in ways that are not appropriate, these are evil whispers from the Shaytan. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    And if there comes to you from Satan an evil suggestion, then seek refuge in Allah. Indeed, He is the Hearing, the Knowing. (Fussilat 41:36)
    Some of the Sahabah complained about the waswas that was bothering them. Some of the Companions of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said to him, ‘We find in ourselves thoughts that are too terrible to speak of.’ He said, ‘Are you really having such thoughts?’ They said, ‘Yes.’ He said, ‘That is a clear sign of faith.’” (Narrated by Muslim). (Narrated by Muslim, 132 from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah).

    Al-Nawawi said in his commentary on this hadeeth (prophetic tradition): “The Prophet’s words, ‘That is a clear sign of faith’ mean, the fact that you think of this waswas as something terrible is a clear sign of faith, for if you dare not utter it and you are so afraid of it and of speaking of it, let alone believing it, this is the sign of one who has achieved perfect faith and who is free of doubt.”

    And it was said that what it means is that the Shaytan only whispers to those whom he despairs of tempting, because he is unable to tempt them. As for the kafir (non-Muslim), he can approach him in any manner he wants and is not restricted to waswas, rather he can play with him however he wants. Based on this, what the hadeeth means is that the cause of waswas is pure faith, or that waswas is a sign of pure faith. Please see question no. 12315.

    The fact that you hate that and your heart recoils from it is a clear sign of faith. Waswas happens to everyone who turns to Allah by reciting dhikr etc. It is inevitable, but you have to be steadfast and patient, and persevere with your dhikr and prayer, and not give up, because in this way you will ward off the plot of the Shaytan. Indeed, the plot of Satan has ever been weak. Every time a person wants to turn to Allah, waswas brings other matters to mind. The Shaytan is like a bandit: every time a person wants to proceed towards Allah, he wants to block the way. Hence when it was said to one of the salaf (pious predecessors) that the Jews and Christians say, “We do not experience waswas,” he said, “They are speaking the truth, for what would the Shaytan do with a house in ruins?” (From Fatawa Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah, 22/608).
    The remedy:

    1 – If you feel that you are being affected by this waswas, say, “Amantu Billahi wa Rasoolihi (I believe in Allah and His Messenger).” It was narrated from ‘Aishah that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “The Shaytan comes to one of you and says, ‘Who created you?’ And he says ‘Allah.’ Then the Shaytan says, ‘Who created Allah?’ If that happens to any one of you, let him say, Amantu Billahi wa Rusulihi (I believe in Allah and His messengers). Then that will go away from him.”(Narrated by Ahmad, 25671; classed as hasan (sound) by al-Albani in al-Saheehah, 116).

    2 – Try to stop thinking about that as much as possible, and keep busy with things that will distract you from it.

    Finally, we advise you to keep on turning to Allah in all situations, and to ask Him for help, and to beseech Him, and to ask Him to make you steadfast until death, and to cause you to die doing righteous deed.

    And Allah knows best.

  2. Read manzil
    .you can get app or you tube

    The early scholors would read these selected duas fot protection of sihr and any form of blk majic evil eye spells . These are quranic verses

  3. It's normal as a human being to ask question about yourself, God, and the world around you. I wouldn't call it waswas, I would just call it normal and healthy human curiosity.

    I am personally not of the belief that all questions about the world can be answered through the Quran. Some things science answers, other things science doesn't answer, but the Quran does. I think as sensible human beings we are to find answers in many different places, not just in the Quran. I personally think the Quran answers more spiritual questions about life, whereas I tend to rely on science for facts and numbers.

  4. Assalaamulaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakaatu.

    You have a weakness in your emaan, which is ignorance and the shyataan is exploiting that weakness and whispering waswasas and the cure for your waswasahs is very simple! You have to increase your knowledge.

    Allah Subhanawataalah says in the Quran:

    "And Allah has made the earth for you as a carpet (spread out), That ye may go about therein, in spacious roads." (71:19-20)

    There is no contradiction between saying that it is round and saying that it was spread out, because in fact in its totality it is round, but to the one who stands on it and looks at it, it appears flat, as it appears to everyone.

    Even though it is round, is an enormous sphere, and each little part of this enormous sphere, when it is looked at, appears to be flat. As that is the case, this will dispel what you mentioned of confusion.

    And if about 14 centuries ago had Allah directly said it like that, then the people at that time would not have believed it because they had not been able to see the earth from space, in contrast with today where the science is evolving.

    “Do you not see that Allah causes the night to enter the day and causes the day to enter the night and has subjected the sun and the moon, each running [its course] for a specified term, and that Allah , with whatever you do, is Acquainted?” [Al-Qur’aan 31:29]

    Merging here means that the night slowly and gradually changes to day and vice versa. This phenomenon can only take place if the earth is spherical. If the earth was flat, there would have been a sudden change from night to day and from day to night.

    Salaam.

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