How to move on from what we left behind?
Assalamu aleikum,
I am a reverted sister, and it's been almost 3 years now since I became a Muslimah, Alhamdullilah. But my faith is being tested so hard. A few months ago me, my son and my husband were evacuated from Syria to my native country. We've lost everything we owned back there. But Alhamdullilah we managed to leave in time.
The things we experienced there...I can't even talk about them. Every time I remember, it makes me cry. We are living with my parents which don't understand the reason I am Muslim. However they let us stay with them. My husband's family is still in Syria. I can't bring them here, and I can't help them in any way. We don't even have a job yet.
I wish I could understand how to cope with all this pain. I am praying and making duas as often as possible, and I am thankful for getting out of there but at the same time I feel guilty for those who were left behind; I feel they deserved it more than I did, and that I betrayed them. Our life seemed to end, literally. I don't know how to move on.
My family is judging me, they are pressing me to find a job (although I am searching every day), it's seems a vicious circle and I am not getting out of it any time soon. I am so angry at them because they don't value what they have.
Please, any advice.
-Umm Youssef
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Assalamualaikum sister,
Although i have only seen the edited scenes of the syrian struggle in fragments and disjoined segments on news channels like al jazera and alike, i feel great sympathy for those who r struggling for their survival every single day in that kind of bloodshed with their loved ones.
U may interact with various ppl of different races and countries here on this website but i have realized how we tend to empathise with strangers here, its only b'coz of one reason and that is our strong common bond with islam. There is a natural flow of emotions when we c or hear of another muslim brother or sister in a conflict and our feelings vent out sometimes stronger that we think we r capable of. My heart reaches out to u and ur family. I will pray for u and beg Allah to make u and family strong enough to survive and ur other syrian brothers and sisters to rise up as victorious.
I wish the website could give me ur email so i and even others could provide u with some sort of help but for the moment plz hang on there tight and strong. Pray as much as u can, dont skip ur salat ul layl and read surah waqiah and surah rehman. These surahs have great barakah. U will b provided with lawful means to earn the wealth u will be blessed by Allah and will never have to worry on those lines again.. Besides that some1 just recently advised me to recite surah inshirah.
As far as ur guilt is concerned then let me tell u that it is normal to feel like this for those who managed to escape coz in panic situations u dont have time to pre plan everything and each individual and family has to take very quick decisions in time. Just see it as Allah's will..nothing at all happens without His knowledge nor is beyond His control. Y he chose to move u with ur family and y his family is still stuck r his decisions and so though ur concern for them is natural, do not hold urself guilty in anyway.
Stay strong and steadfast. These r indeed trying times for our muslim ummah all over the world. May Allah give
u strength.
Ameen.
Is it from the sunnah that these two surahs give such barakah in wealth? Reciting quran is great but saying that it has such and such benefit when.the evidence for it is not from the quran and sunnah then we should refrain from spreading such words. I know some ladies say this, but plz refer to the quran and sahih hadith always. Plz give reference to where in the quran or authentic hadith it says that these surahs give these benefits.
Dont take me wrong sis, but as an ummah we should all try to help each other and correct each in a nice manner, like brothers and sisters, and thats what im doing. If I ever say anything wrong, plz correct me too. Im not sure if what u said about those surahs is from the sunnah or not, hence, I asked for a reference. We all need to stay away from bidah.
And Allaah knows best
Really sis? U didnt know about it? Im amazed..its good u asked
check this
About Surah Waqiah
Abdullah ibn Masood '' whoever recited Surah Waqiah at night will never encounter poverty'' (ibn as- Sunni 620, Bahayqi)
Prophet (s.a.w) said '' Surah al waqiah is the surah of wealth, so recite it and teach it to your children'' (ibn Askir)
Whoever recites Surah Waqiah at night would never encounter poverty'' (ibn sunni 620)
About Surah Rahman
Sister, those are very weak hadiths (Da'eef), now It makes me wonder of where exactly are you learning or researching about Islam because I remembered, last time you posted fabricated hadiths too, sister I'm not attacking you but just advising you to stop visiting/reading those website/books which contains unauthentic stuffs. Islam is based only on Quran and sahih(authentic) hadith.
