жениться на христианке (She wants to convert, can I marry her?)
A Masjid and a Church in Beirut
Я мусульманин,хочу жениться на христианке но она тоже хочет принять ислам.Мои родители против. Могу ли я на ней жениться?
(Editor's note: I ran this through Google translator and this is what I got:)
"I am a Muslim, I want to marry a Christian woman but she also wants to take Islam. My parents are against. Can I marry her?")
- Zaurbek
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Wants to marry Christian woman
Excerpt from response by Shaykh Muhammad S.Munajjid
"However, we do not advise you to marry a non-Muslim woman, nor do we advise you to marry just any Muslim woman. For married life is not based only on beauty and attraction, rather the wise Muslim must look with insight at what is beyond that, because he needs to be sure that his house will be looked after in his absence, and he needs to bring up his children, and he will not be able to find that or other things which every wise husband seeks, except with a religious Muslim woman. This is the advice of our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). "
"It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A woman may be married for four reasons: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religious commitment. Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust [i.e., may you prosper].”
(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4802; Muslim, 1466).
"Al-Nawawi said:
The correct meaning of this hadeeth is that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was describing what people usually do, for they seek these four characteristics, the last of which in their view is religious commitment, but you, the one who is seeking guidance, should look for a wife who is religious. But this is not an absolute command. "
Do her parents know/agree? Read below
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He wants to marry a Christian woman
I want to marry a Christian woman from the Philippines who works in a Muslim country. Do I have to inform her family?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Yes, you have to tell her family; in fact the marriage is not valid unless the marriage contract is done by her guardian or his deputy acting on his behalf. If her relatives refuse to let her get married, then guardianship passes to the Muslim judge who may do the marriage contact for her.
The Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas was asked: A Kitaabi (Jewish or Christian) woman wants to marry a Muslim. When her father, who is also a kitaabi, realized that his daughter might become Muslim after her marriage to a Muslim boy, he refused to be her guardian for marriage, and he refused to let her marry him. Please note that she has not entered Islam yet. Who should be her guardian in this case?
They replied: The kitaabi woman should be given in marriage by her father. If she has no father or he refuses to do the marriage contract, then it should be done by the closest male relative on her father’s side. If there are no such relatives, or they refuse to do it, then her marriage contract should be done by the Muslim qaadi (judge). If there is no qaadi, then the head of the Islamic Centre in her area should do it, because the basic principle with regard to guardianship of women is that it should be the father, then the closest male relative on the father’s side, then the next closest. If there are no such relatives, or they are not qualified to be her guardians for any reason, or they refuse unlawfully, then guardianship passes to the ruler or his deputy. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “The believers, men and women, are Awliyaa’ (helpers, supporters, friends, protectors) of one another” [al-Tawbah 9:71]. It was narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wanted to marry Umm Habeebah bint Abi Sufyaan who was Muslim, but Abu Sufyaan (her father) had not become Muslim, so the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) appointed ‘Amr ibn Umayyah al-Damari to act as his representative in the marriage contract, and her cousin Khaalid ibn Sa’eed ibn al-‘Aas, who was Muslim, gave her to him in marriage.
If the closest relatives of a free woman refuse to marry her to a man who is compatible and suitable, then more distant relatives may give her in marriage. If there are no such relatives, then the ruler should do it, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The sultan is the wali (guardian) of one who has no wali.”
And Allaah is the Source of strength. May Allaah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions. End quote.
Standing Committee for Academic Research and Issuing Fatwas
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah (18/162).
We ask Allaah to help you to do all that is good.
And Allaah knows best.
Zaurbek, I noticed that you submitted your question twice, once here and the other one here:
Can I marry against the will of the parents?
Both have been answered, so I have closed both posts to further comments.
Readers, do not submit your question twice! We will get to your question in turn. Submitting it two or three or four times only creates extra work for us and slows us down.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor