I want to re-unite with my husband for my daughter’s sake.
Assalamaleikum,
I am a divorced Muslim woman. I got married in 2005. After my marriage things turned up really bad. My in laws especially the father and mother of my husband tried to control my life not my husband; mother in law treated me mere like a servant who was not allowed to meet her family too. She would abuse me all the time and ill treated me but all the men in the house would say, ignore the things nothing can change. I said all the things to my husband and asked him if he can move out of the house to have a better life as we were happy with each other, but due to his parents pressure he didn't. His family does not want him to leave the house; I got divorced a year ago but according to the conditions I got only one Talaaq from him. I also have a 1 yrs old daughter from him. I am thinking to reunite with my ex-husband by doing a nikaah again. I want my daughter to be brought up in a normal family and her father is a good man.
My question to you is if you can tell me any dua or wazeefa which I can read to have him back with both the family approval and he comes and live with me forever" on Allah's (SWT) will.
I am very much stressed at the moment; don't know what to do kindly help me with the matter and reply me please.
Allah hafiz
S.S.S
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Salaams,
If you divorced your husband and your iddat has passed (and since this was a year ago it has certainly passed), you cannot remarry him if you have not married and divorced someone else first. It doesn't matter if he only gave you one talaq at the time, he only has those months during the iddat to take you back. If he doesn't do it in that timeframe and the iddat ends, at that point he is haraam to you for remarriage going forward.
I suggest that you try to work on ways to raise your child together with him cooperatively as divorced parents. There are ways to have an amicable relationship that benefits your daughter while still living separate lives. Talk to him about what he hopes for her as a father, and share your hopes for her as a mother. Talk about what types of discipline you think will be best for her when she needs it. Put together a visitation schedule so that she will be able to spend a sufficient amount of time with him and his family. As long as you both always have your daughter's best interests at heart, you should be able to interact in positive ways that keep the main focus on her.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Sister Amy,
Your reply contradicts with this answer. Please refer to this link.
http://daruliftabirmingham.co.uk/Divorce/Reconciling%20after%20one%20talaq.htm
http://www.askimam.org/fatwa/fatwa.php?askid=87eab9a06860adc37ad1bc0385d04d6e
JazakAllah,
Wallahu A'kam
"If you divorced your husband and your iddat has passed (and since this was a year ago it has certainly passed), you cannot remarry him if you have not married and divorced someone else first."
Amy, this is not quite correct. What you have said is only true if the couple has been divorced three times. The third divorce is irrevocable.
So a couple can divorce and complete the 'iddah, then remarry, then divorce again with completion of the 'iddah, then remarry. However, the third declaration of divorce is irrevocable.
You can see some of the articles here:
http://www.zawaj.com/articles.html#divorce
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salaams,
May Allah forgive my mistake and prevent it from misguiding others or causing problems for others. Thank you brothers for showing the correct understanding.
In light of this, I would say if you do remarry to take care and work out any issues that were going on in your previous marriage which may have worked toward your first divorce. Just because time has passed doesn't mean the dynamics automatically changed, and what you don't want to do is find yourself in the exact same unhappy place you were in before.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I WANT TO SAY ALL THOSE HUSBANDS WHO HAVE A HUMBLE AND POLITE WIFE`S AND A GOOD LIFE PARTNER, THAT THEY SUPPORT HER WIFE AND LIVE PEACFULLY AND TREAT SAME WITH HIS MOTHER AND WIFE... THIS IS FEELINGS WHICH MAKE PROUD AND MAKING HUMBLE ALSO,,,, SO PLEASE BE GOOD TO YOUR WIFE`S THIS IS THE GIFT FROM ALLAH .... THAT SOME WIFE ARE CRUEL BUT THOSE HUMBLE MUSLIM WIFE`S WHOM WANTS TO MAKES THEIR HUSBAND HOUSE LIKE A HEAVEN AND WANT TO LIVES PEACFULLY WITH THEIR HUSBAND AND CARE FOR HER CHILDRENS MOTHER-IN-LAW, FATHER-IN-LAW THEIR HUSBAND SISTERS AND BROTHER.....
