I regret following my Istikhaarah
“And avoid using the word, “if,” for that opens the door for the acts of Satan.” (Reported by as Sunee)
Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wabarakatuh,
I have gotten istikhara done by my mom twice and both times she received dreams. I followed the outcome and both of the actions i took as a result of the istikhara were, i hate to say it but, the biggest regrets of my life so far.
Even though I was excited for both of them in the beginning and tried so hard to make them successful.
And due to these two actions that I took two years ago, I have huge problems in my life right now that are causing me depression. Today I was thinking about my problems and I realized that if I had taken alternative actions then I would not have 99% of the problems I do right now which include disease and unemployment.
I thought this may be a test to bring me closer to Allah SWT and it did for a while but then I just fell in to a state of hopelessness when it kept getting worse.
Even my parents are distraught by all these sudden terrible problems. Why do you think this happened with my istikharas?
JazakAllah.
~ yourstrulymaria
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Quran.43/36
And whoever is blinded from remembrance of the Most Merciful - We appoint for him a devil, and he is to him a companion.
Istikhaarah, What I feel ,should be done by a pious person. If we do not follow religious duties sincerely or if we have effect of black magic we may get misguided by Satan.
I read some where (cant remember where or who told) Istikhaarah reslts some times may not be benificial in this life but in Eternal life of aakhirah.
Dear sister There is no problem which Allah cant solve so beg Allah for mercy . THE MOST MERCIFUL ALLAH will surely shower his infinite mercy on .
Wa'alaykumsalam,
Firstly, it is very difficult to understand what are you talking about !! But a wild guess would be marriage problems.
Secondly, in the last part of your post, you said ' your istikharas ' but no where in your post you mentioned that you did istikhara but instead you said, you followed your 'mums istikhara ' which is totally wrong. Because istikhara has to be done by the person who is in a confused state or who is in need of guidance. Your mum's isthikhara won't help you ever.
You've got to do your own isthikhara.
Very less information you gave us and so its difficult to adivce.
Whatever it is, the damage has been done. We can't go back in time, so now concentrate on your future. Consider this as a test from Allah and know that Allah has promised to test everyone. Do have patience and pray regularly and Insha'Allah Allah will ease your problems. "After dificulties comes ease".
Do write to us of the problems you are facing so that we can advice you more insha'Allah.
Assalamualaikum Maria,
Istikhaarah, as brother Ali said above, has to be done by the person affected by the decision concerned.
Secondly, the problems you face are not a part of Istikhaarah but a test from Allah, perhaps. Do Istighfaar and ask Allah to Forgive your sins, and stop using the word "if". Because a Hadith says:
"And avoid using the word, “if,” for that opens
the door for the acts of Satan.” (Reported by
as Sunee)
And you never know. The alternatives you mentioned could be worser. It is as the saying goes that the grass on the other side always seems green.
Accept what Allah Has Destined and work towards improving it with trust in Allah and with knowledge, by strengthening your Tawheed and your Eemaan.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.ckm Editor
Assalaam mualaykum
Sister first of all someone els cannot perform isthakara for you and secondly you do not have visons or dreams through isthakarah, isthakarah is to seek help from Allah on making a decision on something and to ask Allah to put barakah in that decision. All I can advice you is to have patients and keep up your prayers and duas and inshallah everything will be fine.
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I have gotten istikhara done by my mom twice and both times she received dreams. I followed the outcome and both of the actions i took as a result of the istikhara were, i hate to say it but, the biggest regrets of my life so far.
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Istikhara Prayer For Marriage, Life Decisions and Divorce ETC
ENGLISH TRANSLATION:
“O Allah, I consult You as You are All-Knowing and I appeal to You to give me power as You are Omnipotent, I ask You for Your great favour, for You have power and I do not, and You know all of the hidden matters . O Allah ! If you know that this matter (then he should mention it) is good for me in my religion, my livelihood, and for my life in the Hereafter, (or he said: ‘for my present and future life,’) then make it (easy) for me. And if you know that this matter is not good for me in my religion, my livelihood and my life in the Hereafter, (or he said: ‘for my present and future life,’) then keep it away from me and take me away from it and choose what is good for me wherever it is and please me with it.”
ENGLISH TRANSLITERATION:
‘Allahumma inni astakhiruka bi’ilmika, Wa astaqdiruka bi-qudratika, Wa asaluka min fadlika al-’azim Fa-innaka taqdiru Wala aqdiru, Wa ta’lamu Wala a’lamu, Wa anta ‘allamu l-ghuyub. Allahumma, in kunta ta’lam anna *hadha-l-amra (this matter) Khairun li fi dini wa ma’ashi wa’aqibati amri (or ‘ajili amri wa’ajilihi) Faqdirhu li wa yas-sirhu li thumma barik li Fihi, Wa in kunta ta’lamu anna*hadha-lamra (this matter) shar-run li fi dini wa ma’ashi wa’aqibati amri (orfi’ajili amri wa ajilihi) Fasrifhu anni was-rifni anhu. Waqdir li alkhaira haithu kana Thumma ardini bihi
*hadha-lamra (This matter) – you need to replace this word with what you are asking Allah for help and guidance about e.g marriage, job, leaving home...
Assalamu alykum sister you have to perform istikhara by yourself, no one else can perform it for you.
Asalamualaikum. I need to ask a similar question. I did istekhara myself for a person I felt to be potential marriage partner. Soon after he suddenly walked out of my life on a very bitter note. I badly miss him and feel remorse for losing him. How can I put my heart to rest? Should I do istekhara again?
It seems to me your istikhara has been answered, and Allah has kept you away from something that may have been bad for you. So say Alhamdulillah and do your bgest to forget about that guy.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
100% agreed. Allah SWT listened to your dua and took this man out of your life. Someday you will realize that this was to your benefit, not your detriment. Eventually, you will stop missing him.
Some people seem to think some du'as or Isthikhara (or wazeefas--which are innovation) are ways of controlling one's destiny by compelling Allah swt to do what we want--this, I am afraid, is not true by any means. We make du'a and then we leave it to Allah swt and accept it as we accept His Wisdom over our own wisdom. We don't control the future--we only control our own actions.