Brother can u really call them daeef? Coz i know that when a hadith is narrated by many people then it is automatically considered as Hasan.. I have given u examples of more than one source for it. if u belong to those who reject it then go on but i belong to the group that considers it authentic so i shall read it and encourage others to do so.
If u have a better advise for this syrian sister then talk to her coz she needs it. Bye.
As far I read...
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2137 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "If anyone recites a letter from Allah's Book he will be credited with a good deed, and a good deed gets a tenfold reward. I do not say that ‘Alif-Lam-Mim’ are one letter, but ‘alif’ is a letter, ‘lam’ is a letter and ‘mim’ is a letter."
As blessed as the recitation of the Surah Waqiah or any other portion of the Glorious Quran are…..to the best of our knowledge there is absolutely nothing in the authentic and established Sunnah which even remotely implies that the recitation of the Surah Waqiah (or any other Surah) puts ‘baraka’ in the income of man!
without an iota of a doubt, the whole of the Glorious Quran is a form of ‘Baraka’ and blessings for those who recite it and implement its clear injunctions in their lives…..but to pin-point or appoint one particular Surah from oneself, and declare without any authority that the regular recitation of this particular Surah would bring ‘baraka’ in the income of man, when Allah and His Messenger (saws) have not endorsed such a notion would be misguidance to say the least!
Although the general guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws) was to recite the Glorious Quran from its start to its finish in addition to what one recites in their daily prayers….there are indeed some verses or small Surahs of the Glorious Quran which the Messenger of Allah (saws) guided and encouraged the believers to recite on a daily basis:
The 112th Surah Al-Ikhlaas
The 113th Surah Al-Falaq
The 114th Surah An-Naas
The ‘Aayat ul-Kursi’ Verse 255 of Surah 2 Al-Baqarah
The verses 285 and 286 of Surah 2 Al-Baqarah
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2173 Narrated by Jubayr ibn Nufayr
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Allah finished Surah al-Baqarah with two verses (285 and 286) which I have been given from His Treasure which is under the Throne; so learn them and teach them to your womenfolk, for they are a blessing, a means of a approach (to Allah) and a supplication."
Abu Umamah reported that the Prophet (saws) said, "….For whoever recites the ‘Aayat –ul Kursi’ (Surah 2 al-Baqarah 255) at the end of every prayer, nothing will prevent him from entering Paradise except that (he must) die (first)."
Related by an-Nasa'i and at-Tabarani.
Abu Sa'id reported that the Prophet (saws) asked, "Can anyone of you recite a third of the Qur'an during the night?" The companions considered this rather difficult and they said, "Who among us can do so, O Messenger of Allah (saws)?" Thereupon the Prophet (saws) said, "(Say:) He is Allah, the One and Only; Allah, the Eternal, Absolute; He begetteth not, nor is he begotten; and there is none like unto Him.'' (The reference here is to the recitation of Surah 112 Suratul Ikhlaas of the Qur'an, which the Prophet (saws) described as equivalent to reciting one-third of the Qur'an.)
Related by Bukhari, Muslim, and Nasa'i.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 6.536A Narrated by Aisha
Whenever the Prophet (saws) retired to bed every night, he (saws) used to cup his hands together and blow over it after reciting Surah Al-Ikhlaas, Surah Al-Falaq and Surah An-Naas, and then rub his hands over whatever parts of his body he was able to rub, starting with his head, face and front of his body. He (saws) used to do that three times.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), one can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Do correct me if I am wrong....
You are correct, May Allah increase you in knowledge and bring you more closer to the Sunnah. Jazakillah Khair.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
JazakAllah khayr ! What you said is correct and yea there are no any authentic hadith stating the specific virtue of surah Al Waqiah but an overall reward.
@ apple green,
We do not choose whats authentic and whats not, the scholars of hadith does that, sister. The hadith you posted are not present in any of the authentic collection or established sunnah, and Sheikh Albanee, Ibn Hajar and others considers it to be da'eef, So which group exactly you belong to that considers it authentic ?
Know that, not all Ibn Sunni and Ibn Asakir collections are authentic. They've included many da'eef hadith too.
If you want to post something, try finding it from the authentic collections (Bukhari, Muslim etc) or other sunan, musnad collections verified by scholars as 'sahih' or 'hasan' and NOT 'da'eef' or 'mawdoo'.