AND PRAY FOR THIER FAMILY AND BE ALSO GOOD TO HER OWN SISTER AND BROTHER ALONG WITH PARENTS
THANKS ********* PLEASE PRAY FOR ME THAT I GET A HUMBLE AND LOVING MUSLIM WIFE... I CAN TREAR MY MOTHER AND WIFE EQUALLY AND WANT TO PERFORM UMRAH WITH MY MOTHER AND WIFE...... THANKS AND REGARDS
AAMIR NAWAZ
SHABBIR TRAVEL AND TOURS
Assalam o alikum Sister S.S.S.,
"...if a husband divorces his wife (irrevocably), he cannot, after that re-marry her until after she has married another husband and he has divorced her. In that case there is no blame on either of them if they re-unite, provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allaah, which He makes plain to those who understand."
Surah Al-Baqarah 2:230
Sister, please take Sister Amy's advice.
After your husband divorced you, he had about 3 months iddat to take you back. After that time has passed you are no longer able to marry (unless you were to marry someone else and he would divorce you. But it couldnt be done for the wrong reasons.) As:
"It is He Who knows what is open in speech and what you hide (in your hearts)."
Surah Al-Anbiyaa 21:110
I truly believe it is important to try everything possible to salvage a marriage before resorting to divorce. This matter is serious and disliked but allowed by our Creator SubhanAllaah. As you see dear Sister, matters of divorce should not be taken lightly especially if the two of you loved each other sincerily.
Allaah knows best!
Khuda Hafiz
Sister Hafsah
Asalamu aleikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu
Sister Hafsa would you give us explanation of "irrevocably"?..please give futher explanation.
As long as I know brother Wael is correct.
Jazakallahu kheiran.
Wa alikum as-salaam,
I do apologize for giving misinformation. May Allaah (swt) forgive me for my mistake and jazakAllaah Brothers and Sisters for claryfying my error.
I was under impression that the poster was divorced for the third time (irrevocable) hence my advice was based on that assumption.
I sincerily apologize for my shortcomings and promise in the future to read questions and posts more carefully.
The advice given by others is very good and the Sister should follow it inshaAllaah.
"Those who avoid great sins and shameful deeds, only (falling into) small faults,- verily your Lord is ample in forgivness..."
Surah An-Najm 53:32
Allaah knows best!
Sister Hafsah
salamualaikum
read Surah Baqarah aayah 227 to 230 first, and the this: http://www.islamqa.com/en/ref/149592
The Ulama say that after the iddah, you can remarry with all the conditions such as the witness, Wali or Guardian, mahr, etc. This is because your divorce was first. But if it were thrice, then you wouldn't have had this as an option.
What has been spoken about something called as Halaalah is haraam in Islam (to marry someone on contract for days to make ex husband or wife lawful) as there is a Hadeeth in which Allah's Messenger has cursed the participants of such relation.
So, the solution according to the Ulama of Ahlus Sunnah wal Jamaa'ah in case of 1 Talaaq after iddah passes is remarriage (without having to marry someone else).
If it was 3 talaaqs the case would have been different.
Allah know best but I believe you should go ahead and remarry him if you intend to reunite.
Allah is the source of all Knowledge
wassalamualaikum
Muhammad Waseem
Muhammad Waseem......YOU SAID FROM ISLAM QA SEE THE VERSION OF NABISALAHAUALAIHIWASALALM-This is because your divorce was first. But if it were thrice, then you wouldn't have had this as an option.
http://www.quranenglish.com/tafheem_quran/065.htm
The intention of this verse is further explained by a few other Ahadith which have been reported from the Holy prophet (upon wham be Allah's peace) ai d some of the major Companions. Nasa'i has related that the Holy Prophet was infomed that a person had pronounced three divorces on his wife in ane sitting. He stood up in anger and said:'`Are the people playing with the Book of Allah, although I am present among you?" Seeing the Holy Prophet's extreme anger on this occasion, a person asked: `Should I not go and kill the man?"