The rights of an unmarried female Muslimah
what are my rights?
Salaam,
I'm a 27 year old, practising and unmarried Muslimah. I have never dated or spoken freely with brothers and have always hoped my parents would find a suitable match for me in regards to marriage. But they're very lax about this and aren't active in seeking anyone. I'm very shy and don't speak to brothers in that manner so the thought of finding someone myself via love marriage is pretty difficult.
It's pretty clear to me my parents won't look for someone as they think I'm young and shouldn't be in a rush. They also give me limited freedom in things like gaining Islamic knowledge or attending the mosque for example. Because of my age and situation, I feel that I shouldn't be treated as a child with limited freedom.
All things considered, what are the rights of an unmarried, baligh female in Islam...and would it be permissable for me to seek someone for marriage via a hala route (through an Imam/ respected community elder?).
Jazak Allah khair,
- Meccah
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I would advise you to stop being shy and look for a husband. My parents were also lax while I was younger. It became harder as I grew older because the pool of brothers gets much smaller and people will discriminate against you because of your age. I would recommend to get over your shyness and post a site on a matrimonial site and ask an imam and your married friends. Do both of these things and let your parents know about the internet posting. Get them involved and talk to them while the proposals come. Don't sit and wait. Be proactive and ask Allah SWT for his help.
salam
i would advice the same as sarah has. iam 34, very independent,working women. iappear to be very confident to others and they think I know the best for myself.i have no restrictions to see any body or meet anybody, still iam very shy approaching someone with the intention of getting married. iam very shy about going on any marimonial websites.but i have started to think about it very seriuosly . my family seem to be not much bothered about it, even if they are they are,they are not doing anything about it and have left things on me and fate.remember the famos dialogue we say when we dont want to strive for some thing 'qismat mein ho ga tu ho jai gi' if its in fate in will happen.i advise you should speak to a friend or cousin who could talk to your parents about looking for proposal for you as you may feel bit hesitant talking yourself. this way they will have the pressure from outside and they will think it is to be taken seriously.
Good luck my sister.
friend.
Let your parents listen to the following lecture:
http://www.halaltube.com/islam-and-dating
The lecture was given by Abdul Malik. The lecture is extremely funny and truthful at the same time.