You can post as many hadith as you wish and we are here to help distinguish the sahih hadith from the da'eef so that people become aware of what they are acting upon. Since you cannot verify it by finding an authentic source, then its not encouraged and you should not engcourage it for encouraging a da'eef hadith is a sin, there are no disagreement amongst scholars on this.
Surah Rahman
Tirmidhi, Hakim and Hafiz Abu bakar Al- bazzar from Hadrat Jabir bin Abdullah
Their tradition contains these words '' when people kept silent on hearing the Surah Ar- Rahman, the Holy Prophet said '' I recited this Surah before the jinn in the night when they had gathered together to hear the Quran. They responded to it better than u have. As i recited the divine words, Fa bi ayyi alaai Rabbikuma tukadhdhiban ( O jinn or men, which blessings of your Lord will you deny?'') they would respond to it, saying: o our Lord, do not deny any of your blessings Praise is for u alone!''
Brother Ali with all respect to u i just wanted to know if u consider a daeef hadith as a mawdoo. Its clear to us that hadith is divided in 4 categories sahih (authentic), hasan(good), daeef (weak) and mawdoo( rejected or fabrications). I assume that u put both the daeef and mawdoo in the same category which is not correct way of judging it.. And to explain that i will have to tell y they r not considered alike.
Daeef hadith is considered weak coz of certain factors such as when the question is raised on the narrator's memory or his virtue.,But if the same hadith is narrated by a chain of narrators (multiple narrations) then it is automatically considered hasan.. There could b other factors but i dont know about them. Now i would like to stick to my context that is the recitation of Surah Waqiah. U can clearly c multiple narrators and at least 2 sources here, hence i consider it hasan(good) but u for some reason my brother still consider it daeef and not only that u r treating it as a fabrication.
Secondly i have no idea y u only consider imam bukhari's hadith as authentic or sahih and reject the rest? Wonder y u didnt include tirmidhi, muslim and alike in ur comment. Brother perhaps u belong to a different school of thought that has taught u
only stick to one source to avoid confusion..but i would b drifting far away fron the
topic of the authenticity of reciting surah waqiah daily if i discussed that now as i dont intend to.
I choose to read it everyday coz i simply believe that it has those barakas as narrated in these hadiths, i also believe that the hadith is hasan and not daeef or fabricated as u do. I dont think any1 has a right to stop me or any1 else from its recitation just becoz they find themselves nagating its authenticity. I have explained my views from the point of view of sunnah and i dont feel the need to push that on some1 who doesnt agree.
This thread has ridiculously drifted far away from its context. May Allah guide us all.
If ur intention was simply to guide me brother then i thank u and value ur comments and i apologise if i have offended u.
Ur sister in faith.
JazakAllah khair.
P.s ( to those who may find it relevant)
Acknowledging the barakas of certain surahs and ayah's does not mean trivializing the rest of the quran (astagfirullah)any1 who does so is a kafir and any1 who charges another of kufr simply based on his assumptions is nothing but foolish.
I have no idea why my comment moved to trash it's okay I do not mind if admin didn't like it all I wanted to say is before calling someone "foolish" should see what they are saying weather it's foolish or not.
Yes ofcourse 'Da'eef' and 'Mawdo' are completely different. 'Da'eef' hadith may/may not be true but 'mawdo' cannot be even considered as hadith.
Sister, you're playing a dangerous game, I've studied in Islamic school for the past 14 years of my life (i'm 21 now) and with all the Islamic knowledge I've gained/learned, I still consider myself as less knowledgeable in Islam, I would never classify hadith unlike you, you just classified a hadith 'hasan' by sitting behind your monitor ? (no offence wallah), but seriously
you've just made a weak hadtih 'hasan' just because it got two narrators ? Should I post up a list of weak and fabricated hadiths which got multiple narrations ? Thats not how a hadith "automatically" becomes 'hasan', there are many steps involves and it takes years and years for the hadith scholars to differentiate those hadiths.
Basically, Da'eef hadith is usually due to the weakness in: a) one of discontinuity in the isnad , in which case the hadith could be according to the nature of the discontinuity - Munqa'ti (broken), Mu'allaq (hanging), Mu'adal (perplexing), or Mursal (hurried), or b) one of the reporters having a disparaged character, such as due to his telling lies, excessive mistakes, opposition to the narration of more reliable sources, involvement in innovation, or ambiguity surrounding his person. Therefore, its not only how many people narrated the hadith which makes it 'hasan' but a detailed study of an individual's life and much more. Have you done those ? Have you heard of Sheikh Al Albani and Ibn Hajar ? They are scholars of hadith and they've made the hadith you posted as 'da'eef' NOT ME but it seems you've got a better refutation ?
Anyways, if you can find the actual FULL hadith (with Isnad, matn and ta'raf) that you've posted by Ibn Sunni and Ibn Asakir, then please post the full narration because I can't seem to find those narrations online.
You've mis-read/overlooked my comments I guess, because I've clearly stated 'authentic collections' ( sahih Bukhari, sahih Muslim) and 'sunan and musnad' collections (do you know whats sunan and musnad collections ? They are sunan Al Sughra (by Nasaa'i), sunan Abi Dawod, sunan Tirmidhi, sunan Ibn Maja, musnad Ahmad etc. Did you check ? Fyi, I follow the Shafi'i madhab and Imam Bayhaqi is no stranger to me. He is a Shafi'i too. His book kitab Al kubra is not among the Sihah Al Sittah and it has all kinds of hadiths from sahih to da'eef.
Again I'll repeat, I consider it 'da'eef' and NOT fabricated and I don't understand, why do you think that I would want you to stop reciting surah Waqiah ? That makes no sense. Read surah Waqiah as much as you wish for eventually you'll be rewarded as stated by a poster above, I was just pointing out the weakness of hadith regarding the virtue of that surah. ( you remember last time you posted a fabricated hadith and when we corrected you on its authenticity, even there you thought we were trying to stop you from reciting surah Ikhlas, Ya-seen etc )
With the vast numbers of 'sahih' and 'hasan' hadiths we have in Islam, I really don't need a weak hadith because I may fall in sin if our prophet didn't say those words and we spread it ignorantly.
Becarefull sister, we have hadith scholar to help us and so don't go around posting weak hadith and say ' I consider it hasan ', If you are a scholar, then thats a different topic.
May Allah guide us all.
Assalamualaikum brother Ali,
Ur reply is the first thing i read this morning when i rose to switch my cell's alarm.
I must tell u that it disturbed me immensely. First of all let me tell u brother this discussion that took the form of an argument wasnt intended to do so. I never questioned ur knowledge of hadith. Its although nice to know that u have 14yrs of experience but i knew that u r some1 who has a good deal of it b4 u even stated it.
As for the da'eef status of this hadith as u say, i think what u mean to say is that a daeef cannot become hasan merely because it is affirmed by 2 (weak)narrators. Is that so? Correct me if i got it wrong. Ok if it is then I wont argue. But as a lay person i expect any1 who is knowlegeable to enlighten me from the technical aspect in simple and minimal language.
eg. there r many other kinds of daeef. I would also like to know y and on what grounds they r segregated and how does their application vary from 1 another or it doesnt apply in any case. I wished u discussed this with me but sadly u didnt and rather got into a more personal mode of argument perhaps coz u were very annoyed. Brother ur education and experience will only benefit the ummah if u made urswlf approachable and maintained ur calm.
now u must b wondering y is she dragging this issue of daeef hadith anyway. Brother we all know that the hadith of abu dawood on hijab is also weak and the hadith on naqaab is even weaker.. .But still we follow them. how many times have i heard those who refer to it now and again, also stating that it is daeef? NONE..not unless they want to argue against it. All i want to know is when i said that surah al waqiah can be read for barakah y was i challenged on this page to produce the hadith and then when i did y was i pushed onto the argument of it weakness?
as a humble lay person i would like to learn that classification from u. If only u could perhaps shed some light without doubting my intention as to gaming with the issue.
Kindly Make ur post relevant and understandable. Also do not use jargons without their simplified meanings next to them.
Assalamualaikum,
Discussions on the status of a hadith should not be discussed except when one has the knowledge of Mustalah al Hadith and is sure about it.
A daeef hadith can become hasan, but then it will be called hasan li ghairihi and it has some conditions such as the narrators in question should not be declared fasiq, and so on. About the ahadeeth in question, if you want to analyze whether it can be a hasan lighairihi hadith, then you will have to have ilm ar rijaal from the books of Aimmah of Hadith and then you should analyze each and every narrator in the chain, in all the chains that are available for that matn.
All of this is easier said than done. We should pray to Allah that He Blesses the Aimmah of Hadith and fills their quboor with noor.
If you want to see if the ahadeeth in question can reach hasan lighairihi status, then search for it in the works of Imam Nasiruddin Albani Rahimahullah, the Muhaddith of this era and in sha Allah, the Mujaddid of this era.
This is the least one can do in order to analyze. A daeef hadith can not be relied upon, especially one which has a fasiq in its chain.
I hope there will be no more argument without knowledge.
Jazakumullahu Khair
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Thanx brother abu abdul bari
i dont disagree. There r indeed many technicalities that go into a daeef and with whatever i cud understand from brother ali i got to learn that the conversion from daeef to hasan is not as simple either, i just wished he explained it from the technical point of view that well, instead he got upset. I have asked him something. Lets see if it helps me in anyway.
Not arguments but discussions should b encouraged with lay persons and the knowlegeable must show patience, that is the only way to spread knowlegde and encourage them to look more into it. If we never got into it then we would never know anything and when 1 day when a non believer will challenge us we will have nothing but to look frantically for material to copy and paste. Im have been truly inspired to study hadith, as subject it is very interesting indeed and extremely essential for every muslim brother or sister to know about it in dept althought a student of hadith never considers his education complete however its in dept
study and analysis has to offer immense satisfaction of its own.
Wa'alaykumsalam sister 'apple green',
When we inform someone that the scholars of hadith considers a hadith as 'da'eef', then we are no one to consider it as 'hasan', thats why its difficult to keep calm when someone does that confidently. I should have tried harder anyways, I am very sorry for being harsh by offending you.
Sister, muslim women follow hijab and niqab because its in the Quran , Sahih Bukhari, Sunan Abi Dawood, Tirmidhi etc basically, it is the Islamic sharia dress code for women. Many many daleels (proofs/evidences) are availabe.
Which classification sister ?, bro Abu Abdul Bari gave you an answer I believe, but if you wish to study the ' Science of Hadith ', then its surely a pretty huge topic which we'll have to discuss in a new thread when you open one.
Studying hadith should be done from scholars and not just anybody. I believe sister 'apple green' understands Urdu. So this explanation of Mustalah al Hadith by Dr. Murtaza Baksh will help in sha Allah: http://ashabulhadith.com/Mustalay_ul_hadith/Mustalay_ul_hadith.html
However, ahkaam come much after the Aqeedah and Imaan. So first, we should learn Aqeedah and Manhaj and when we understand and can differentiate sunnah from bid'ah and can differentiate the aqeedah of the salaf from that of those who opposed them at all times, we should learn about Ahkaam.
I am saying this because you may find it difficult to understand mustalah, without some basic knowledge.
So make sure you make things easy for yourself and go ahead then. In order to learn Aqeedah, you can refer to the books: Sharh Aqwedah Tahhawiyyah, Kitab at Tawhid, Aqeedah al Wasitiyyah, Aqeedah al Hamawiyyah, Usool as Sunnah, and their likes.
You can also lisen to Dr. Murtaza on the same website: ashabulhadith.com to learn Aqeedah under the section: Aqeedah (عقیدة). It is recommended that you make notes from what you hear, in order to remember and have a greater impact in sha Allah.
This is for everyone who wishes to learn.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
The only advice I have for you is this:
-Pray tahajjud and train yourself to go up to a juz in it. (understand Quran with meaning and if you don't , five ten minutes to work on this daily). and make dua.
-Do alot of dhikr as you go about your day: istighfar/la hawla wa la quwwata illa billa/Allahuma salli wa sallim ala nabiyyina muhammad
-do your morning and evening adhkar.
-Its good you recognize this is a test and your feelings show that inshallah your belief is strong. Persevere. there is no short cut to perseverence.
Wa 'alaykum assalam dear sister
I can understand how tough it must be for u sis. Plz check some of the tafsirs and lectures by nouman ali khan, particularly this one ... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cCjv3FSywkA&feature=youtube_gdata_player ... Also watch this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3XsZ-1J3RJU&feature=youtube_gdata_player ... These videos will in sha Allaah make u feel so so much better sis. I have been through hard and painful times too, and I can understand how it must be for u sis x but plz remember that Allaah is the most merciful and most wise. Learn more about Allaah's mercy and wisdom, learn more about Him my dear sis for this will keep u strong, steadfast on the right path and patient in times of calamity, in sha Allaah. Dont lose hope sis, make a lot of dua. Plz also watch this sis http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?feature=related&v=LKLz52dL1v0
Another thing sis, ur worry about the people left behind is very understandable and its natural to be in pain, and we remember u in our duas sister. However, dont let shaytan make ur worry turn into guilt, shaytan just wants to depress and burden u more, so that u get exhausted, coz shaytan is our enemy and he wants us to get weak and vulnerable to his attacks. Sis, I know how difficult it is for u, but ignore the feelings of guilt, u have no reason to be guilty my dear sis, if u were with them in Syria would that have helped them? Only Allaah can help sis, what they need from u sis is ur dua for them. Evacuating was the right choice sis, its good u evacuated, dont feel guilty for u being safe now, rather be grateful to Allaah, Allaah has been merciful to u that He now put u in a safe environment, how can u feel guilty over that dear sis? Ur evacuation should be something that makes u feel more grateful to Allaah, not guilty sis, dont let shaytan make u feel bad. I know its hard sis, I know how ur feeling and u obviously want them to be safe, and now that ur safe this hurts u as it reminds u about what they lack, but dont let ur concern for them turn into guilt sis; what Allaah does is always best, even if we dont understand it sometimes, so we must just always trust Allaah. if u think of it sister, ur evacuation has also helped them! Now that ur in a better place, at least now the people who are left behind and care about u, at least their hearts are now at rest that at least someone from their friends and family is now safe, whereas, if u were there with them then imagine they would hv been worried for themselves, others and YOU, so at least ur evacuation lessened their tension. Dear sis, u have not harmed a single soul, so plz dont let guilt eat u away. U havent betrayed, who have u harmed? No one sis. So how have u betrayed? And sis, it is Allaah that chose for ubto be evacuated, so the thought of they desereved it more, just ignore this, Allaah knows better what is right and best for us, if He made u safe, then just accept and be thankful sis and make dua for others. U need to stay strong, stress wont do any benefit, I know its natural to be stressed in such situations, but try to take of urself as much as u can, dont ponder over things that hurt and stress, because that does no benefit. Get urself more and more closer to Allaah, get involved in islamic activities, so that ur mind is refreshed and on track, in sha Allaah. Remember sis, u can only take care of others if u first take care of urself, so u must not let feelings overwhelm u greatly, I know its hard sis, but try to avoid stressing urself as much as possible, exercise - let those endorphines out, and eat fresh fruits etc, keep urself energised sis and basically what I mean is ... focus on the purpose of life more than the stress in life... We can do nothing, it is Allaah who can help, all we can do is try, so try to help but if u cant help as much as u want, then dont be feeling guilty over it sis, we are only humans. Dont waste ur time and energy in feelin guilty, this worldy life will end, we must work for the akhirah sis. We hv to be strong.
Is it even ur responsibility to work? In islam its the husbands duty to financially provide for family, not the woman. I dont know if in ur case the matter is different, Allaah knows best, im not a scholer, so I dont know whether the family asking u to start pay work is right or not in the situation that u and ur family are in. Plz ask on islamqa.com , islamweb.com website. Either way, u know u are trying ur best to get a job, its not ur fault that u havent got one so far, all we can do is try and the rest is upto Allaah, and Allaah knows what is best for us, so we must just remain patient and be grateful for whatever Allaah gives us or even takes away from us. I hope ur family will soon understand this, but anyway sis, be nice with family and dont let their pressure burden u, just remember that Allaah knows and He understands u. We should all love Allaah and our love for people should also be for the sake of Allaah, our aim should be to please Allaah, and if others dont get pleased despite u being as nice as possible, dont worry, as long as Allaah is pleased then thats enough sis. By the way sis, if its not obligatory on u to work, then u dont even need to burden urself with that, and if u do want to work, I hope ur family will soon see ur efforts.
Its a tough time for u, and ur brothers and sisters are here for u, talk to us when u need to. Also sis, u can have a one to one chat with an advisor on this site perhaps, in sha Allaah ... Islamreligion.com, its for reverts.
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